Although some women are simple and don't pay attention to material conditions, love is enough. However, some women are very scheming. They will not expose their purpose prematurely, but make full use of their capital to get what they want.
Everyone knows this truth, but some women expose their desires too early, making men feel ugly and come for material things. Once a man is classified as a gold digger, this relationship is hard to last.
My classmate Ji Jun works as an accountant in a company, and once met fellow countryman Stefanie at a party in the same city. They had a good chat. In order to express their love, he sent flowers and gifts, and Yanzi accepted them gladly, which was better for him.
When they confirmed their love relationship, Yanzi changed, saying that she would buy a house in Shenzhen and then get married. He said that he didn't have enough money to buy a house in his hometown's capital, but Yanzi refused, so he gave him a cold war for a few days. He sent a message, but she didn't reply.
On second thought, he decided to break up with her, saying that he couldn't afford to support a woman who was too ambitious. Even if he satisfies her desire now, he can't satisfy her new desire in the future. It is better to break up early and get rid of each other.
After breaking up, Yanzi said that she was not a man and didn't love her at all, so she didn't want to buy a house in Shenzhen.
Ji Jun was very angry, saying that he didn't have that much money, and if he couldn't talk it over, he would break up.
Yanzi said to him, why don't you sell your tea garden? Selling it is enough to buy a house in Shenzhen. He realized that she was staring at his parents' tea garden. His parents earned more than 20,000 yuan a year from this tea garden to meet their living expenses. He can't talk and doesn't want to talk.
After figuring out the problem, his wavering heart stopped wandering, and he was glad that he had found her purpose so early to avoid being hurt in the future.
In reality, there are many women like Stefanie. They want to marry rich people, but their strength can't support their ambitions. Finally, they set themselves on fire and scared away the men.
In fact, after determining the relationship, women take the initiative to ask for these "things", which will scare men away.
"asking for money"
Some women think that men can't run away after they are in a relationship, and try their best to make men spend more money for themselves and ask men for money in different ways.
I once saw a girl say that she was insecure. After determining the relationship, she thought that if she mastered the man's money, she would master the man's "soft rib." If the man has no money, he can't have half-hearted capital.
I really want to say that such a woman is too simple. In communication, men are more realistic than women. He is willing to give you money because of love. If you ask him for money in different ways for a long time, he will think that you care more about his money than he does.
Besides, if you want to control a man's money, you have to let him. If he doesn't want to, he will be cheated by you a few times at most. If he has more times, he will definitely know the routine of women.
Of course, if you just want money under the guise of love, that's another matter. However, if you really love someone and the other person loves you, he won't let you take the initiative, but will give you everything he has.
"worthy of the name"
Some women want to marry their beloved as soon as possible after a period of love, and always change their ways to imply that men want to get married.
Tian Yu has been with her boyfriend for three months. She is very satisfied with her boyfriend and often asks him to take her to friends' parties. When introducing her, her boyfriend always says, this is my female colleague.
Her face is very bad, thinking that he does not disclose their relationship, he must not really love her, but she really loves him and wants to get married.
In order to achieve this goal, she decided to get pregnant first and then be forced to get married.
Finally, as she wished, she was really pregnant, and her boyfriend married her, but she was not happy after marriage. Her boyfriend is too enterprising. With the promotion of her position, she often travels all over the country and rarely stays at home. She was not happy at all and regretted her original decision, but it was too late.
Before a man is ready to get married, a woman's initiative to ask for fame will scare him, and some men will scare away and disappear as quickly as possible. The man who really loves you will take the initiative to marry you even if he doesn't let you have it.
"Want a house"
After determining the relationship, women will look forward to getting married, and some women will ask men what they think and see what their plans are for the future. Some women take the initiative to ask for material conditions for marriage.
One of the biggest headaches for men is that women want a marriage room, and they are unwilling to get married without a marriage room, or they are unwilling to continue to fall in love.
Colleague Ji Jun met a woman who wanted a house, and she was in a first-tier city in Shenzhen. She pinned her dreams on him. He is from Guangxi, and it costs a lot of money to buy a set in the provincial capital. I don't understand why she doesn't want it, but she must go to Shenzhen.
He saw from this incident that his girlfriend didn't really love him, so he offered to break up.
Now that the house price is so high, if two people really love each other, the marriage room will be negotiated and measured, and the feelings will be deeper. But many feelings have been left in the house, full of calculations, only concerned about their own desires, but do not want to pay for each other's needs. There is no such thing in the world.
After determining the relationship, if a woman approaches a man with a purpose, it is easy for him to find out that she regards herself as an ATM, then he will choose to run away.
Any relationship is mutual. If you really love each other, be honest with each other and don't play tricks. After all, nobody is stupid.
Love is taken for granted. People who really love you will not let you have it, but will also take the initiative to pay.
Therefore, only by being yourself and supporting your ambition with your own strength can you take happiness into your own hands.