I found my father was old, and I took him back to my hometown when he was another year old. Because the child is young and far from home, he didn't go home for a year. When I entered the door, I found that my father had shaved his head, his eyes were particularly large and his bags under his eyes were particularly heavy. I was so sad that I almost cried. I haven't seen him for a year. How did he become a shriveled old man?
Yes, every detail reminds us that they are getting old. However, after all, these are just appearances, which really make me realize that they are getting old, but recently I find it more and more difficult to communicate with them.
I can't be filial to my parents because I have been married for a long time. More often, I found out how time destroyed each of us like a pig knife when I got along with my mother-in-law.
The most obvious experience recently is that she often can't understand what I'm saying, especially when there is a lot of information, and she can't grasp the key points at all.
For example, my mother-in-law wants to buy a new mobile phone recently. She has two cards, China Telecom and China Unicom, so it involves buying Unicom mobile phone or telecom mobile phone. If you buy a telecom mobile phone, this number may be stopped with the expiration of the network package. To buy Unicom mobile phone, her mobile phone card has to be upgraded from 2G to 3G, and she has to change the package. Her current package is very favorable, and she is a little reluctant. So I suggested that she buy a pad. She found it inconvenient to take out the PAD, and finally planned to buy a mobile phone.
The new mobile phone arrived, and Lao Qin taught her how to use it. When I told her that the mobile phone can be used without a card, it was actually equivalent to a smaller PAD. My mother-in-law was surprised and said, "Why didn't you tell me yesterday?"
Gee, I clearly told her, and I said it more than once. She bought her a mobile phone because she said the PAD was too big to wear.
Later, I analyzed that there was too much information that day, and it was all related to electronic products, which made her understand, so it caused the misunderstanding of "I didn't tell her".
For them, the smart phone we are used to is a bit as difficult as advanced mathematics in the eyes of ordinary people. Many things that we think are particularly simple are actually not, such as paying attention to the official WeChat account, deleting chat records, sending business cards to friends, and scanning QR codes to make them friends.
Don't think that the daily life you touch every day will be suddenly broken for them. For them, your daily life may be another world that is difficult to enter and understand. Sometimes you really need to break them, crush them and tell them many times like children.
Besides, I also found that they were not only difficult to communicate, but also very opinionated.
This is especially obvious to my dad. According to my sister, since my dad joined the vegetable group in the supermarket, our vegetables have been flooded.
As a front-line employee of the vegetable group, my dad always found out which vegetables were on sale at the first time, so he bought a lot of discounted vegetables to go home. Of course, he couldn't finish eating them, so when they were broken, he had to throw them away. My sister has communicated with him many times, and buying a lot of things is very cheap. It's actually more wasteful to throw it away after eating.
Basically nothing!
My dad retorted unconvinced, why don't you eat? Don't you have to throw it away after eating it?
The problem is that everyone has only one stomach. The problem is that he only eats three meals a day. He did buy too much.
Communication is ineffective, my dad continues to buy discounted food, and continues to throw it away if it is broken.
In addition, the headache is that they also like to listen to gossip, and the words of liars are better than those of our children.
Sometimes you are obviously doing them good, or even protecting them, but they may think that you are interfering with their freedom and treating them as fools. This is really sad.
Take my mother-in-law for example. She wants to take part in a free physical examination organized by a health care product company. There is a health care company upstairs in our unit. Every day, with a little kindness, the old man and grandmother are invited to come over, and the ultimate goal is just to sell medicine.
I advised my mother-in-law not to take advantage of petty gains, and she replied, "I know, I won't buy it." He also said that he had made an appointment with his friends. Everyone just went to play and would never be cheated.
It's no use talking, but you have done your duty. Love it.
However, as a result, the three old ladies they went with spent 2000 yuan to buy "particularly good, particularly environmentally friendly and organic" probiotics from health care products companies.
Alas, I can't play anywhere. I can play ball in a health care company. Isn't that looking for being cheated? Did you call those sweet "uncles" and "aunts" of the little girls and boys in the health care company for nothing?
In fact, all this is just because they are old or getting old, so they become the main target of swindlers, become a member of the greedy army, and even become the main consumer of pharmacies.
Sometimes, you have to prove it to them with facts, and they will be convinced. In other words, you have to watch them shoot themselves in the foot, and you have to endure heartache. Only when you break your foot will they know whether they have been cheated or not.
Don't worry, don't be too big. Think about how they educated and protected us when we were young. It's time to reverse this role. It's a pity that what we are doing now is far from what they did before.
Xia asked about filial piety, and Zi said that color is difficult. Hard color is the hardest thing to give a good face. Explain it with the golden sentences of chicken soup masters. Filial piety means talking well.
Unfortunately, many times, we failed to do this. We are always in a hurry, always yelling, always frustrated, and secretly calling them "senile".
I find it difficult to communicate with them. Is it possible that we are impatient? Or, too little communication?
Two days ago, a friend read my "Hi, Xue, Happy Tomb-Sweeping Day" and told me that as long as my dad is still alive, I would like to be cheated in a health care product company every day. I want to go home and call my father now. Someone should answer me. I was really impatient with him before.
But even if they are wrong, even if they have a lot of unreliable health knowledge, even if they are always fooled, what does it matter? As long as they are here and healthy, everything else really matters.
Everyone will get old one day and regret it one day.