Half a year is leisure and half a year is work.
Half country, half house, half mountain, half water and countryside,
Half-farming, half-reading, half-scholar, half-human marriage,
Semi-elegant, semi-rough, semi-Chinese and semi-real.
Clothes are half plain and half fresh, vegetables are half rich and half frugal.
A child servant is half capable and half clumsy, and his wife and children are half simple and half virtuous.
The state of mind is half Buddha and half fairy, and the surname is half Shimada Hanzo.
Half the world is returned, and half the world is made.
Half thinking about future generations and Cang Tian, half thinking about what Yamaraja thinks?
Half drunk, bloom half embarrassed.
The sail is half fan, and the horse is half rein.
Half a little but spare the taste, half a lot of anti-entanglement.
A hundred years of bitterness and happiness are half-related, and only half of them are cheap.
-Qing Dynasty scholar Li Mian's "Half Song"
For hundreds of years, people have different comments on this song "Half Song": some people say that it is moderate and isolated from the world, while others say that it embodies an open-minded philosophical realm. Undeniably, it is worth appreciating and interesting, and it is a good way to keep fit. This state of eating half full and drinking a little drunk is a semi-socialist state. Many times, we need to leave a gap in our lives. Where there is space, there is room for manoeuvre afterwards. Just like the safe distance between two cars-a little buffer space, you can adjust yourself at any time and advance and retreat freely.
When a painter paints a picture, he must count the blanks in the picture clearly, which is a good picture; When printing books, you can't print all of them, so leave room. When making clothes, leave a small piece of cloth of the same color in case the clothes are worn out and can be mended; A noble family always cooks one or two bowls for three meals, always ready to welcome uninvited guests. The way to be a man can't be full, you can't do everything yourself, and you can't make all your money.
The truth is important, but if it goes too far, it will easily hurt others' self-esteem. Everyone has the psychology of hoping to gain the trust and appreciation of others. If you repeat too much, it's easy for the other person to think that you underestimate the other person's ability. So I got impatient, resented, and began to "oppose you." Those with weak personalities also came to a "non-violent and non-cooperative" movement and passively resisted. As the saying goes, talking too much is too absolute, easy to make mistakes, lower one's position in others' minds and destroy harmonious friendship.
Say it fair and square, say it properly, and accept it when it is good, even if it is ok. However, I feel the harmonious heartbeat of the sacred unicorn. As long as he can remind the other party and let the other party's intelligence play out, the most important thing is that the other party will feel respected and confident. Moreover, most people have the ability to draw inferences from others, so it would be better if the speaker can play a role in attracting jade.
Don't be too clear and "perfect" when criticizing friends, but leave half a sentence. When it is not conducive to a friend to accept the truth, you tell him the truth, but you deliberately embarrass him. At this time, the best way is to beat about the bush, or leave half and half. It is enough for the other party to understand, and there is no need to speak clearly for others to hear.
When we want to know the truth of the matter, we should grasp the "degree" of speaking and play the role of "throwing stones to ask for directions". "Guiguzi Reaction" expounds the detailed method of "fishing" human language: "Seeking action by invisibility, fishing for words combined with things, people are real. If you set a net and take the beast away, you can take care of it. If the Tao is in line with its industry, it will come out, and this net will catch people. " That is to say, it is easier to lure the other party to tell the truth by saying only a part of the words, using implicit and vague semantics and not making the words clear, that is, catching others' words.
When dealing with things, we should leave room for "correction". When making a plan, we should be realistic and not too idealistic.
Leave space between trees to make them grow bigger. Leave some room for others, because "the mountain is not turning, the water is turning, and you can't see it when you look up." When others make mistakes, they have to be lenient and enough is enough. Even if there are thousands of people who are not, they should not be killed; Share a piece of cake, leave some time and space for others, and you will always be rewarded by others. This is just like the building coverage rate in the building law, which only allows you to cover 40% or 60%, that is, you have to leave some space for sunshine, air and gardens, so as to improve the quality of life.
Modern people should always keep "semi-ism" flexibility. Only by lighting others up, saving energy for yourself, keeping the openness of life and leaving broad space for others can we get more novel and rich results. Leave room for everything, be in an invincible position, and find a new balance between moderation and perfection.
-Quoted from Yanbian People's Publishing House, a high-profile director and a low-key person.