Should I take care of my grandchildren with pay?
Sister Xin, who works as a waiter in a restaurant, said that it is difficult to accept "paid care for grandchildren". Her youngest son is only two and a half years old. When she asked her mother-in-law to take care of the area, her mother-in-law asked for a monthly "child care fee" in 800 yuan. Sister Xin feels very angry "It is natural for grandma to take care of her children, and she has retired and has nothing else to do. Why can't she help with the children? " Since then, Xin Jie and her mother-in-law have been "old and dead." A Jun, a post-80s mother, said that it has been a tradition for thousands of years for parents to help their children. "Everyone is a family. If you bring your grandson for money, it will hurt your feelings. " Unlike Liu Jie or Xin Jie, many children said that it is understandable to give money to their parents. "I don't care if I take the children. Sometimes I have to pay back for this and that." Hui Ge, who is in his 30 s, said. "As long as the required amount is within the scope of your own payment, just give it." A Ting, who just got married, also said that it is right to give money to parents, even if parents don't talk, they should take the initiative. But if her parents ask, she will feel a little uncomfortable. I interviewed many mothers-in-law who are helping their children with their children, and they all expressed disapproval of giving money to their grandchildren. Li's first reaction was: "Silly!" She said that she never thought about asking her children to "bring their grandchildren's expenses." Another mother-in-law, Xu, also said that it is right to take care of the children, and there is nothing to do after retirement. Taking care of children can kill time, and she has never thought about the labor cost of finding children.
Is there a definition of paid care for grandchildren in relevant laws? Old people help to raise grandchildren, and if they want to have a good family relationship, they can't take money as a trading condition for raising grandchildren and turn family ties into naked money relationships. And from a reasonable point of view, parents should give money to their parents with or without children. If it must rise to the legal point of view, parents only have the obligation to raise their children, but not to take care of their grandchildren. However, this is a tradition in China, and it is also a moral issue.