With clear and positive goals, bad mentality will gradually offset. The fundamental reason why people are different from other animals is that they have goals. People are no different from animals when they lose their goals in life. However, in reality, many people have no clear goals in life. I have no subjective goal, follow the crowd, beat around the bush, waste time and make no achievements. There is an interesting phenomenon that only professionals know, that is: when are taxis most prone to accidents? The answer is: when there are no passengers. There is a simple reason. When there are no passengers, his direction is blind. When he turns left and right at the crossroads, he hesitates, which is of course prone to accidents. This is the danger of losing your goal. Clear goals will inevitably produce firm beliefs and firm strength. This is true all my life, and so is the specific work.
People who set goals may not be able to achieve them, but those who have no goals will certainly not be able to achieve them. As the saying goes: 99.99% of soldiers who want to be marshals can't be marshals, and 100% of soldiers who don't want to be marshals can't be marshals. The energy excited by different targets is very different.
Use suggestive incentives:
Psychologists say that effective and positive suggestion can improve the understanding of self-worth and build full self-confidence. There are three commonly used methods: ① Self-verbal suggestion. Such as swearing-in meeting, oath, motto and so on. ② Suggestions on role hypothesis. For example, suppose you are a successful person and a person with a special mission. 3 Dream-like hints. In other words, you can form a concrete and clear picture in your mind, or you can cut and paste a real picture on the wall and watch it constantly, thus prompting your action.
(3) Try to challenge yourself:
The more you are afraid of something, the more you try to do it, you will definitely change yourself. For example, if you are afraid of heights, you will climb; You are ashamed to speak. You forced yourself to speak at the meeting and sit in a conspicuous place. You are timid, you force yourself to bungee jump; You have a glib tongue, so you have to argue with it
(4) Be tolerant and patient with others:
A hundred rivers are full of tolerance. Tolerance is a kind of wisdom and virtue, and it is also a magic weapon for many successful people. Lincoln said: Turning an enemy into a friend not only destroys an enemy, but also gains a friend. Patience is not only the way to treat others, but also the way to do things. Patience is a kind of vision and measurement, a kind of cultivation and strategy, and even more a kind of wisdom. Patience in small things is for success in big things. The ancients said, "If you can't bear it, you will make great plans." Therefore, how big your mind is, how big your career is.
(5) Sincerely offer love:
Love is the best expression of a positive attitude. Emerson said: One of the best compensations for mankind is that after people sincerely help others, they also help themselves. I am for everyone, and I am for everyone. This is the golden rule of interpersonal relationships. A person who doesn't know how to care about others will naturally not be cared about by others. He can't enjoy the happiness on earth, and he lives in hell all day. Give love, but also accept the love of others happily. A person who is afraid of disturbing others is often a negative person who will not give love.
(6) perseverance in doing things:
Churchill was invited to give a speech at Oxford University 1948. He summed up the secret of his success in only three sentences: first, never give up; The second is never, never give up; The third is never, never, never give up. With 100 as the goal, the first ten miles are bustling and jostling with each other. 50 miles away, Mandy is sparse, and her voice is sparse. The more people there are, the less. Therefore, philosophers say: there are no losers in the world, only those who give up halfway and those who die in battle.
(7) Taste and enjoy life:
You can do something happily or painfully. If you can't choose not to do it, you should choose to do it happily. As long as you choose to be happy and treat things with taste and enjoyment, any pain can be tolerated. For example, if you take a bus and feel bored, if you sit with a state of mind of enjoyment, you will feel much more relaxed; The food tastes terrible. You put it in your mouth and savor it. Suppose it is delicious on earth, you will find it tasteless. Let's look at it this way: the true nature of life is that nine times out of ten things will go wrong, and we should "always think about one or two things, not eight or nine."
(eight) to create interpersonal networks:
Anyone's success depends on the help of others, no matter how good you are. Whoever has a large interpersonal network will have more ways to live, more happiness and greater achievements. According to research, 85% of people's happiness is determined by interpersonal relationships. In the era of knowledge explosion and frequent replacement, in addition to professional ability (the most basic ability), you must also have communicative ability.
How to Cultivate a Positive Sunshine Mentality Part II Positive Mentality, Sunshine Mentality and Young Mentality
An optimistic person may not be successful, but a successful person must be accompanied by a positive and optimistic attitude. Victor and Frank, survivors of Nazi concentration camps, said: "Under certain circumstances, people still have a final freedom, and that is to choose their own mentality."
Being in the desert, thirsty, facing the last half glass of water, how do you feel? Are you sad that there is only half a glass of water left, or are you happy that there is only half a glass of water left? Faced with such a simple and straightforward choice, I believe most people will choose the latter. However, when the problem becomes a little more complicated in life, we don't know the direction. In fact, the choice itself is not important, what is important is the mentality that drives us to make choices. Therefore, if you want to make your life happier and more successful, and less disappointed and sad, you must learn to face life with a positive and optimistic attitude.
In this world, everyone wants to succeed, but not everyone can make their dreams come true. The reason is mentality. The ability gap between people is not terrible, because diligence can make up. Therefore, what is really terrible is the gap in mentality. If a person can have a positive attitude, face life optimistically and bravely accept challenges and setbacks, then he is not far from success.
When we encourage a frustrated person, we will tell him that everything can be done all over again. In fact, it is equally important for successful people to start all over again. Because, a person who knows how to return to zero when he is proud, his life will not really return to zero, and those who are happy when he is proud are doomed to return to the starting point. If failure is the mother of success, then returning to zero when success is the prelude to the next success. For the wise, success only represents the past, and the hope of the future is more worth looking forward to. On the contrary, if you indulge in the memories of success and are complacent about past achievements, you can only achieve temporary success, not final success.
We are the same planet, one is holding the previous one, and the other is thinking about how to make the next goal more exciting. What makes them so different, the answer is simple-mentality, the mentality of returning to zero when facing success. If you don't want to be a fleeting meteor, you must learn to return to zero when you are proud, and start to accept new challenges and meet new victories again. Everyone has his own strengths and advantages and successful experiences, just like water in a glass. When we accept new jobs and challenges, success depends on whether we can empty our glasses and start from scratch.
No matter how brilliant a person is, it is also a temporary aura. As long as we forget the past and return our achievements to zero, we can forge new glories. As long as a person gets rid of the shackles of past achievements, forgets past achievements and faces the present indifferently, he will keep forging ahead in the future power and gain more knowledge and wealth. If you put down yesterday's achievements, you won't let yourself swell; Let go of yesterday's failure and you won't blame yourself; Let go of yesterday's desire and you won't oppress yourself; Yesterday, when hunger and hostility were put down, there would be no more resentment to torment yourself ..... Without so much inflation, self-blame, oppression and torture, you would get more happiness.
If past experience and knowledge reserves fail to produce new knowledge growth points and cannot be combined with today's reality, it is a burden, or a burden. If you don't throw it away, there will be no new achievements. So, zero is the starting point. If you don't set everything to zero, you won't innovate and you won't be able to improve yourself in the new day. Only by learning to persist can we win the final victory. With a persistent heart, we can let go of the burden of the past and face the reality bravely. Stand up if you fall, start again if you fail, and win if you persist.
We are always easily carried away by success, so how can we calmly return to zero in the face of success? First, look at the past objectively and calmly and correctly understand the relationship between the past, the present and the future. Understand that past honors and setbacks have become the past. If you lie in the dark and stand still, you will not move forward, but will only move backwards. Secondly, we should return to zero and cherish the present. In fact, no matter now or in the past, as long as you believe that you work hard, you will gain something.
A person who loves life is bound to have a colorful life, and a colorful life is bound to have a sunny attitude. When you feel happy, the flowers you see will be gorgeous, and the grass you see will have more vitality. On the contrary, if you are in a bad mood, beautiful flowers and vibrant grass will lose their colors. A beautiful life is more glorious in the sun, and a happy life is more energetic in a happy state of mind. In life, everyone should face everything with a sunny attitude. The great philosopher Aristotle said, "The essence of life lies in the pursuit of happiness." If you want to have a happy life, you must have a positive and optimistic sunshine mentality.
Life can't be without setbacks and bumps. When faced with these tests that must be faced in life, if we just bow our heads and cry, then our hearts will be clouded. However, if we hold our heads high and face the pain with a smile, the light of hope will rise in our hearts. People who are full of happiness are always eager for the light. In fact, as long as we keep a sunny mind, warmth and light will always accompany you.
Learn to forget, understand and tolerate. Not forgiving is giving others a chance to continue hurting you. One has a dog named "put it down". Another man also has a dog named Happy. Always remind yourself to shape the sunshine mentality. When you feel too nervous, uneasy or scared, you should learn to relax yourself. Generally, you can take a deep breath, suggest yourself, or listen to some relaxing music to relax yourself.
A certain mood is related to a certain environment. When you are in a bad mood, you can relax by consciously changing the subject and sitting on something else to distract yourself. If you have something unpleasant, don't take it to heart, but tell your close friends and relatives or cry. This kind of venting can release inner bad emotions and is beneficial to body and mind. The value of money lies in its use, and the value of human life lies in being needed. Those who love others will always love others, and those who respect others will always respect others; Know how to care about friends, know how to rest assured and relax, know how to forget and get rid of; You can't do whatever you want, you can only do a little.
If we can't change things, we will change our attitude towards this matter. A person's injury in this matter is not because of what happened, as he thinks about it. The matter itself is not important, what matters is people's attitude towards it. When attitudes change, things will change. Enjoy the process and make every day wonderful. Life is a process, not a result. If you don't enjoy the process, everyone knows what the result is. Life is a bracket, the left bracket is life, and the right bracket is death. All we have to do is fill in the brackets, fill in bright and colorful things and a good mood. When the result comes, the brackets are over.
People who are not good at seeing things comprehensively will complain about bad luck when they encounter setbacks, while those who are good at seeing things comprehensively will think when they encounter setbacks; The failure of things, maybe he violated the law of things, maybe it is his own character shortcomings that caused .......... to become like this. He is not depressed, but learns from setbacks and failures, and is known as the mother of success. Cultivating a sunny attitude requires a positive and optimistic attitude, but many times it is still difficult for us to do so in the face of adversity.
When time passes quietly from our fingertips, years will leave traces on our skin. However, no matter how time changes, no one can leave any wrinkles in your heart as long as you are willing. In fact, as long as you keep a young heart, the rings of life will not rust. Now, we pay more and more attention to health care and hope to get a healthy body. In fact, if you want to be healthy, besides taking good care of your body, it is more important to keep a young heart. When we have a young mind, it is not only beneficial to our health, but also makes our life more energetic and happy.
Whether a person is young in life depends not only on his physical age, but also on his psychological age. Therefore, if you want to have more youthful vitality and less mature and inflexible people in your life, you might as well add a little "childlike interest" to your life to make your mind younger. In fact, at the right time, taking out a young heart can not only make life easier and more interesting, but also give yourself more motivation to move forward. To keep a young heart, always think of some happy things, be full of freshness and fun for life, be full of curiosity and thirst for knowledge for things around you, and make progress forever.
For example, after reading and writing, it is necessary to change other activities of different nature in time, so that the brain nerves can be relaxed, not excessively tired, and keep the best state. Make friends and accept the infection of youthful vitality, always keep a happy mood and get rid of the lonely living environment. When you feel depressed or upset, don't take things to heart, whether it's work or life. Talking with friends of the same age, talking about family members, or going to relatives' homes will naturally adjust your body and mind. To delay the aging of the body, we must first eliminate aging from the heart, that is, keep a young mind. To keep a young mind, we must first learn to forget, forget the past years and forget the useless unhappy things in the past. The second is to "get busy" and have a healthy hobby, because having a good hobby will make people have spiritual sustenance, thus maintaining a good mood.