Ni Kuang, one of Hong Kong's four gifted scholars, dabbled in martial arts, science fiction, essays and novels, and was surprisingly successful. There are three motives for his writing: one is to make a living; Second, interest; Third, there are no other skills. Ni Kuang is a prolific and diversified writer. He claimed to be "the person who wrote the most Chinese characters in the history of mankind" and never delayed or owed manuscripts. However, the manuscript fee and royalties are extremely high, and there are two major principles: please pay first; The goods will not be changed after delivery. For several months, he wrote a series of "Dragon Eight Branches" for Jin Yong, deliberately blinding A Zi. Later, Jin Yong told Ni Kuang that he wanted to delete a passage he had written. Ni Kuang only asked whether to stop being friends or keep the original.
Ni Kuang has many hobbies, such as raising fish, planting flowers, collecting seashells, carpentry, cooking, classical music, etc., all of which have turned from infatuation to madness. By extension, anything with many different styles likes to study, collect, read and read all kinds of strange books, but novels are the best. The concept of novel is: "There are only two kinds of novels-good-looking and bad-looking". When Ni Kuang was the fastest reader, he could read 200,000-word novels a day on average. This kind of concentration is really unattainable, and I can only sigh his curiosity and energy.
This essay "Letter in a Dream" is really pure and beautiful, as he said in his new preface: these words were written many years ago. Now, are they still interesting? It depends on people's mood. It's interesting in the heart, naturally interesting, boring in the heart and naturally boring. I especially like his article "Fate", which is short and pithy: love is love, and not love is not love. If you love each other, Qianshan is not a matter of separation.
"The person you love must be the best", yes, because you love, there is no reason and no conditions. It is just an eye in the crowd, blind despair, and the love left out by the bystanders. Only different perspectives and positions will have different tastes of love.
Love is not a calculation. My spine is cold after reading this article. Modern love is often the rhythm of riding a donkey to find a horse. Some people often have the conditions to fall in love with the opposite sex better than their current partners, and the reason for maintaining the status quo is that the time has not yet come. And when you have children, you are more likely to swallow them with the overall situation in mind. Is it great? Great! Or measure their own conditions, after careful consideration, clearly know that with their own conditions, it is impossible to find a better object than now, so the other party is the object of love. Careful emotional transactions have nothing to do with love, but many people choose to do it.
Only from the inner passion, without reservation, there is no doubt that the other party is the best, which is love. The most beautiful love, the best person, the truest heart, pure and unattainable, fate, fate has been divided.
"If you had the chance to do it all over again, would you do what you have already done?" If this is really difficult to choose. I wonder if I will try again. When life has a choice again, what kind of reaction will I make? Take the old road again, or find another way? If she is conscious now, she will probably choose a new path, and if everything goes back to herself at that moment, I believe she will still make the same choice as now, so why bother with the pain and frustration now. Life made the best choice at that moment-the so-called choice of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. Besides, who can guarantee that if you make another choice, the future result will be better than the good one? Perhaps, it is more painful than now.
How many people get married for love? It's really hard to tell the motive of getting married now, but do you really want to be together when love is strong? Or do you have to find a "grave" to shelter from the wind and rain because of various practical reasons? No one will tell others the real answer, no one knows, and they are confused themselves. Let's live like this anyway. Even if love dies one day, why cling to the reason? The result is: both sides are good and their lives are stable. Isn't it a happy lifestyle? Getting married because of love and losing love because of marriage is the biggest tragedy and the most common view in the relationship between men and women.
The answer is that people love some people and marry others. This is what Yi Shu always said. Yes, if all the lovers in this world were married, there would be not so much love, hate and hatred to see and divide, and there would be no throbbing and expectation in my heart. A love that Ma Pingchuan expects will also make people feel refreshed, and an almond will also want to spy on the wall. The triviality of marriage smoothes the edges and gentleness of love. In many literary works, only love is written, not marriage and children, which is generally the case.
Fate doesn't further explain that a man and a woman meet, attract each other, and then fall in love … Why did I meet him among all the people in the world? Not only did we meet, but we also secretly fell in love with each other. Originally, we were complete strangers, and such a stranger had nothing to do with me, but it happened that this person became so important and intertwined with his own destiny. And why are two lovers so close, after so many ups and downs, to be strangers again, what a pity and hatred? Fate, one in the South Pole and the other in the North Pole, will occasionally entangle each other; There is no fate, what should be separated. Okay, where's my first string? Where to meet thousands of miles away?
Comparison, the most unfair attitude. For two people, whether in love or marriage, the most unfair attitude is to compare their object with others, and through comparison, they think that their object is, for example, others. As a person being compared, he must be unfamiliar, get along with each other for a short time and be relatively unfamiliar, so it is difficult to find his shortcomings. You can stop being with your partner, you can change your emotional support, you can not satisfy your partner, you can end a relationship, but don't make meaningless comparisons. People are incomparable. The shortcomings in your eyes may be characteristics, and the advantages are only beneficial to yourself. Isn't the shortcoming the advantage in others' eyes?
Attraction, the first step is to attract by appearance. Whether you admit it or not, the first attraction must be the appearance. But whether this is good or not is only the subjective consciousness of others. A hundred people said she was ugly, and there must be another one who said she was good-looking. And we can only rely on universal aesthetic standards, such as cleanliness, courtesy and so on. But there is no need to belittle people's external beauty to deny that people have the same biological instinct.
Best, best together. Yes, it is best to be together. What nonsense wechat and phone calls are empty talk. I just want you to be around, smiling and accompanying each other. This is simple happiness and hope. Time is missing a second, never looking back, life is controlled by time, this second life has passed, there is no such second, and then there is a second missing. How many seconds have you missed in my life? What a pity! What a pity! How many seconds do I have to waste? I can't bear to waste any more. I really look forward to every minute with you.
what is love ? Is it the sweetness of your love for me, the support for our common life, or the stability when the time is ripe? It's hard to say, it's hard to say. Only one person knows that everyone has their own answers and analysis, and there is nothing wrong. Ni Kuang's love is pure, and can't be hypocritical. Ordinary people's world can't lead a poetic life, and they can never write a beautiful movement. How to understand love and how to live is defined and written by yourself.
Ni Kuang's attitude towards life is: "There are many pleasing contacts, but not pleasing to the eye. No matter what you do, you don't exist." Well, love and marriage are generally like this. What kind of cultivation and wisdom can only be heard by your own voice.