1 About "Separation"
"Self-sufficiency is the highest state of life, which is finally achieved through repeated practice."
Shandong Business Daily: "Freedom" is the final chapter of "breaking free". Will this series be stopped? Why?
Eiko Yamashita: Self-reliance is the ultimate goal of life through repeated practice. We start with the obvious people, things and things around us, and through thinking, judging and screening these basic actions, sharpen our inner thinking, feeling and feeling ability, make it spiral up, gain deeper insight, higher perspective and broader vision, and then use them to develop our own life and maintain a comfortable living state. This is the whole point of breaking up.
The state of self-reliance, freedom and freedom in life is the ultimate stage of breaking up, not the end of breaking up. There is no end to parting, because we live in this world, we have to face the difficulties of life, so we must always break free, let the body's energy cycle, and maintain the vitality of life. Perhaps the mission entrusted to me by God is to devote my life to the cause of breaking up.
Shandong Business Daily: In this sinister world, how to be strong inside?
Eiko Yamashita: By getting rid of others, you can form the ability of "decisive choice", and your life will glow again because of your "decisive choice". Start with the most basic things, observe the things around you, remove clutter, and start with bookshelves and closets. In this process, we need to distinguish "needed, suitable and comfortable" items and discard the opposite items. This action, like a muscle exercise of mind, mind and body, cultivates strategic thinking, examines the present time, space and relationship from a height, practices repeatedly, perseveres and perseveres.
Through day-to-day practice, information is turned into knowledge, and then knowledge is deepened into wisdom. When you are helpless and upset, wisdom will always wake up, encourage you and help you, so that you can always have strong inner energy to support you in dealing with everything around you.
Shandong Business Daily: Have any readers told you that their life has improved after reading your book? Can you give me the most impressive and moving thing?
Eiko Yamashita: Friends often come to me with questions after reading my books. Like me, they all encounter new puzzles from time to time in the process of breaking up, and then try to find a solution after thinking. The development and progress of running away from home can't be separated from everyone's practice, feedback and constant attempts and feelings.
One thing that impressed me deeply was that a reader not only freed himself from unprecedented changes through breaking up, but also influenced his family through his own actions. Her family also began to join the breakup army, and the whole family bid farewell to lifelessness, became full of vitality and became a family surrounded by happiness. I appreciate it, too. Breaking free has made me meet so many people who are as kind and magical as me.
Shandong Business Daily: What do you think is the most important thing for readers in China?
Eiko Yamashita: All unnecessary, unsuitable and uncomfortable people, things and things should be separated. "Surplus" things are very important. This is what everyone urgently needs to do, whether China or Japanese, or people in other parts of the world.
In today's world, we are too seriously troubled by "surplus". No matter what I have experienced personally or what I have seen with my own eyes so far, too many people are tired because of "excess" environment, such as excess information, which forces our thinking to stagnate. A person should have quiet time, even if it is only a little, but it is very important for our physical and mental state. But what makes me feel very good now is that many people are beginning to feel that it is better to let go and share rather than get more, which is also one of the goals of breaking up.
Shandong Business Daily: What is a "breakup" thing you are doing recently? What's new?
Eiko Yamashita: I've been re-examining my desires recently.
Wanting is an instinctive desire of human beings. One cannot lose this instinctive desire. Once lost or lack of desire, people will lose the motivation to live. However, once the desire exceeds the range that it can accommodate and realize, people will be miserable. If you get too many things, you will lose the joy of getting them and become a boring pile, and people will feel endless emptiness. Breaking up is a kind of thinking training, which can help people find out whether their desires are too much. The acquisition of goods, the use of acquired goods, the possession of goods and the separation of life are the differences among them. Get it and use it. Give up if you can't use it. Gradually, you will feel that this is a very happy thing for both individuals and objects.
Breaking up is to find "unnecessary, inappropriate and uncomfortable" and replace it with "necessary, appropriate and comfortable". In the final analysis, it is a choice and a decision. It is not so much a practice as a skill and way of thinking that enables people to live a better life. Therefore, parting is the torture of daily life.
Breaking up should be practiced constantly in daily life, but it is by no means a boring and hard practice, but a pleasant and unremitting operation every day. In order to keep yourself, you must think, feel, feel and make your own choices and decisions over time.
2 About life
"The real freedom of life is economic independence, physical freedom and spiritual freedom, that is, good health, unlimited money and unlimited spirit."
Shandong Business Daily: Have you ever been to China? Where have you been? What's your impression?
Eiko Yamashita: I've been here twice. The first time was three years ago, I went to Chongqing and was invited by my friends to play. The second time was last year, I went to Beijing and was invited by the publishing house to participate in the breakup publicity activities. Beijing and Chongqing give me a feeling similar to Tokyo. They are all vibrant big cities. But what impressed me was not the state of the city, but the people of China. Through contact, I feel that China people are full of energy, which makes me feel great. If there is an opportunity, I want to visit more cities in China.
Shandong Business Daily: What is real freedom of life? We often talk about financial freedom, why do we seldom regard spiritual freedom as an important criterion? Because it can't be measured?
Eiko Yamashita: The real freedom in life is economic independence, physical freedom and spiritual freedom, that is, good health, unlimited money and unlimited spirit. There is no quantitative standard to measure spiritual freedom. It depends entirely on your feelings, such as whether you are comfortable, relaxed and happy.
We can't work out a specific standard to measure whether the mind is free, but we can remove the rust of the mind through separate training, reactivate the perception of the mind, flexibly change the perspective of looking at things, and handle the people, things and things at present with ease, so as to maintain physical and mental pleasure and freedom. For busy modern people, freedom of thought is very important and necessary.
Shandong Business Daily: Self-centeredness requires strong self-confidence. How do most people who live at the bottom do it?
Eiko Yamashita: No matter which class, it's actually the same.
To gain strong self-confidence, the first thing to do is to look around. If your relationship between objects and space is very chaotic and complicated, then your relationship with people will be equally chaotic and complicated. In a state full of chaos and complexity, it is difficult for people to have real self-confidence if they can't clearly recognize their own needs and make correct cognition and judgment on themselves.
Disengagement is a process of regaining self-confidence by organizing objects and spaces. From the beginning of facing things directly, we should deal with the relationship with things and hone our self-axis in this process. Every time we make a choice and judgment, we should make a self-centered examination and consider whether "I" is needed, so as to sharpen it. Gradually, the self-axis will play its role. You can learn more about yourself, realize your self-worth easily in your life and workplace, and gradually become stronger.
Shandong Business Daily: As women, we all love beauty. Which brands of clothes and skin care products do you like? What percentage of your income do you spend on these things? For women, one of my biggest personal puzzles is that it is difficult to balance shopping desire and financial management. What do you suggest?
Eiko Yamashita: I like shopping myself, which is probably the innate nature of every woman. Especially shopping in tourist attractions makes me feel very happy. I think the experience of shopping is more enjoyable than shopping.
My daily clothes and daily necessities have no fixed brand. I will buy something that suits me and I really need it, but I prefer things with simple design and generous style.
Needless to say, shopping, but buying what you like properly is the way to make life full of fun. Breaking up never teaches people to cut off their desires, but teaches people to have a clear understanding of their choices and form the ability to make decisions.
If you want to balance shopping desire and financial management, you might as well try to give up everything you have, face everything you have now and re-examine your desires.
Shandong Business Daily: If you were given a week and a month to travel, where would you go and why?
Eiko Yamashita: There is no specific place. Breaking free made me give up my obsession. As long as it is an environment that can completely relax my body and mind. Of course, it is best to have fresh and delicious food.
Shandong Business Daily: Many coloring picture books are popular now, saying that they can relieve the pressure of urbanites. Have you ever painted them? Do you think this method is useful?
Eiko Yamashita: No, but it sounds interesting. Modern people are under too much pressure, often because they are forced to bear too many things, such as excessive desires, family expectations and so on. I think this is also a way for people to unload unnecessary burdens and relax.