You must understand that only an idiot would think that Jiang Lang was exhausted. Unless you make yourself an emotional person, you are not an imbecile. You must constantly fight against the forces that try to destroy you, especially the stubborn diseases hidden in your heart. As long as you understand the mystery of human emotional changes, you will no longer indulge your changeable personality. You already know that only by actively controlling your emotions can you control your own destiny.
You control your emotions, you control your destiny, and you can become the greatest successful person in the world!
The law of success, the motto of life;
On the road to success, the biggest enemy is neither lack of opportunities nor lack of qualifications. The greatest enemy of success is the lack of control over one's emotions. When you are angry, you can't control your anger and make your partners around you flinch; When you are depressed, indulge your depression and waste many fleeting opportunities.
Optimism itself is a kind of success.
Happy laughter is the reliability of mental health (symbol: Chekhov)
Optimism is the only secret to staying healthy. Frequent sadness and anger are enough to make a healthy body weak and redundant. (essayist: Turgenev)
Sadness, anxiety and pessimism can make people sick; Positive, cheerful, strong will and optimistic mood can overcome diseases and make people stronger and live longer. (Physiologist: Pavlov)
A pessimist is still alive, but an optimist never grows old. (Poet: Byron)
Emotion and success
Emotion is the experience of people's attitude towards things. Happiness, anger and fear are all common emotional experiences.
Emotion is a reflection of the relationship between objective things and human needs. This is a form of reflection with demand as the intermediary. Not all objective things can trigger people's emotions, only things related to people's needs can trigger people's emotions. Generally speaking, anything that meets people's needs will cause positive emotional experience (such as pleasure and satisfaction), while anything that doesn't meet people's needs will cause negative emotions (such as anger and fear).
It is generally believed that happiness, anger, fear and sadness are the four most basic emotions. These emotions are related to people's copying needs, which can be done without learning, and usually have a high degree of tension. Long-term emotional stress and anxiety will reduce the body's ability to resist bacteria and other pathogenic factors. Especially anger and annoyance are the main causes of many psychosomatic diseases. The image of "laugh-laugh, worry for ten years, turn white" vividly illustrates the relationship between emotion and health.
Ten rules for regulating emotions
Learn to transfer. When the internal heat rises, consciously changing the subject or doing something else to distract attention can relieve the mood. Being a slave, you can relax your nervousness by watching movies, listening to music, playing chess, walking and other meaningful relaxation activities.
Learn to vent. People will inevitably produce various inches in their lives; Good emotions, if not properly vented and regulated, will have a negative impact on both body and mind. So, if you have unpleasant things and grievances, don't keep them in your heart, but tell your intimate friends and relatives, or cry. This kind of venting can release the accumulated stagnation in the heart and benefit people's physical and mental development. Of course, the object, place, occasion and way of venting should be appropriate to avoid hurting others.
Learn to masturbate. When a person can't get something, in order to reduce his inner disappointment, he often finds a high-sounding reason for failure to comfort himself, just like a fairy tale in which a fox says grapes are sour when he can't eat them. This is the so-called "sour grape psychology".
Language restraint method: when you are excited, Bai Ji silently or gently warns you to be calm, don't be angry, and pay attention to your identity and influence to suppress your emotions; You can also write down banners such as "curse your anger" and "calm down" in advance, aiming at Bai Ji's weakness, or put them on your desk.
Self-suggestion: it is estimated that you may be a little nervous in some cases. First, find a few powerful reasons to stop yourself from feeling this way.
Happy memory method
Recall the happy things you have encountered in the past, or the happy experiences when you have achieved success, especially those related to the unpleasant experiences in front of you.
Environmental transformation method: when in a state of intense emotion, temporarily leave the environment and related people that cause emotion.
Humor solution: cultivate a sense of humor, express your emotions tactfully and skillfully with meaningful words, expressions or actions, and satirize.
Inference and comparison method: dissect all aspects of difficulties, compare your own experience with others' experience, find the secret of success in comparison, strengthen your confidence in success and eliminate your fear of difficulties.
Depression sublimation method: when you are not reused, in adversity, looked down upon by others, and feel depressed, you can devote your energy to the cause you are interested in, and change your situation and improve your mood through success.
How to overcome bad emotions
1, let's look at troubles from a different background. For example, the moon we usually see is mostly in the sky with a vast universe in the background. In contrast, the moon is very small: when the moon has just left the horizon and is surrounded by treetops on land as a contrast, the moon is much bigger in front of these objects than in the sky. So if you feel that the environment is oppressive to you, or you are always worried about small things, I suggest you change to a more open and broad environment to purify your mind.
2, clear behavior and mentality. Boredom is a "universal emotion" of modern people, which is universal. In this state of mind, Liu's own behavior seems unable to agree with its positive significance, so he shows a disorderly life state of sometimes wanting to do this, sometimes wanting to do that, sometimes wanting to do everything, and sometimes wanting to do everything. There is always a feeling of being at a loss and uneasy. Therefore, there are usually two most direct factors that lead to boredom: not knowing what you should do, or not knowing whether what you do is worth it.
Work is the easiest way to make people happy. Although work itself often can't bring people fun directly, the nature of work makes people face or participate in a challenging activity with skills and skills, so it can bring people endless fun. Therefore, if you want to fundamentally eliminate bad emotions, you must start from your own work and pour your enthusiasm, responsibility and wisdom into it, making it a challenge and stimulus to yourself.
Sexual activity.
You can also try to improve yourself, make your sublimation meet the job requirements, or simply change to another unit to do what you are more suitable for: active work. In a word, people need to do what they love, Song Faxian, prove and create themselves, make full use of their brains and expand their potential, so as to eliminate boredom most effectively.
4. Rich spare time life. Nowadays, many people spend their leisure time by watching TV, reading novels and chatting. The arrangement of spare time life is monotonous. As a result, the more brilliant others live, the more they feel that their cows are small and empty. Therefore, in their spare time life, people should also have a positive, creative and challenging spirit to make their lives colorful and interesting.
5. Happiness begins at home. We spend most of our lives at home with our families. Creating a warm and happy family environment will help you get rid of boredom.
6. vent your sadness. 100 years ago, the English poet william blake wrote an F poem related to self-venting, entitled "Poisonous Tree". The first verse of the poem tells us the value of talking: I am angry with my friend, and when I say that the mountain is angry, it disappears; I am angry with the enemy. I didn't go out. It has grown up. It is not enough to eliminate sadness by self-venting, but also to strengthen the exercise of willpower. Beethoven, a musician, once said, "One of the great advantages of outstanding people is that they can persevere in unfavorable and difficult encounters."
7. Learn to smile. Smile is not only a modality, but also a state of mind, which is the synthesis of modern people's emotional consciousness and corresponding intelligence. Sasha Biazanzi: "If you don't smile in the sky, then your day will be in vain." An American psychological home appliance thinks: "Yes; Laughter is a measure of whether a person can adapt to the surrounding environment. " It's a long story, isn't it An exaggerated but sincere smile can really infect others. Smile is a "good medicine", a "passport" to health and the cheapest and fastest "tonic" in the world. We might as well smile often, use a smile to adjust our nervous mood, and let others get relaxed and happy from our sweet and sincere smile.
8. feel happy. In fact, fatigue and happiness go hand in hand. Looking for happiness in the tired mountains is not a noble realm of life: happiness belongs to each of us and has nothing to do with the amount of material wealth; Happiness is a feeling of inch by inch. Only when you feel it can you enjoy it, that is, only when you are satisfied can you be happy. Happiness is a kind of cultivation and an atmosphere. As long as you have a tolerant heart for others and an appreciation for life, you will feel happiness, enjoy happiness and have a happy life.
Emotion and successful homework
1. How do you usually adjust and control your emotions and stick to your own methods?
2. Can you smile freely even in adversity?
Emotion and reason are for you. Which one has a greater influence and function on you?
4. What kind of results do you often get when you bring emotions to work?
Please design a calm and emotional self and describe it in detailed language.
6. If you are bored, please check the reason first and write it down on paper. Write clearly what you are doing one by one, and then try to change it. Do it, compare the feelings before and after, and see what's the difference.
7. How do you usually adjust and control your emotions? How about these methods?