David wrote a long article about educating children, saying that beating and cursing is the most failed way of education. A few days ago, in the plot of TV series Xiao Shede, Xia Junshan was furious and scared to cry when he was tutoring Huanhuan to do his homework. It was at this time that Huanhuan cried and vomited. After reading this story, David, who thinks he is his father, posted a long article on the Internet about educating children, saying that beating and cursing is the most failed way of education.
In a long article published by David, he talked about his confusion about the best way of education, about teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, and about the growth of children and the expression of parents' love for their children. After his long article was published, many netizens participated in the discussion, saying that they had encountered similar situations in the play during their growth, and some even said that they were raised by their parents.
The influence of beating and cursing on children's sense of security. Home should be the warmest harbor for children, but if parents often beat and scold children, children will gradually alienate their parents psychologically, which will also lead to a serious sense of insecurity. This sense of insecurity in childhood is likely to affect a child's life.
Children lack self-protection awareness and the boundaries of self-protection are unclear. Parents often beat and scold their children in family life, which will make them feel violated, and this habit may make them lack protection consciousness, so that they will not resist when they are bullied by others again. This situation may lead to unclear boundaries of children's self-protection, and even affect normal life and study.
It has a negative impact on children's mental health. This is actually not difficult to understand. Don't say that children, even adults, may be psychologically distorted in an environment where they are often beaten and scolded. Children's endurance is far less than that of adults. Living in this environment for a long time, psychological distortion and unhealthy is extremely easy to happen.
Children are increasingly alienated from their parents and lack the cognitive ability of rules. When parents beat and scold their children, children will subconsciously stay away from their parents psychologically and physically, and even more reluctant to communicate with their parents, forming a vicious circle.
In addition, the cognition of parents and children is also very different. Parents always take their own cognition as an answer and abuse as a means to criticize and educate their children. This will easily lead to children's lack of understanding of the rules, and they will learn to read people's faces from an early age and know how their parents feel and how to behave. This is not a good thing for children.
In fact, in real life, everyone wants to give their children the best things, but the best way to educate children is never fixed. Every family should teach students in accordance with their aptitude according to the actual situation. But one thing is the same. As David said, beating and cursing is the most failed way of education.
Spend more time with your children and communicate with them. Parents' love can be expressed through kindness.