I just always thought that my body was in a sub-health state, so I thought about taking a good rest and adjusting it during this time. I happened to see a kitten that a friend sent for adoption. It turns out that Sister Rui's cat gave birth to five kittens. I can't take care of so many kittens myself, and I need to find a good family urgently. I fell in love with one of the white kittens at first sight in Ruijie's circle of friends, because the others were only black and gray, but I just couldn't put it down.
At that time, I consulted Ruijie several times. Although I really want to have one, I am also worried. After all, I have never kept a pet in the building. I'm afraid I can't take care of her. After all, it is very easy for me to take care of two children. I always need to take care of two children at the same time, so I'm worried that I don't have more time and energy to take care of her.
In fact, I always felt that I couldn't make this decision easily, because I had a rhubarb dog at home when I was a child. When I was a child, the puppy had been following us for many years. When I was a child, I was 5 kilometers away from my grandmother's house. When I was young, I often walked back and forth with my grandmother, so suddenly one night, rhubarb dog died suddenly after a burst of barking. My brother and I cried for a long time and were buried under a big tree.
At that time, not only were we sad as children, but the whole family was sad. For our family, it is more than just a dog. It is really a part of our family. Everyone in the family grew up with it, worked with it, and stayed with us anytime and anywhere, but one day it suddenly left, which was really hard to accept. Since then, there has never been a dog in the family.
I've been in Beijing 10 years, and I've always wanted to get a pet, whether it's a dog or a cat, but it hasn't been realized, because it's always inconvenient to live in a building, plus our work schedule. We used to have to rush to work and pick up the children. Life is already busy enough, and we have no time to take care of ourselves, let alone take care of small animals.
So when I felt that my family was not so busy, I bravely made the decision to raise a kitten. Knowing that I wanted to keep a cat, my good friend Yunxi's family happened to be in the business of cat food and cat industry, and directly gave me a litter box and a cat scratch board. I took them home that day.
The next day, another friend accompanied me to Ruijie's house and brought the cat back. At that time, the cat was very small, a soft little white cat. We brought him back in a cardboard box, and he barked all the way, probably because he was afraid. After it was released, it hid under the sofa and dared not come out. After I consulted Reggie, I left it alone according to Reggie.
Sure enough, when I got up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet, I found that there was less food, but it still hid under the sofa and refused to come out. The next day trouble began to follow. Cats have been hiding under the sofa to pee because they haven't learned to use the litter box. This is not the most unacceptable. The most unacceptable thing is that the smell of cat shit is really bad. We are all under the great challenge of cleaning up the battlefield. For several days, we failed to teach her how to use the litter box. Later, we had no choice but to buy a cage and put it in it. Helpless, this is a little female cat with a wild heart, but she can't bear to go out every day. The so-called cat bone reduction is really the best in the world. Where there is a small hole, as long as it wants, there is no place that can't pass. Helpless, she had to do all kinds of treatments to the cage, but she still couldn't close it.
Seriously, we took a lot of detours in the process of using the litter box in the church because we didn't know how to guide the cat to use it correctly. At the beginning, I would ask her for advice when I wrote about dependent Rui Jie, but later I found that her parenting method was unscientific. Later, after i query learned a lot of information and Zhihu,
Teach him to use cat litter in the way of Zhihu, and he will learn it immediately after no more than three times. At that time, he was deeply touched by this. In fact, when you want to learn, learning platform and consulting teachers are also very important. Only by asking the right person can we learn real knowledge and do the right thing with the right person.
From then on, there was no strong smell at home, and I became a happy shovel officer. After all this has been solved, I found that raising a cat is really a very worry-free and happy thing.
Although the cat at home has lost a lot of hair, I feel fine. Although it is white, it usually stays clean. More importantly, it must mop the floor at home every day so that the cat will be cleaner. It sleeps on the sofa or my bed or on the windowsill every day, and always sleeps in the sun every day.
After having a cat, the children are very happy and excited every day. They must hug and touch it. I'm glad cats are relatively docile and never bite, but after all, children often don't have proper limit. Sometimes they pull its tail hard, and sometimes they hold it tightly.
In this process, of course, there are many unpleasant experiences. For the sake of the kitten, the children are often scolded by their mothers because they pay too much attention to the cat and always rush to hug it. Cats have very sharp claws, so they often scratch their children deeply. At this time, my mother is really distressed because I don't want my child to get hurt.
At that time, my brother happened to be working in a pet shop. After hearing that I wanted to keep a cat, he gave me a lot of technical guidance, including telling me all the medicines that cats need. The cat gave me all the drugs needed for injection at every stage, and I also took some basic drugs, so the cat was vaccinated and repelled, so our cat should be a very healthy cat.
At the same time, I also think that the cat is a very happy cat, with so many caring family members and so much material care. In this process, I am most grateful to my husband for his support. At that time, he said no objection, but you can't expect me to take care of the cat for you. Everything is your own business and I won't help you. Don't make me do this and that.
But it was him who later learned to inject, feed, clean up and even help shovel shit. At first, I was firmly opposed to pets coming to our bed. Later, I even acquiesced, hahaha. Is this love me, love my dog, or love bursting?
During the Spring Festival, because it was 1400 km long drive back, Sister Rui expressed her willingness to help us take care of the cat, but we felt that it was already a member of our family, and we especially wanted to take it back to our hometown house for the New Year, and because we had been together for a long time, none of us wanted to be separated from it.
So at this time, we set off after searching a lot of experience in driving with cats on the Internet. The result is certainly unfriendly. Less than half an hour after we went out, the cat peed in the car. I was probably afraid at that time. We have been shouting since we got on the bus. We didn't put cat litter in the cat bag at that time, so the car was wet. We packed up and set off, and the cat kept putting it in the bag.
Maybe it's because I'm not used to it all the way. The cat didn't drink much water and didn't eat much. The next day, when he wanted to shit, he kept spinning around and yelling. We know it definitely needs to shit. No sooner had I stopped at the nearest service area than I pulled it. After processing, we fed it ham sausage, and then we set off again.
In fact, after barking on the road for several hours, the cat gradually got used to it and stopped barking. When she was released at home, she was still a little scared. Fortunately, the house at home is very big and she can run around, but I'm glad she doesn't run around every day. However, when I returned to my hometown, it was embarrassing that I just caught up with the cat's estrus, thinking about running out to mate with wild cats every day, and closing the door every day in order to close it.
At first, my parents-in-law were actually hostile to my cat. The most important thing is that they are afraid that cats will hurt children. They think the cat is dirty, unclean and unsanitary. We have just experienced an epidemic. We stayed in our hometown for a long time, and after a long time, my parents-in-law gradually liked the cat.
Every night before going to bed, I make sure whether the cat is at home, and then I go to bed. I am grateful that my parents-in-law will help me find the cat before I go to bed. See if you have finished. It turns out that people are all fleshy, and slowly they will actually love me, love my dog.
When I was in my hometown, it was funny that the original planned trip of 10 day suddenly became 40 days, and the cat food and litter were gone. In my hometown, the quality of life of cats has plummeted because of lack of materials. There is no cat food, so we can only eat ham sausage, which is all we eat every day. Of course, cats' nutrition can't keep up.
Because there is no cat litter, there is no way. Cats can only defecate anywhere in the sand. But for cats who are used to using cat litter since childhood, it is really difficult to solve the problem without cat litter, but there is really no way. Everyone is very uncomfortable, so we have to bite the bullet and deal with it.
When I was in my hometown, because there was no cat litter and cat food, I felt that the life of cats was not good when I returned to my hometown. Because of the shortage of materials and the epidemic situation, the hometown and village closed roads everywhere and could not buy materials. Even if I have money, I can't buy any materials. It doesn't matter if the wild cats at home are used to it, but this greenhouse flower that I have been used to since I was a child is very difficult.
When I was in my hometown, I felt sorry for the cat, just in heat. Because I don't want it to get pregnant, I have to turn it off every day. What surprised us most was that the cat actually learned to open the door. If the door closes without locking, it won't close. At first, my mother-in-law found that it could open the door by itself. At first, I didn't believe it. I think there will be such a magical thing. Later, I found out that I really learned to open the door myself, and the technique was very skillful.
But because there were too many stray cats at home, and the epidemic was serious at that time, I didn't want them to come into contact with many bacteria with those wild cats, so I tried to lock them up. Seriously, cats are also very poor. The house at home is too big, and it is designed in all directions. I can only lock it up to prevent it from running around.
After staying at home for a long time, I obviously felt that the cat had become very unhappy. The whole cat was very unhappy and its coat color became rough. At that time, when I went home, my coat color was beautiful and my hometown was too big. It gets dirty every day and can't take many baths.
Finally, we can finally set off for Beijing. This time, because of our first long-distance experience back, we put cat litter in the cat bag to facilitate its defecation on the road, and prepared a lot of ham and water. It's a good thing we didn't scream all the time because of habit. Although we have always wanted to escape from the cage and run around, we are used to cats that have been running in the cage.
After returning to the familiar environment, I took good care of the cat for a while. Because the environment has been decided and the food has been decided, the cat quickly recovered its former beauty and became strong. After returning to my hometown for a month, I lost a lot of weight and obviously grew up a lot. Now the cat is still pitifully fat.
Children have regained their admiration and love for cats. Every Friday, we still eat snacks and watch movies with our cats. Cats have become a complete part of our family.
I lost my cat yesterday. Recently, because I have been at home, Dabao and Bao Xiao have friends to play with them every day. There are many people in the family, so it is natural to open and close the door frequently. Dabao is fine. He usually remembers to do as much as possible after being asked, but Bao Xiao is still young, and most of the time, he can't remember when he finished it.
And more often, Bao Xiao will deliberately ignore you. Many times, he stressed that the door must be closed at any time to prevent the cat from getting lost. However, he always ignores it. The cat was really lost yesterday, and the door was not closed properly. At that time, I took Bao Xiao to the river to play, and I went out at about 4 o'clock. It was after 6 o'clock when I came back. When Dabao came back, he just saw the cat climb over the wall. After returning home, he didn't find the cat and confirmed that it was the cat at home. We are everywhere.
To be honest, I was angry at that time, but I managed to control my emotions and temper. I'm too busy cooking dinner to pursue more. They all went out looking for the cat, but they couldn't find it anywhere.
Finally, there is no way. We discussed going out to find it after dinner. Maybe the cat will come out after dark. After all, the cat is Nocturnal Animals, and then they go home. Bao Xiao kept nagging about losing it and buying a good one. If the cat is lost, you'd better get a dog. I was very angry. I don't know why I didn't hold my temper at that moment.
I hit Bao Xiao with a hanger. This is the first time since Bao Xiao was almost five years old that I severely beat him. I hit him on the hand with a hanger. After hitting him twice, Bao Xiao cried bitterly, because I had never hit him so hard. Bao Xiao was startled by me and immediately hid in his father's arms. Dad held him and protected him. Dabao was also frightened to see his mother suddenly angry so fiercely. He ran quickly to protect Bao Xiao with his father.
After the fight, Bao Xiao was particularly wronged and kept saying piteously, I'll handle this matter, and I'll be responsible for it. You don't have to worry about it. I'm going to get the cat back myself, and then when I eat, Bao Xiao is already very wronged and sad. I still cry when I think about it now. I don't know why, but I still get angry. Actually, it's really hard for me to lose my cat.
A pet is sometimes a psychological sustenance, and more importantly, I have an aversion to loss. I realize that everyone hates losing, because we have paid a lot, whether it's money or emotion, and we don't expect anything from pets, because you don't expect anything from them.
At the same time, I feel sorry for my children. My husband always says that I have a bad temper and can't control my emotions. When I hit Bao Xiao with a hanger, I found that I had completely copied what my mother had done to me. My mother has a bad temper and often beat and scolded me when I was a child, so I never spoiled in my mother's arms when I was a child.
I have been estranged from my mother all my life. As an adult, I forgive my parents and understand them. I will take them to travel and give them money wholeheartedly, but I have never felt the warmth from my family and the love from my parents in my heart.
I regret being so cruel to Bao Xiao. It's the first time he hit me like this. In fact, the two children are really sensible. I really can't control my emotions. I blame my failure on the children.
I have kept this little white cat for almost a year. During this year, I can clearly feel that my education for children has actually made great progress, but it is still far from enough.
Once last year, when I was unhappy, I scolded my husband. I began to complain and nag my husband endlessly. My husband is actually very wronged and helpless, so when I check Dabao's homework, I scold Dabao for not paying enough attention. Dabao was naturally unhappy when he was scolded. Bao Xiao took his toy and he took the opportunity to push and cry. Bao Xiao was pushed and robbed by his brother, and he was very unhappy. He came to the living room and gave the cat a good kick.
This is the first time I have clearly felt the complete performance of kicking the cat. From then on, I understood that I should always supervise myself and change myself. Although I try to improve myself, I still can't completely change myself.
In fact, the older I get, the more I can find out how much the family genes in my bones have influenced me. Many times I can clearly see my ignorance and limitations, especially in marriage and family education. At this time, I totally agree with Teacher Fan Deng that a girl's biggest enemy in her life is not others, but her mother, who has played a decisive role in my life. What happened to her as a child profoundly influenced my life.
Sometimes I hate myself. My husband always said that I was too hard on my children. Maybe sometimes I don't even notice it myself I don't think I'm fierce. Maybe I'm fierce to outsiders.
Another thing is that I found that I may really be too strong at home. Maybe only when I treat cats can I show more patience, care and tolerance.
I have been raising cats for almost a year, and I feel that I have made great progress, but my relationship with my eldest son has made great progress. There has been a lot of good communication between my eldest son and me, and my eldest son has a lot of self-consciousness and self-discipline in his studies.
Now we have a good relationship. My son often walks with me when he is free, or I ride a bike downstairs with him. At least not the old education of beating and cursing. We are all happy to have such progress.
Although the relationship with the eldest son has improved a lot because of the cat, Bao Xiao was severely beaten for the first time because of the cat. Bao Xiao had never seen his mother so fierce, and he was frightened.
Since one thing can bring about a beautiful improvement, why not continue? I hope we can all make better progress and more improvements in the near future.
Fortunately, the cat was found after dinner. I hope everyone will get along well in the future and be less abusive and autocratic.
Life is a long road, and life is a kind of practice. We should constantly improve ourselves. Oil; Fuel filling; Make greater efforts