When I was walking alone in the bookstore, I casually flipped through Han Meimei's book "Some things don't be done now, I won't be done all my life-a simple life", and I seemed to find the life guide that suits me best at the moment.
Many people will ask the same question-the life they want. The life I yearn for is freedom, freedom from bondage. The freedom I understand is financial freedom and spiritual freedom.
I have been pursuing freedom for so many years, but I have never really felt freedom. My understanding of freedom is: when one day, I stop working hard for my life and can do whatever I want without worries, that is freedom. So I must work hard to make money, save money, plan and achieve my goals. All these occupy most of my time. Of course, most of them are tossing, and there are not many gains and little changes. The reason is that I want too much.
I'm not saying we can't have goals and ideals. Just don't torture yourself too much, relax yourself and give up those uncertain desires, whether material or spiritual.
It is a particularly simple truth that only by simply living can we live freely.
First, there are only a few things commonly used at home every day, and all the things that should be thrown away. When I stepped out of the house again, I was particularly relaxed and felt much cleaner than myself. In fact, cleaning the room saves a lot of things.
Second, the clothes you like are all the same style. This makes it much easier to match and saves a lot of money wasted on buying clothes. For formal occasions, prepare two sets of clothes every quarter. On appropriate occasions, you won't suddenly feel that the wardrobe clothes are too single. I used to think of all styles, and not everyone can be a beauty.
Third, no matter how good a life is, no matter how good a thing is, we can't hold on to it. Enough is enough.
Fourth, cry moderately, laugh moderately and lose your temper moderately. Controlling emotions is the easiest way to conserve energy. Maybe you will find life without emotions boring, and later we will talk about some small ideas to increase the fun of life.
Fifth, try to find the happiness brought by immateriality. If you earn less, you spend less. If you save a little, you might as well save some appropriately.
6. Sort out your goals and hobbies, throw away some, and focus on the one you are most interested in and can stick to. Abandoning the spirit is also a baptism.
Many things are not as important as we thought.
If you think life is too boring and monotonous, or you don't know how to arrange your life, in fact, as long as you do it with your heart, you will find that there are too many simple things in life, which can be very interesting without doing too well. Some are the suggestions of my sister Han Meimei next door, and some are my own experience. The whole is as follows for your reference:
First, keep fit. Eat well and exercise well. No matter what job you are doing, who you live with and what life motto you have, you should give yourself a healthy body. In this way, you will feel energetic when you do anything.
Second, read books. Don't deliberately read books you don't understand, just read what you like. Enjoy the spiritual wealth brought by reading. If you like writing, you can also make some reading notes and simply output the books you have read. The process of output is a good digestion of the books you have read. How to read? In my other article, Method is always more important than hard work: How to read a book's reading notes effectively, there are some dry goods to share.
Third, organize a theme singing party. Get together with three or two friends on weekends to make a theme, such as nostalgia theme, children theme, resentment theme, red song theme, and freely draw up a theme according to the mood and state at that time.
The office prepares snacks and health tea. Regarding health tea, you can configure it according to your own happiness, such as beauty, weight gain and detoxification. Let's talk about snacks again Eating snacks in the office can help us decompress. It is advisable to choose your favorite snacks without affecting your colleagues' work. Of course, don't be greedy. It is not good to eat yourself as a big fat man.
5. Psychologists. Many people have psychological problems. Maybe he doesn't even know it. If you feel depressed, there is no shame in trying to see a psychiatrist. The essence of life is pain, and it is difficult to get out of the predicament, but you must try, not endure endlessly.
Sixth, the hair dryer blows the soles of the feet. Blowing the soles of your feet before going to bed every day can dispel the cold, which is a simple and effective way to keep fit.
Seven, feeding stray animals. We are not charity givers, we just live in the same city, live in harmony and care for each other. People who know how to care about others will naturally get more love.
Eight, talk well. When you speak, think more about other people's feelings, say what you should and say less what you shouldn't. Sometimes I feel that I talk too much. If you can't control your mouth, learn to listen. Enough is enough. Sometimes not being able to talk really costs us a lot. If we can't speak, silence is also an appropriate way. You just have to smile.
Nine, fill the refrigerator. They say that the fuller the refrigerator, the better your luck. Even if feng shui is fake, a person will have a sense of belonging at home.
10. Dress sexy occasionally. I like leisure style, especially after exercise. However, if you occasionally put on a proper makeup and dress up sexy, you may have a different experience. If you find that you still have a lot of things you haven't seen before, your mood may suddenly get better.
Eleven, be yourself. People are social animals, and we can't live without other people's gossip. It seems that we don't care about other people's opinions at all, but we really can't satisfy anyone, so don't care too much, just be yourself.
Remember the names of new friends. Remember that comparing people's names is the minimum respect for others. Maybe accepting friendship starts from the moment you can call out his name at once.
Thirteen, do something for parents. Take them to the movies, travel, have a physical examination, eat in their favorite restaurant, talk to them about your life and work, and cherish the time with your parents. Filial piety is now, not after your career is successful.
14. Add plants to your home. Green plants can improve our living environment and increase our wealth. I have a deep understanding. Try it if you don't believe me. When you are in a good mood, you will feel comfortable doing anything.
Fifteen, the goal is achieved one by one. We don't need to set too many goals. Our energy is limited. Let's give up some goals and start with the easiest. Maybe you'll come looking for tinkering.
Go to a friend's house for a few days. If you feel that life is too lack of creativity, you can find a good girlfriend, stay at a friend's house for a few days and see what his friend is doing after work every day. Which is more interesting than your life? Either you have a better understanding of life, or you think you are much more interesting than your friends' life.
17. Traveling alone. The difference between a person's trip and a group's trip is that you can find yourself. Learn to be alone and enjoy being alone. Loneliness is a kind of spiritual precipitation.
Eighteen, take a hot air balloon. I think there are some things you can choose to try. Maybe you are afraid of heights and death, but you have to do a few things that you dare not do in life to seal up your memory. Just like going to Vietnam with my friends, I still think the most meaningful thing is to try jet skiing.
I can't stop talking so much. Most of the above are things I try to do, hoping to add inspiration to your life. Have a good life. Thank you for reading my words, and also thank Han Meimei for publishing so many books that can give us strength and let me learn to live a good life and love life.
Don't criticize yourself for mediocrity. We want to be better, but also for a better life.
Work is not the whole of life, but physical and mental pleasure is the foundation of our life.
From now on, let's feel the beauty of life together.