Many people have the habit of being alone and are keen to build isolation fences in their backyard. Then, a cup of tea, a cigarette, a book, a song, a dog, a small house, a person free, enough!
This is what friends should do. They like to eat alone, go shopping alone, watch movies alone and travel alone. Faced with repeated warm invitations from friends, she seldom goes out to attend various parties. No one thinks she is aloof and arrogant. Everyone knows that she always prefers a person, so she won't insist on it for long.
Diandian is a very independent person. Even if the sky falls, she will try to fight with her hands first. On one occasion, appendicitis broke out at midnight. For the first time, she didn't ask her friends for help. Second, in order to relieve the pain, she approved a coat, carried a bag, went out to the hospital, and then passed out in pain. The driver helped with the hospitalization procedure. In this way, without any friends or family knowing, she had an appendectomy.
According to her words: "I used to like to prick people, be crazy together and make trouble together;" When I grow up, I always feel that I owe myself some time alone, a quiet mood and a solo dance of my soul. "
There is a saying in the movie "Nothing": "Give yourself to be busy, and all you get is practical, but none of it is true."
The real us will always plan a pure land for ourselves, plant flowers and take a leisurely walk. What an honor!
However, in the huge social group circle, we have to always prepare an armor and a mask to protect ourselves. Even if we hit a wall, we can walk into the corner without being noticed.
In today's era when social channels are diversified and information is bursting, solitude is particularly rare and extravagant. A person who is good at being alone does not want to be a lonely patient without desire, but knows how to break up, give up and leave.
Loneliness is a state of mind, not a lack of personality.
People often classify people who like to be alone as eccentric and unsociable.
In fact, people who like being alone don't necessarily dislike interacting with others.
As we all know, Ma Yun is a well-known entrepreneur in China and even in the world, and he has rich experience in socializing and speaking. In many people's impression, Ma Yun is a social expert with friends all over the business circle and at home and abroad.
It is undeniable that Ma Yun does have a unique talent in social interaction and communication. However, the reason why he can build the Ali Empire into such a powerful place today is not only the rhetoric at banquets and on the stage, but more importantly, he often leaves time for himself to be alone and think.
Tai Chi, music, books … Ma Yun does many things when he is alone, especially meditation.
Ali's development was not achieved overnight, but it was smooth sailing, and it also experienced many challenges and difficulties. As the helm of Ali, Ma Yun must always keep a calm mind and intuition, which is why he likes to be quiet and Do not forget your initiative mind.
Solitude is a positive, independent and responsible attitude towards life. You don't have to find your own way with someone else's map, and you don't have to be a beggar with ready-made answers. Only by being a pioneer in your own life and discovering the treasure of your own wisdom can you take a different step for your own life.
Schopenhauer, a philosopher, said, "Only by being alone can a person become himself completely. Anyone who doesn't like being alone doesn't love freedom, because a person is free only when he is alone. "
I have always believed that if a person doesn't even have time to be alone, his life must be controlled by physical desires and he can't devote himself to spiritual pursuit.
I have a neighbor who has been a god student since childhood. Since primary school, his parents have been a part-time tutor, and he has endless problems and books to recite. Every time he rests in the middle of the night, the quiet alley outside the window is the smallest yearning in his heart. He wrote in his diary on the eve of the senior high school entrance examination: "I want to cross the alley outside the window/even if I have exhausted the vicissitudes of the rest of my life/I want to see the other side of the mountain/at this moment/I don't have to miss it/I don't have to hesitate/chase the dawn/it's ridiculous/an old dream."
In the second half of the third year of senior high school, his parents helped him apply for suspension from school and took him home to review. They changed jobs without any worries and became full-time tutors. For a time, all the news about his recommendation by "senior parents" spread like wildfire. Just a week before the college entrance examination, he ran away from home after all, unable to bear all kinds of gossip and pressure from his family. A few days later, with the help of the police, his parents found him in the backyard of his hometown. It turned out that he just wanted to find a quiet place to stay by himself, no longer paying attention to the hustle and bustle of downtown, and no longer wearing dazzling light. When a person is alone, even breathing is free, and the soul is truly attached to the body, not lost or anxious.
As Rene Liu wrote in his new book "I Dare to Be Lonely in Your Arms", "Fortunately, people who are good at being alone will not feel lonely easily. In fact, I have a lot of things to do, and I am busy. There is no need to rely on others to know my status. Comfort in loneliness is definitely a kind of happiness. "
A person who can't be alone and is afraid of being alone is like losing basic self-survival skills and can only rely on others to become a "parasite" in the secular world. Once he leaves their "host", he is close to death and dissipation.
Some people say that being alone is not a very simple thing. Why do we have to rise to the height of "productivity" and grandstanding?
In fact, watching movies alone, shopping alone, traveling alone and so on. Is that all? The answer is yes.
Everyone does a lot of things sometimes. In the "International Loneliness Scale" popular on the Internet before, from the first level of "going to the supermarket alone" to the tenth level of "doing surgery alone", everyone corresponded their experiences one by one and tried their best to package themselves as a "lonely patient".
Man is a gregarious animal. He needs to communicate with his peers, love and be loved, otherwise he can't survive. No one in the world can stand absolute loneliness, but those who can't stand loneliness are empty souls.
Everyone has the opportunity and has to face the arrival of loneliness. At that moment, some people chose to retreat, go hand in hand with others, and carry forward with heavy burdens; Some people choose to conquer, travel alone, and go into battle lightly.
People often regard communication as a kind of ability, but ignore that solitude is also a kind of ability, and it is more important than communication in a sense. On the other hand, it is a pity that you are not good at communication, and your intolerance of being alone is also a serious defect.
A lonely life is a long struggle. Some people laugh at the beginning, while others win in the end. Fate doesn't care for anyone, it depends on how long you can chase and how long you persist.
Maybe one day, when you find no one around you, you won't feel and fear the so-called loneliness anymore. You appreciate that it's time for me to be alone, and it's time for me to inspire.
A person's floating world is pure and happy, and a person's small water flows forever.