There is such a news:
2015 65438+1October 16 is a sad day for countless fans. Bella, a famous young singer, died of breast cancer recurrence in Peking University Shenzhen Hospital at the age of 33. At the same time, the wonderful and short life reminds me of a video recorded by Bella before her death. She said, "My illness came when I was extremely depressed. When you are particularly depressed, it will definitely find the source, either physical or mental, so people must relax. "
Research in Cancer Hospital of China Academy of Medical Sciences found that more than 85% of cancer patients have one thing in common, that is, long-term depression, sulking and depression.
When you feel better, the disease will stay away from you. We live in this world, happy day is one day, unhappy day is one day, why can't we live happily every day? Think about it. Do you remember why you were unhappy a few weeks ago? Kaner, who felt hard at that time, found that it was not a big deal at all as time went on.
Feng Zikai once said: "If the heart is small, all small things will be big; When the heart is big, all major events are small. " Any optimistic person is the greatest kindness to himself.
There is such a story:
There is an old woman who has two daughters. The eldest daughter sells umbrellas and the youngest daughter sells salt. When the weather is fine, she is worried that her eldest daughter's umbrella will not be sold. When it rains, I'm worried that my little daughter's salt won't sell. So she suffers every day. Someone told her, "Why don't you think that a little girl selling salt on sunny days is better than a big girl selling umbrellas on rainy days?" Yes, the old woman thought. She lived happily ever after. Rain or shine, she is very happy.
It can be seen that the real reason for negative emotions is not the thing itself, but one's attitude and concept towards things. Changing a person's thinking and ideas will produce completely different results. The essence of things has not changed, what has changed is our view of things.
There is another story:
A rich man was seriously ill, and it was useless to take many medicines, so he kept fidgeting and worried, thinking that he was dying, so he was always unhappy. By chance, he met a famous doctor who lived in seclusion. He asked a famous doctor to diagnose him. The famous doctor said to him, "It's easy to cure your illness. You just need to go to a quiet beach every day, lie quietly for 30 minutes and think nothing for a month. "
The rich are dubious, but they still treat a dead horse as a living horse doctor. As a result, each trip is two hours. Because he is so tired at ordinary times, he has never been so calm and had a good rest. Blowing the sea breeze on the beach, listening to the sound of waves and seagulls, my anxious mood gradually calmed down and I forgot the worldly troubles. A month later, he returned home, feeling comfortable, emotionally stable and getting better.
Emotion is closely related to our health. What methods can alleviate negative emotions?
First, don't ignore and suppress your negative emotions. When you are in a bad mood, you can talk to relatives and friends, or find a professional psychological counselor to clear your emotions.
Second, adjust the mentality, change the mode of thinking, and learn to face life with an inclusive, happy and positive attitude. Look at the advantages of yourself and others and find more beautiful things in life.
Third, read more books, exercise more and make more positive friends. Reading can improve the mind, and exercise can produce dopamine that makes people happy. Emotion is contagious, stay away from people with negative energy.
Finally, using meditation and mindfulness training, we can strengthen the internal connection with ourselves and improve the ability of emotional management.
Festinger's law says that only 65,438+00% of what happens in our life happens naturally, and the remaining 90% comes from our reaction to things. The same is true of emotions, which come from the remaining 90%.
Life is never smooth sailing, everyone has his own troubles and emotions, and the master of life is not without emotions, but should be good at controlling emotions and be the master of emotions.