Xu Yanyan is the mother of a 7-year-old boy. It has been three months since she divorced her ex-husband. In this regard, everyone is somewhat puzzled.

In everyone's eyes, the married life of the couple is quite normal. Both of them have developed well in their work and are regarded as middle-income groups. Usually, the couple behave normally outside, and they have never quarreled in front of everyone.

They have a new house and car, married for more than two years and have a lovely son. There is nothing to worry about.

This life is not easy, and she has to divorce her successful husband without warning. Isn't this the kind of person who has nothing to do when he is full?

Her husband is generous and considerate. Because Xu Yanyan insisted on bringing her son to her, considering the living problems of their mother and son, her ex-husband Yuan Zhigang left her the house when she divorced. Now she still lives in this community with her children, but troubles also follow. Whenever she goes out or comes back, there are always good neighbors whispering behind her back, saying, "Look, this is the woman who was born in happiness and insisted on divorcing her husband for no reason."

02

It's really funny to say, isn't it more comfortable for a person to take care of their children than for a couple to live a good life? Her husband is full of energy and will make money. It's hard to find lanterns. She was out of her mind trying to push it out abruptly.

After listening to these unfriendly words, she didn't know how uncomfortable she was, but in the end she had to bear it. Some things are only suitable for rotting in her stomach, and it is easier to become the talk of the idle population.

A smart person like her would never do such a stupid thing to entertain others with her own pain. Finally, she had to write down these embarrassing things in a locked diary and put them in the desk drawer.

If you are lucky enough to open it, you will find a passage written inside: others think that I divorced him because I am insane and have nothing to do, but marriage is really like shoes on my feet. Only I know whether it is suitable or not.

03

We seem to be well matched and happy, but in fact, we have never been happy, at least in my opinion. Since we got married, he has always insisted on separating the quilt cover from me, saying that it would be good for both of us, have a good rest and sleep well.

We are all office workers, so we should keep mental and physical strength to cope with the busy work, so as to get twice the result with half the effort, which is the correct health care model.

Xu Yanyan is very sad. She thinks her marriage will go wrong sooner or later. A man, since he got married, is unwilling to cover himself with the same quilt. He didn't want to express the minimum intimate behavior between such an ordinary partner, but also found such a realistic and calm reason. How important he can be in each other's hearts, she dare not guess.

Just for this matter, I got married for 8 years and quarreled for 8 years. In the end, she decided to let go, preferring to divorce rather than accept her husband's way of getting along. When they came out from the Civil Affairs Bureau, her ex-husband asked her puzzled: "Why do couples have to cover a quilt after marriage?"

She turned silently, turned her back on him, left alone, and finally didn't say her wish. In her mind, a woman has obviously married the man she likes, but she still has to quilt herself every night. That cold feeling is not as good as being single.

04

This is not the marriage she wants, nor the love she longs for. For her, love for the other half should not only stay in words, but must be expressed by actions.

He is stingy with a simple gesture and a hug, which makes her doubt their feelings, or at least think that the other party doesn't attach so much importance to and need themselves.

In fact, there is still a mode of sleeping in separate rooms in foreign life, and each husband and wife has their own independent space. They may only live in one room on weekends a week, but the relationship between husband and wife is much better than being in a strange strange bedfellows every day.

This also shows from another angle that how to promote and maintain the relationship between husband and wife has a considerable relationship with the different safe distances within each person and the different emotional needs of the other party. The most important thing is that the two sides have reached an agreement and there is no big difference in their views.

Generally speaking, men's thinking is rational and what they think is more realistic. However, if the wife is dependent, emotional and needs verbal or physical comfort from time to time, she has to ask the man to express something, which is sensitive and pays attention to the sense of ceremony. Then the husband will make changes according to the needs of the other party, instead of focusing on his own cognition, so maybe the marriage will be much happier and sweeter.