Look at Mr. Gui Fu first (1736- 1805):
The depth of his wisdom is thick, and the gift of loyalty is not complicated.
The first part of the book, "Deep wisdom makes thick", means to be open-minded and open-minded, so as to learn deeply.
The second couplet "faithfulness is not complicated" means that the inner spirit of "faithfulness" needs to be expressed in the external form of etiquette, paying attention to details and not being afraid of trouble. Confucius said: When you go out, you will meet big guests and make the people like big sacrifices. That's what I'm saying.
I remember that some scholars once put forward a pair of words, called "formal culture" and "quality culture", in which "formal culture" refers to the external form of various etiquette and "quality culture" refers to the internal spirit of various etiquette. Although "quality culture" is the decisive factor, it needs "formal culture" to express, consolidate and strengthen, which is probably the value of etiquette.
For example, on the Dragon Boat Festival, people eat zongzi and race dragon boats, which not only enjoy food and exercise, but also cultivate the spirit of unity and hard work. More importantly, it is through this "formal culture" that generations of China people continue to inherit and carry forward Qu Yuan's immortal spirit of loyalty to the country. Without eating zongzi and dragon boat racing, it is estimated that many people in China don't even know who Qu Yuan is, let alone inherit his spirit.
Another example is the Cold Food Festival. According to traditional customs, you can't make a fire on this day, but you can only eat cold food. But this custom seems to have been forgotten by most people in China (it is said that people in some mountainous areas in the south continue to insist on it, which is really "seeking the wild because of the loss of courtesy"). Personally, it's better to stick to the form of eating cold food without a fire-starting from next year, start at home. With this kind of "formal culture", Mr. Jie Zhitui's noble integrity of retiring without seeking wealth will be better passed down.
Also, I remember when I was a child, every time I celebrated traditional festivals such as Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Laba, the food at home was often more delicious than usual. My mother always makes me kowtow to my ancestors' memorial tablets, usually kowtowing or bowing three times. At that time, the life was very bitter, and there was almost no oil and water in ordinary meals. After the holiday, life has improved slightly, and the children are drooling and impatient when they look at the food. But mom always asks everyone to wait until after the ceremony.
I didn't stick to this habit after I got married myself. Now writing here, I still think I can stick to it. The Doctrine of the Mean says: A filial person is good at inheriting people's aspirations and telling people's affairs. Through this form, we often miss the words and deeds of our ancestors and check our own mistakes, which can be regarded as continuing to be filial.
There is a popular saying that "details determine success or failure", which is true of many workplace etiquette. If I ask you-do you know how to send an email? You may scoff and think this question is "retarded". However, if you read the following article carefully, your reaction may be different:
Have you ever received such an email? The sender's name is "Fortunately, I was buried in the coming night" and the title of the email is "Hello!" You thought it must be spam that escaped the net, but you still opened it and found that it was actually the supplier's plan and quotation. You have been looking for it for a long time, but there is no plan and no quotation. Write back and ask. He said: Ah! Forgot to add the attachment. I will send it again.
What do you think of this supplier? If it were me, I wouldn't cooperate. It's so unreliable.
If you are a manager, I suggest you take a test. Find five employees who deal with customers the most, and then randomly select 10 emails from each employee to see the title, greeting, segmentation, words, signature, font and color. I guess you'll be in a cold sweat-that's how we drive our customers away step by step!
From 65438 to 0999, I joined Microsoft as an engineer. At that time, Microsoft hired more than a dozen language experts to proofread every email. They are very picky about how to start the title of the email, how to greet it, how to start the first sentence, when to use Arabic numerals 1, 2, 3, when to use one, two, three and how to sign it. Words and grammar should be not only wrong, but also faithful and elegant. Engineers who have been tortured by language experts for a long time and finally graduated can send emails directly to customers.
Once, I asked Michelle, the leader of the language expert group, is it necessary to be so strict? Imagine, she said, that there are many people you will never meet face to face in your life. The only way you can impress him is by email.
Her words inspired me. I think this is what China people often say: "See words like faces". Internet age: seeing an email is like seeing a face.
So, what should a good email look like? The basic etiquette when we meet people is not to be beautiful, but to be clean. The same is true of a good email. Simple and clean is the foundation. Then there is your style. Here, take "the title of the mail" as an example to illustrate:
The first thing the email receiver sees is two things: your display name and the email title.
Therefore, the first step of email etiquette is to use your real name. Such as "Liu Run" or "Runmi Consulting-Liu Run". Personalized, poetic and especially binary names, such as "lucky to be buried in the coming night" and "a maverick pig", can be used in your QQ signature, not in business emails.
Then the title. Summarize the core of this email in less than 20 words. "Hello", "From xx Company" and "Quotation" are not good titles. Please Review: Proposal and Quotation of Project Y by Company X is a good title.
—— Excerpted from the APP "Liu Run: 5 Minutes Business School"
How do you feel after reading it?
Let's review The Gift of Loyalty is Not Complicated. You can send an email with such a rigorous and serious attitude, which is your loyalty to your work; If you can pay attention to so many details when sending an email, you will make the recipient respect it and gain the trust of the other party more easily. This is probably "the gift of loyalty and righteousness is not complicated".
Then look at Mr. Zhai Yunsheng (1776- 1860):
Jude is happiest when he is good, and rich in knowledge when he is reasonable.
The first couplet reads "Ju De Yi is the happiest", among which "Ju De Yi" comes from "Good Deeds" written by Xie Lingyun, a poet in the Southern and Northern Dynasties. The meaning of this sentence is-accumulating virtue is the way to keep in good health, and the best "virtue" is kindness. As the saying goes, "accumulate virtue and do good"! I remember that there is a couplet in Mr. Ma Ying's office, which also talks about "goodness"-gold is not a treasure book, everything is empty and all is good.
The second part is "Li Shunfu is rich in learning, dūn", in which "Li Shunfu" comes from the "moving proverb" in the four proverbs n (seeing, listening, speaking and moving) written by Cheng Yi, a great scholar in the Song Dynasty. The original text is as follows:
Philosophers know a few things and think of their sincerity;
People with lofty ideals will do something and not do something.
Reasoning is rich, and desire is dangerous;
Think twice, be afraid, and be self-sustaining;
Practice and nature, sages and sages return together.
"If you are reasonable, you will have money, and if you want to be dangerous, you will be dangerous", which means that if you act according to heaven, the road will be wider and wider; If you only want to satisfy your own selfish desires, it will become more and more dangerous.
? "Learning to be excellent is to be an official", that is, learning is the same, and we must act according to the sky. Only in this way can knowledge avoid confusion and contradiction and be integrated and accumulated.
Let's take a look at Mr. He Weipu (1842- 1922):
Xiu De is not ashamed to know his own feet, but if he asks questions, and only if he has no desire, he is rich.
This couplet is very clear, so I won't go into details.
Then look at Mr. Weng Tonghe (1830- 1904):
Keep your mouth shut, cherish your health, and look at ancient times and study winter from China.
The first part of this book "Keep your mouth shut and love your body like a tripod" says-don't talk casually, but respect yourself. Some people think that their introversion is a shortcoming, but in fact people are often more willing to cooperate with people who don't gossip. As the old saying goes, people should respect themselves first, and then others should pay attention to themselves. "Introversion" and "self-esteem" are somewhat related.
The second part of the book "Looking at the Ancient Learning and Learning from China in Winter" says-you have to be stupid, and you have to be able to withstand loneliness; Without the harsh winter, there will be no youth in the Spring Festival. As the saying goes, "plum blossoms come from bitter cold."
Let's look at Mr. Tang Zhaojin again (1772- 1856):
Be sensitive and cautious, cultivate their nature, and read poetry with benevolence and righteousness.
These two sentences, "Be sensitive and cautious, cultivate one's nature, live with benevolence, and read poetry with righteousness", are in themselves a good way to cultivate one's morality and can be used as a motto.
Then look at Mr. Song Xiang (1748- 1862):
Be sensitive, be careful, there is a way. Read poetry, read and travel to the ancients.
This article is similar to the previous one, which says "Min, in a cautious way, you are still traveling and reading the ancients". I made it very clear, so I won't say much.
Let's look at Mr. Wu Dacheng (1835- 1902):
If you are blessed, you can be diligent and persistent, and if you are excellent, you will be willing to learn.
The first part of the book, "If there is a blessing, you can be diligent" and "If there is a blessing, you can be diligent", that is, you should be modest about the blessing. Blessing is coming and acceptable; If you are unlucky, you should take it lightly. Don't always feel that you deserve everything you get. "Diligence can make up for it" roughly means that if you want to extend your life, you have to be diligent to make up for it. A father is better than a mother. If you have money, you will sit quietly.
The second couplet "It's the happiest thing to learn from goodness" is very clear, so I won't say much.
Then look at Mr. Gao Dong (1740- 18 18):
Diligence can make up for mistakes, quietness can keep honesty, and kinetic energy can be judged.
The first part of the book "Diligence can make up for the shortage of money" and "Diligence can make up for the shortage of money" means that people with average intelligence can live a good life as long as they are diligent. Mr. Zeng Guofan once said with emotion: At all times and in all countries, all mediocrity in the world was defeated by the word "lazy". "Thrift means that life is simple and simple, and there will be less demand, so you will not always think about greed and cheapness, and naturally you will make fewer mistakes.
The second part, "Calm down and be honest, move a few times to judge" and "Calm down and be honest" means to calm down and reflect more and see if you are sincere. "Move a few times to judge" means that once a new idea comes to mind, we should seriously consider whether it is good or evil, and always remind ourselves that "don't do it because it is small, don't stop doing it because it is small".
Here, "Gigi" means "sign". Liu Zhiji J: (66 1-72 1), a historian in the Tang Dynasty, has a mysterious word. The "extreme" and "mysterious" here can explain each other, and both mean "subtle".
Buddha said: Bodhisattva is afraid of cause, but ordinary people are afraid of fruit. It means-Bodhisattva attaches great importance to motivation, and if the motivation is not good, it will end immediately; Ordinary people tend to ignore the good and evil of motivation, and wait until disaster arrival to regret "why should I have known today!" " "
Let's look at Mr. Mei Tiaoding again (1839- 1906):
Rites are used to control pleasure and morality, and frugality is used to make contributions.
It is clear that "frugality is enough, thrift is effective", so let's just talk about it here.
"Courtesy controls virtue" is about the functions of "courtesy" and "music".
Tracing back to the source, Duke Zhou of the Western Zhou Dynasty (surnamed Ji Mingdan, the fourth son of Zhou Wenwang and the younger brother of Zhou Wuwang) was the chief designer of the earliest ritual and music system in China. Regarding the meanings of "Li" and "Yue", Confucius (674-648), a great scholar in the early Tang Dynasty, said in Notes on the Book of Rites: "If the music masters are in harmony, the distance is close; If the owner is respectful, he will be noble and orderly. " It means to use "music" to coordinate emotions and "ceremony" to distinguish between honor and inferiority. The purpose of implementing the system of rites and music is to ensure social order and harmony.
Looking back at the first part of this book, "courtesy is a code of conduct" means that "courtesy" is a code of conduct for people, and people of different grades and roles should act according to their own code of conduct. The meaning of "being charitable" is that the function of "music" is "harmony", that is, people of different grades and roles can live in harmony.
From the perspective of real life, we find teachers, civil servants, window staff and so on. Everyone has a written code of conduct, and many enterprises will also formulate corresponding codes of conduct for all kinds of employees. This is the modern version of "controlling behavior with courtesy". How about Music and Virtue? Let's take a look at the popular "team building" activities, the purpose of which is to narrow the distance between team members.
Finally, look at Teacher Yu Yue (182 1- 1906):
There is a benevolent wind in the room, and it is very good to prevent it without losing its gas.
This pair is elegantly written, and the upper and lower couplets all quote sentences from the Book of Songs. Confucius once said: If you don't learn poetry, you have nothing to say. At that time, The Book of Songs was like an idiom dictionary, so was the communication between nobles, and it was aristocratic. Distance produces beauty, and the use of idioms and allusions will produce a sense of distance in language, which will make the expression have greater depth of field and connotation, thus making it more beautiful.
The first part of the book, "Benevolence in the room makes me have my place", means that the place where I live is really an ideal home.
I don't know the origin of "benevolence in the room", but the fourth article in the 20 th Analects of Confucius is to establish people. The first sentence of this article says-Confucius said: "It is beautiful to establish a person. If you choose unkind people, how do you know (through "wisdom")? " It means-it's good to be near Zhu Zhechi and Mexico and live with kind people. If you don't choose to live with kind people, how can you say that you are wise? "
"I have my place" comes from The Book of Songs, Feng Wei said.
The second book, "A good reputation and eloquence do not lose its ambition", comes from Mencius and Teng Wengong, and the original text is as follows:
My former friend made peace, but he didn't get a bird all day. Mi Xi rebelled and said,' The world is cheap.' Or sue Wang Liang. Liang Dao: "Please reply." If you are strong, you can get ten birds at once. Mi Xi rebelled and said, "There is a good job in the world." Jianzi said,' I am in the palm of my hand with a woman.' Wang Liang said. Ok, say:' I am driving for it, not for a day; I met ten at once. The poem says: "If you don't lose your breath, you will give up your target like a broken one. "I don't take advantage of little people. Please resign. The charioteer is ashamed to compare with the shooter; Compared with wild animals, it is a hill and a blessing. If you follow the Tao in vain, why not? Besides, sons have gone too far: those who waste themselves cannot become upright people. "
The general idea of this passage is that in the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Wang Liang, who was a master of driving a carriage. However, he has his own rules when driving. Just like the Book of Songs, he won't let the carriage break the rules and run at will. The owner wants to tell him to drive at will, but he won't do it.
"Don't lose your will" comes from The Book of Songs Xiaoya Che Gong Pian, in which "loss" should be "loss", which means "indulgence" and "out of control".
Generally speaking, the author wants to use the example of driving a carriage to tell the truth that a man must have rules and can't just sit and do whatever he wants.
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