Now I often chat with Yuwa before going to bed. Basically every night, I wait for him to lie down and talk to him, and then turn off the lights. The last sentence every night is "good night, mom loves you", and Yuwa will also say "I love you too", which has become a habit.
Yuwa has been obedient since she was a child. When I was a child, I lived in the air force compound and took him to the supermarket. When she sees something delicious and interesting, she will ask, "Mom, can I buy this?" "No," he pointed to another thing in another place. "Can I buy this?" , "no", and then he left without any emotion. Never rolling around. He learned from Xiao Yuwa that you can buy what you need and don't buy what you don't need.
When she was a child, Yuwa loved to get sick. Chinese medicine told me not to eat cold food, so I never gave him ice cream. Sometimes if you want to eat by yourself, just discuss with him. Mom has an ice cream. Can you not eat? Yuwa will be good and say, okay. This incident made me relish, although later, no matter what Chinese medicine theory, we drank ice water and ate popsicles barefoot, leaving the profound teaching of Chinese medicine behind. Later, for a time, Yuwa ate ice cream every day, especially in summer. Until recently, because of acne, doctors suggested eating less foods with high oil and sugar. Yuwa basically ate an ice cream every week or two.
It turns out that Yuwa is old enough to care about her image. She takes a bath every day, washes her hair in the morning and exercises to lose weight. She can be very temperate for the acne on her face. Ice cream is the most difficult thing for him to change, and she also held back. Drinks, chocolates and sweets are seldom eaten. He said that students often order milk tea to take out at school, but he never ordered it. Award-winning Snickers and chocolates given by his birthday friend, which he once loved very much, were given to others for fear of getting fat and getting acne. The doctor says Yuwa should drink more boiled water every day. Sometimes I ask him if he drinks more water at school. He said he was the healthiest person in the school, because he was either in class or in the bathroom, which was summed up by his classmates and teachers. I felt funny after listening to it.
Yuwa has a particularly good appetite now. This is when he grew up. He likes eating meat, but we say it will be healthier to drink milk and eat more vegetables every day. So, if I cook him a big dish at night with only a little oil and salt in it, he can eat it all, and the fruit and milk are delicious every day. Maybe he's used to it and knows it's healthier. Yuwa is willing to eat.
It is said that adolescent children are easily influenced by others, including the power of positive role models and the pressure of negative peers. Children who grew up in jh and jh schools have a lot of good teaching and role models around them, which is of great help to Yuwa's growth. Therefore, Yuwa's father and I have been very happy to go to jh school. Two things left a deep impression on me. First, Yuwa came back to talk about it. Uncle Li said in a lecture that even if your parents are wrong, you should respect them, because they are your parents ... In the past, Yuwa sometimes talked back or lost his temper when she disciplined me and my father, but now it is less and less. Maybe sometimes his own ideas haven't changed, but his attitude is still relatively mild. He believes that the words of his elders are right. In addition, we will have dinner every month, and each family will bring a lot of delicious food. It was really the Eight Immortals crossing the sea, and many people began to line up for dinner. Later, it was discovered that Yuwa and other teenagers had to wait for everyone to start eating before they started taking food. Sometimes when dad sees something delicious, he can't help asking him to eat it. Yuwa is playing ball with other children, unmoved. Later, Yu Wa said that the teacher had warned that boys could not surpass them until later. I also found that some people always eat last and usually don't pay attention. On one occasion, Yuwa said that he would feel very comfortable if someone pressed the elevator for him or waited for him in the elevator. "Why do I like polite people so much?" Therefore, he is also learning to be a polite person.
Yuwa has a gentle personality, often follows the crowd with friends, rarely strongly opposes anything, and, like me, is unlikely to refuse others. So I'm worried that YuWa will be negatively influenced by peers. I used to read on the news that in the United States, a group of children hurt a student and were finally punished, including those who didn't do it because his onlookers encouraged violence. There are also many crimes. In fact, it is not necessarily the decision of some children. They just followed their friends and did something wrong on impulse. My worry may be unnecessary, but I will also tell Yuwa (this is the advantage of chatting with children often, so that they can know your thoughts and needs at any time, which requires a good relationship with children, otherwise they are lovers).
Recently, Yuwa participated in a kiki charity running project, and won the parents' reward (60 yuan) by running 20+ times a month, and finally dedicated it to children who were out of school. Yuwa jumps and runs with her friends every night. He felt that he was still a little fat and said that he would go to the gym to practice more muscles when the gym allowed. I saw examples of fat people becoming beautiful men on the Internet (such as stars Li Xian and Eddie Peng Yuyan Yu Yan), so I showed it to Yuwa, who was envious. Take your mobile phone with you every time you go out, because you need to use the running software of your mobile phone to record it. I can't play games. It's so dark outside that I give him a fixed game time every day. Yuwa agreed, and I don't trust to tell him again. Later, he told me that he had been learning to abide by his own principles recently. Once he has decided, he must abide by it. For example, he was punished by the teacher for chatting with his classmates in class, so he decided not to chat in class anymore. He reached an agreement with his classmates in advance. If his classmates told him, he just nodded and shook his head, and waited until after class to say anything. For another example, when he was running, he jumped to watch his game, but Yuwa refused because he promised his mother not to play with his mobile phone while running. Jumping and joking, why are you so powerful? He is determined to exercise his principles, and if he has a view of right and wrong, he can have judgment and self-control over the influence of his peers.
Yuwa school regularly lets them read some English books. Some time ago, what they read seemed to be a popular science book written by economists. Yuwa will tell me about his reading experience, including his awareness of saving money, including trying not to borrow money or overdraw his credit card, and getting up early for a while. Even if you empty your mind, you will think about things that you usually can't take care of when you are awake. Now Yu Wa always gets up at six o'clock, but she is seldom free. Most of them are busy reciting the homework left by the teacher.
If the general direction is good, even some minor faults can be accepted. What imperfect parents we are. So I often fight with Yuwa because of the use of mobile phones. Hiding the phone every day and moving to another place, with a bad memory, makes Yuwa very nervous. He's worried that one day I won't remember and then I can't find his beloved mobile phone. I will shake my head when he looks for homework before going to bed. I will indulge him and shout "I must eat a popsicle today". I even occasionally buy a bottle of diet coke and the Arctic Ocean to surprise Yuwa and put it in the refrigerator, because I also want to taste the Arctic Ocean! When I was eating, I asked Yu Wa, have you peeled the litchi you have eaten for so many years? Yuwa giggled, and Yuwa's father quickly proudly said that my son peeled the eggs himself yesterday morning. I regret to say, "We should take a picture as a souvenir", haha. In fact, my father and I are dragging our feet and rushing to serve.
We are glad to see YuWa grow up. He is getting stronger and stronger, and his mind is becoming more and more mature. In the process of growing up, learn to correct your thoughts a little, form good habits slowly, and see your progress, which will make you more confident and encouraged. These are all good. In fact, this is also due to YuWa's lack of involution. YuWa has time and energy to do something beneficial to herself, not just study.
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