One can surpass others, which is not true success. It can only prove that you are stronger and can surpass yourself.

Why do some people, once they quit the workplace, immediately become decadent? Often because you can't find your opponent, you are at a loss. The older the older, the younger the old man, taking the leisure days at home as a new beginning and welcoming the second spring of life.

There is a good saying: "you are nervous about controlling others;" Controlling yourself is the spirit. "

Therefore, when people are old, rejecting "internal friction" is self-discipline. Don't "hit yourself".

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Reject physical "internal friction".

There is a word called "excessive maintenance".

Many old people, afraid of getting old, eat health products, go to beauty salons and exercise all day long. In terms of health care, I am particularly concerned.

What to eat for three meals a day, there are strict recipes, and life is particularly regular. Even if it is windy and rainy, it will not stop running outside.

But excessive maintenance has accelerated the aging of the body.

There is an old saying: "The old roots of trees decay first, and the old legs of people decay first." Many old people, don't believe it, run more fiercely than young people. As a result, the kneecap doesn't adapt, or falls down, resulting in a fracture.

Of course, there are also old people who have nothing to do, go to the so-called lectures every day, and then configure their own recipes according to the teacher's instructions. As we all know, everyone's physique is different, and there are some things that his body can't bear.

A wise man takes proper care of it and then grows old naturally. Instead of torturing the body, it is a more spiritual life, and the usual diet and daily life are very simple.

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Reject spiritual "internal friction".

Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, wrote in his diary: "People are impetuous, hypocritical and depressed because they have selfish desires. Only by getting rid of excessive selfish desires can they reach the realm of "sincerity", and then stop mental internal friction and make a good reconciliation with themselves. "

In this life, in the final analysis, what needs to be reconciled is not the contradiction between people, nor what to let go, but the harmony with the heart-to reduce the burden on the soul.

If you can't get something, give it up and don't think about it; If you can't hold hands, let it go, and whether you want to meet in the next life, let it go; People and things that are not pleasing to the eye can be seen generously without any embarrassment.

When you are sick, you will not be afraid, but will learn more about your own lesions, and then prescribe the right medicine to relieve the pain. There is a long-term plan to fight the disease.

Gorky said, "The more you read, the stronger and braver your spirit will be."

On the way to getting old, only by strengthening study and reading more books can we keep up with the development of society. When the mouth is fragrant, there will be light in the eyes and a special expression on the face.

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Reject "internal friction" in interpersonal relationships.

My sixth uncle was the office director of the local timber company before he retired.

One day, the retired general manager of the company invited him to dinner.

Uncle Liu wanted to go, but he didn't want to. Anyway, he went. At the moment he returned home, he was particularly angry: "Why should he be a waiter and bring water and wine to all the old leaders?"

Aunt Liu said, "You don't have to go."

Come to think of it, it is. A retired person is an ordinary person, no matter what official he used to be, that's all, he won't be one level higher than you.

Older people can't stand the social environment of "riding a pawn". On the one hand, I am very tired, on the other hand, I am too embarrassed.

Old people should take the initiative to stay away from the social stage and kick some inappropriate people out of their lives. For example, look down on your relatives, your old boss, your friends and your exchange of interests.

It should be said that it is the most shameful thing to care too much about other people's faces.

In the TV series Jong, Zhang Zuolin said: "Jianghu is not a fight, Jianghu is secular."

Interpersonal communication is essentially "human interaction" and then "mutual use". After feelings, add a sentence and become an "emotional card."

When people are old, there is no need to gather contacts. It is enough to have three or five confidants. On weekdays, one or two friends cultivate a hobby and enjoy it.

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Reject "internal friction" between family members.

I don't understand this sentence, "home and everything prosper."

Perhaps, many old people have been instilled into "children's enemies" by the chicken soup of "raising children to prevent women from getting old".

In fact, no matter how bad the relationship between parents and children is, the blood relationship cannot be abandoned. When parents are old and their children are unable to support you, it is also happy to make a phone call every once in a while.

Learn to have a good relationship with children. Although the elderly may suffer financially, a good family atmosphere will make the elderly enjoy happiness.

In addition, husband and wife should find a suitable way to get along with each other, and don't bump into each other every day because they get too close.

Be nice to your lover when you are old. This is the proper meaning. It doesn't matter if you pay a lot and get nothing. After all, rich water does not flow outside the field.

Concluding remarks.

Some people say, "A sure business is to invest in yourself."

How to invest in yourself? We should start with rejecting internal friction and minimize the loss, so that the effect of investment will be more obvious.

There is a saying in Anti-Internal Friction: "Behind all kinds of entanglements that we know but can't do, it is actually our endless self-struggle."

Many troubles, which seem to come from others, actually come out of themselves.

If you don't know how to refuse, let troubles breed and grow wildly, your future life will be doomed to chaos and despair.

In the later life, you should understand what you need to do now, and then practice it step by step, respect the natural law of aging and not be influenced by others, so that you won't be too tired.

Live a good life, accept things, and don't meet in the future. At that time, it was not mixed, neither love nor love.

May you meet a better self.