A woman's greatest enemy is still a woman. No matter how smart and capable a person is, when he meets someone called his mother-in-law, your arrogance will be extinguished by more than half.
You are bound to take her son, who was pregnant in October and brought up hard, as your own. Where's the son? Abandon the old and welcome the new, and prepare to throw yourself into the arms of another woman. I feel guilty and must not expect too much.
Therefore, if you want to enter the classroom, you have to be modest and try to please your future mother-in-law. Are you sure of winning her favor? Remember, you can't tear your face when you fight for it. It's hard!
According to the experience of experienced people, if you want to pass this wooden alley smoothly, you must keep in mind two secrets: one is to show that you will take good care of her precious son, and the other is to ensure that her role as the queen mother is timeless and irreplaceable. Anyway, after closing the door, it's nobody's business to order a person to kneel down and be Li. However, in front of her future mother-in-law, she has to do some superficial work to ensure peace in the world.
What strategies should you take to take care of yourself in order to escape from your kind-hearted mother? It depends on the role of your future mother-in-law Look at each other's weaknesses and find out what to do. Otherwise, whether you like it or not, a flurry with sleeves will make you stumble and lose in a hurry.
The following is a list of five schools for future mother-in-law. Let me think of a solution for you. I hope you can pass the test smoothly and have a lover.
(1) Love the school
She is a loving mother, and her love is as vast as the sea. If she slips, she will be submerged in it. She calls her son every day to remind him to go home for dinner; Her son's little finger was slightly scratched, so she went back to heaven to grab the land.
Your presence immediately threatened her master position. At the slightest sign of trouble, she will suspect that you deliberately usurped the throne and put her in the cold, so she will be wary of you everywhere.
In the face of a loving future mother-in-law, this will definitely work. Because they often think that they can feel at ease when they are "needed". Therefore, you must restrain your carelessness, suppress your true spirit, pretend to be helpless, play a poor role, let her take care of you, guide you, let her continue to play the glory of maternal love, and make her feel important, then your next days will be calm.
Mei, 23: "I was very hostile to me at first because I loved my son Su Yi very much, but since I told her some troubles, such as my inexplicable stomachache, even the doctor could do nothing and my blood pressure was low, she was busy introducing the soil and occasionally stewed it for me." Mei's "helplessness" makes her future mother-in-law feel that the sword in the world is still her, and her self-esteem has been ironed. On the other hand, since the daughter-in-law is so bad, how can we snatch the baby from her palm? Finally, of course I will treat you as one of my own, and love me, love my dog.
However, don't forget that you should always thank your future mother-in-law for her kindness and charity, and it is best to buy some small gifts or snacks occasionally to please her.
(2) Cixi School
She is the critical and indifferent Empress Dowager Cixi. Even if you are proficient in all kinds of martial arts, talented and beautiful, virtuous and virtuous, you can't reach her level in front of her. Prepare to jump into the well.
In any case, the ugly daughter-in-law will meet her mother-in-law after all, and it is best to dress conservatively when meeting for the first time, because pick bones from eggs, wear plain colors, choose simple accessories, and try to reduce the number of "bones" to be picked.
However, there is no need to be too accommodating, so as not to be self-defeating, she will think you are shabby, or you can please a woman with a nose. There is no need to dress up as a crystal lamp, and there is no need to go against your own principles and nature.
Anyway, in her eyes, no one is up to standard. No matter how hard you try, she will always have something to say, so don't waste your effort to meet all her standards. The best way is to concentrate, show your expertise, impress her and let her know that you are not a flatterer.
Xiaoying (26-year-old accountant)' s strategy is to emphasize mutual interests. "We all like art. Whenever I know that I will meet her at the art exhibition, I will definitely do my homework and behave well before. Once I talk about the taste of a house or clothes, I will try to change the subject because our views in this regard are very different. " Focusing on what we agree with each other, while avoiding topics with different views, can reduce "moving" ... >; & gt
Question 2: Concern for the woman's parents. Hello, let me answer your question.
It is very important to meet for the first time, because if you have a bad impression this time, it will be difficult to change your image in the future, so I think we should pay attention to several points. First of all, the most important thing is to know the girl's mother, what she likes and what she accepts easily. So I don't want you to pretend, because you can pretend to be fashionable all your life. Therefore, after getting to know the girl's mother, you should pay attention to dress and talk, especially to make your aunt feel that you pay special attention to this girl, which will bring happiness to a girl. As for whether to bring something or not, I think we should bring something. After all, it is more important for a country of etiquette to reciprocate, but it is recommended not to be too expensive. The reason mentioned by netizens before is that on the one hand, you should not let the girl's mother think that you are an accident.
My answer is so much, I hope I can help you and hope to adopt it!
Question 3: What should I pay attention to when meeting my parents? What should parents pay attention to when they first meet?
First of all, don't forget to say hello.
When you enter the door, you must gently lock the door and get permission before you can enter. When you are introduced to his (her) parents, you should politely bow and say hello to the other parents.
Xiao Wang didn't pay attention to this when he went to his girlfriend's house for the first time. My girlfriend's family condition is not very good, and she still lives in a bungalow. The neighbors of the bungalow are very casual and hospitable. Just go in and out. When Xiao Wang arrived at his girlfriend's door, he unconsciously integrated into this atmosphere. As soon as he entered the door, he sat in a chair and chatted with his future parents-in-law. The two old people didn't say anything at that time, but chatted with Xiao Wang very easygoing. But as soon as Xiao Wang's front foot came out, the two old people took turns attacking their daughters. "How did you find such a rude boyfriend?" That's rude. "
Second, respect the customs and habits of the elderly.
When you meet the other parent for the first time, when the host serves tea, you should stand up, take the tea with both hands and say "thank you". Sit up straight and don't cross your legs. If your elders have never smoked, don't smoke first, let alone look around.
Xiao Li and her husband have been married for two years, because the first time they met their in-laws, they left a bad impression. It took two years to change this bad impression. Xiao Li is a smoker. In a city in the northeast, it is normal for girls to smoke. But Xiao Li's husband is from Hunan and can't accept girls smoking. Xiao Li entered her boyfriend's house and was very polite. Chatting, she took out a cigarette and began to smoke. Xiao Li's future in-laws were surprised and thought it was impolite for girls to smoke. Afterwards, Xiao Li's boyfriend explained it to his parents for a long time, but his parents still couldn't accept the fact.
Third, speak politely.
When you meet each other's parents for the first time, you should listen to your elders and answer more questions. You can take the initiative to talk about something in the future. Don't chatter or interrupt others' conversation. It is not advisable to sit for a long time at the first visit. When you leave, you should say goodbye to your parents.
Xiao Liu is a newspaper reporter. He is usually eloquent. Everyone likes his sweet mouth. But Xiao Liu went to his girlfriend's house for the first time, hoping to win. Xiao Liu's girlfriend's mother was born in the 1950s. She likes to talk about political topics and especially worships Chairman Mao. Xiao Liu seized this opportunity and talked about Chairman Mao's era. Unexpectedly, Xiao Liu's girlfriend's mother and Xiao Liu have different views. Xiao Liu almost had a debate with his girlfriend's mother on this issue and blushed. When Konaizu came to the door, his girlfriend's mother was still flushed and angry.
Conclusion:
Since it is a child's choice, ordinary parents will try their best to like and take care of it. However, when you meet other parents for the first time, it is very unwise to think of yourself as a child. It is important to pay attention to the impression left by the first meeting. Of course, after having a good first impression, we should keep it up. After all, all virtues put filial piety first, love his other half, and of course love his parents!
Question 4: When you go to a woman's house for the first time, you should pay attention to what women like to be praised. You can praise her mother's vitality and beauty. Don't be young and beautiful. That may make her mother even more disgusted unless her mother is really beautiful. Let's find something about fitness and health. Older women pay more attention to health. For example, we can say what to eat and how to eat in autumn.
His mother is hard to win, but we can also start with his father. Just ask his girlfriend, his father's hobbies first. Do you like military affairs or international politics, or history, or chess, flowers and tea? Just make it up. I think all men like the same hobby, so let his father have a good impression on you, so as to put in a good word for you in front of his mother.
The following is the most important point, which must be paid attention to.
If you want to show your love for your girlfriend in front of your parents, you must do it, even if you feel fake and pretentious.
This is the key. Let parents think that if she calls you, you will be kind to his daughter and reassure them.
Also, be sure to bring gifts, heavy ones. Eating people is soft, taking people is soft. Even if his mother doesn't like you, I'm embarrassed to accept your gift. This is China. The more expensive the gift, the better.
That's all my advice. You should play it by ear.
Finally, I wish you and your girlfriend happiness, and then I wish you pass the interview.
Q:
Her father is very cultured and easy to talk to. I learned a lot from my girlfriend. Her father likes chess, and I'm going to give him a pair of China chess, which is of course of better quality! Hangzhou also has West Lake Longjing Tea. Old people like drinking tea.
Her mother is an absolute power eye. To tell the truth, I haven't seen her, but I didn't expect to have such power. And despotic!
Answer:
There are parallel imports in West Lake Longjing. I have already bought it. Pay attention when buying. Don't forget to give her mother a present. The packaging of the gift department must be good. It looks very valuable. You'd better pick it with your girlfriend. First, she knows what her mother likes, and second, he has seen the price, which shows how much you attach importance to this interview. Third, seeing the high price, she will tell her parents after you leave. Parents will be very happy to hear this and think that obedient children will teach.
One more thing, don't speak ill of her parents in front of your girlfriend.
In children's eyes, parents are heaven and earth. Be dissatisfied with his parents in time, don't complain. You can say it politely, but you'd better not say it. Your greatest support now. This is your girlfriend. So this support can't be lost.
Finally, don't forget to tell me when you marry your girlfriend. Wish you all the best.
Q:
All right, lovely friend! Thank you, I'm going to Chengdu to meet her parents this time!
Answer:
Don't forget my reward and how did you find me?
Q:
After telling you so much, the best answer is you, otherwise I wouldn't keep asking. This is adopted! Thank you!
Answer:
No, no, I wish I could help others.
Question 5: What should I pay attention to when I meet my parents for the first time? 20 points. It's best to give priority to the man's mother when meeting his parents for the first time. If circumstances permit, you can buy a bag for the other mother. After all, this is something to take with you. It makes people think it will be sweet. Be generous when you meet your parents for the first time. You can't say hello to your uncle and aunt in a coy way. Don't follow your boyfriend around, sit down and talk to his parents. Clothing is simple and decent, not too complicated. And try not to draw heavy clothes, you can simply draw light clothes. I wish you success! Let's go
Question 6: When you meet your parents for the first time, what you should pay attention to is definitely important, but don't pay too much attention to it, otherwise it will be too melodramatic. Only by meeting your parents can you do these things well. First, you greet everyone with a smile, but you don't always smile. Second, you can't just follow your boyfriend. Wherever your boyfriend goes, you follow him. This is unacceptable. You're here to see your parents, not to follow your boyfriend. Let them know more about you, as long as you say how good you can be, it is king to make your boyfriend's parents happy first. Fourth, pay attention when eating. It is important for girls to be diligent. You must help clear up the dishes and chopsticks after eating. At least it's important to pack them! Help clean up in the kitchen, and the man and mother will definitely not let you wash the dishes. Then you said, you don't want me to help you, let me chat with you! As long as you follow this routine, you will win everything.
Question 7: What should girls pay attention to when they meet their parents? Five precautions that girls must know before meeting their parents.
What to wear?
Girls should be elegant. If it is summer, a simple and generous dress+low-heeled shoes is the safest dress. If it is winter, sweater+pants+windbreaker is also good. When you meet for the first time, you should keep a low profile and never make public. Always remember two words-modesty. Elegant and clean makeup is very pleasing, as long as it is light makeup, not heavy makeup to show a good mental outlook. Solid color hair is best.
How to address
Like the man, ask the birth year of the other parent in advance, and then decide whether to call him uncle or aunt. Girls, it is best to smile, which will be very friendly.
Don't call your parents just because you want to befriend them. This will make the other parents feel that you don't respect them, and your impression will be greatly reduced.
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You can choose some places that can reflect your strengths, such as consideration. You can be caring and attentive to the elderly appropriately, but remember, you can answer whatever they ask you. Girls should not be too active, it will be annoying to talk too much. If you are afraid of silence, talk to your boyfriend in advance and let him find some topics to ease the atmosphere. When you talk and communicate, you should be sweet and likable, and say what the man's parents like to hear.
Give sb. a present
Girls' minds are generally more delicate. They can send a bunch of flowers to the man's mother and then a set of cosmetics that she has been using, which is decent and generous. It should be noted that it is best to ask the specific brand, which one, otherwise the wrong first impression will be discounted.
Matters needing attention
Ugly daughter-in-law always wants to see her in-laws, and many MM are particularly nervous when they meet their parents. In fact, as long as you relax, you can see your elders and a pair of parents who left their sons to take care of themselves. There is no need to be too subservient to Nuo Nuo and Nuo Nuo, and don't be cocky.
Question 8: What should I pay attention to when meeting the man's parents for the first time? Buy what the other parents like, and pay attention to manners and image.
Question 9: What should I pay attention to when I meet my parents for the first time? 1. First of all, I want to dress neatly (no fancy clothes). For boys, don't leave my hair too long. For girls, I'd better put on some makeup. Manicure clean.
2. Buy some milk, fruit, health products, etc.
3. Be polite when you enter the door, and call your uncle and aunt.
Try to avoid staying for dinner. If you can't refuse, just eat simply, be gentle as far as possible, and don't gobble like you haven't eaten for hundreds of years.
Say goodbye when you leave.
Question 10: What should I pay attention to when I bring my boyfriend to meet my parents? I don't know much about you, so I can only give you an example
A good friend of mine is in the same situation as you. She brought her boyfriend home for the first time and brought many gifts, which were both practical and fancy. Finally, my friend's mother kicked her out of the house with a broom and said, "As long as I can open my eyes, you can't marry my daughter!" " "
That day, my friend and her mother had a big fight, and then she ran to her boyfriend's house crying. She said that her mother was so bad to him, and in order to show that she was on his side, she decided to fight to the death with her mother and not go home.
Then her boyfriend took her hand and walked around binjiang road, sang her some songs, hugged her, and then sent her home. When she was sent downstairs, he told her, "don't worry about your mother, she is doing it for your own good." As for me, I believe I can impress her. "
Later, her boyfriend often went to her house to see her. Of course, he also went to see her mother. At first, he was embarrassed and often turned away. Later, gradually, he let him in. He is very diligent. As soon as he arrived at her house, he did housework, washed, cooked and swept the floor to see what was missing at home. He will bring it next time. ...
They have been married for more than a year now. My friend's mother likes this son-in-law very much. Outsiders who don't have a good relationship saw the three of them together and thought they were mother and daughter-in-law.
What you want to buy really depends on what your parents like or lack, so it's better to be practical. In addition, this is also the most important point. It really doesn't matter to buy things. Whose parents are still short of gifts and can't take their marriage partner home. The purpose is to make parents like it and reassure them that their children will marry this stranger in front of them and get happiness. Therefore, your boyfriend's performance is the only one. Instead of thinking about what to buy, think about how to speak more calmly, how to dress more calmly, how to answer more tactfully, in a word-what can you do to please your parents. Let your parents ignore this shortcoming of his thinness and see more advantages instead. This is the key.