Psychological composition material 1 optimistic about death (Zhuangzi gave his wife a "song funeral")
When Zhuangzi's wife died, Keiko went to offer her condolences and saw Zhuangzi sitting with his legs crossed like a dustpan, singing while knocking on the basin. Keiko said, "You live with your wife. Your wife raised the children, and she died of old age. It's enough that you don't cry when she dies. Is it too much to sing while knocking on the basin? " Zhuangzi replied, "That's not true. She just died. How can I not be sad? But look at her origin, there is no life, not only no life but also no body, not only no body but also no breathing. Mix in the trance, change with the gas, change with the gas, change with the shape, and now die, just like the change of the four seasons. " Now everyone is resting quietly in the big room of heaven and earth, but I cry with her. I don't think this is my destiny, so I stopped crying. "Persistent mentality is often not desirable. There is a kind of moth that flies around candlelight as soon as it sees it. People drove it away with fans, but it flew back soon. Every time I fly back, I must bravely bump into the candlelight, and I will be burned and bruised by candlelight. Finally, I'll flop around a few times and fall to the ground and die. Everyone sitting there laughed at moths. This is stupid.
Mentality Composition Material 2 Yu Youren, a veteran of the Republic of China and a famous calligrapher, has experienced ups and downs in his life, but he has always been indifferent. Friends often ask him how to live long and healthy. He always points to the calligraphy and painting hanging on the living room wall and laughs without a word. It's a freehand lotus painting with a couplet beside it: Don't think about eight or nine, always think about one or two. Horizontal batch: Ruyi. As the saying goes, life is often unsatisfactory. If the mind serves things, it will only be suffocated by pessimism and despair, and the road of life is doomed to be like climbing a mountain with heavy load. Thinking about one or two things often means being grateful, grateful and cherished for wishful thinking in life, and finally resolving and transcending suffering with that openness and tenacity. I often think about one or two things, because situations are born of the mind-the problem itself is not a problem, but how to treat it is the biggest problem. I often think about one or two things. After all, it is one or two things that determine the quality of life and shape the realm of life.
Mentality 3. Open-minded attitude is the constituent material of career achievement (Hawking's story)
Once, at the end of the academic report, a young female reporter jumped onto the podium, deeply admired the great scientist who had lived in a wheelchair for more than 30 years, and asked piteously, "Mr. Hawking, Luger's disease has fixed you in a wheelchair forever. Don't you think fate has cost you too much? " This question was obviously abrupt and sharp, and the lecture hall was suddenly silent. Hawking's face is still full of quiet smile. He tapped the keyboard with his fingers that could still move, so with the standard London accent issued by the synthesizer, the following words were slowly but conspicuously displayed on the huge projection screen: my fingers can still move, and my brain can still think; I have the ideal that I pursue all my life. I love my relatives and friends. By the way, I still have a grateful heart ... after my heart trembled, the applause thundered. People flocked to the stage and gathered around this extraordinary scientist to pay sincere respect to him. People are deeply moved, not because of his suffering, but because of his persistence, optimism and courage when facing suffering directly. Life is like a blooming flower withering. Tides rise and fall, there are gains and losses, and there are pains and joys. If anyone always thinks that he has lost too much and is always tortured by this idea, then who is the most unfortunate person.
Mentality composition material 4 If you have a bad mentality, you can't succeed.
Hou Yi is a famous sharpshooter in ancient legends of China. On one occasion, the King of Xia asked Hou Yi to shoot an animal skin one foot square and a target one inch in diameter. He said to Hou Yi, "If you hit it, I'll give you 12 thousand gold;" If you miss it, I will cut your fief. " After hearing this, Hou Yi suddenly felt uneasy. When he shot an arrow at the hide, he missed it, and when he shot at the target, he missed it. Wang Xia asked the others, "Hou Yi always hits the target. Why didn't he hit a single shot today? Why? "One man replied," Hou Yi missed because he was happy with 12 thousand gold and worried about being fined for cutting the land. "If we can get rid of these external joys and sorrows, then everyone in the world can become a shooter worthy of Hou Yi!"
Mentality composition material 5 Obsessive mentality is often not desirable (moth to the fire)
There is a kind of moth that flies around candles as soon as it sees them. People drove it away with fans, but it flew back soon. Every time you fly back, you should bravely bump into the candlelight, and you will be burned and bruised by candlelight. Finally, he fell to the ground and died without turning it over a few times. Everyone sitting there laughed at moths. This is stupid.
Mentality composition material 6 people living in this world can't all be smooth sailing, or encounter difficulties, or encounter changes, or encounter unsatisfactory people and things. These are normal phenomena in the progress of life. However, some people feel uneasy, unbearable, depressed, pessimistic and even face these phenomena.
Undeniably, when these phenomena appear, they will affect people's thinking and judgment, stimulate people's words and deeds, and make people lose confidence in facing life. For example, being criticized by your boss at work will make you feel depressed; When you meet people who misunderstand you in life, you will feel angry and wronged; When you lose your loved ones, you will be extremely sad; If you encounter difficulties in your career, you will complain and work negatively.
When encountering these phenomena, people's performance is normal. Because man is a thinking senior animal, this is also a fundamental difference from all lower animals. But these performances should not be excessive, otherwise you will live very tired, miserable and miserable. In life, people should learn to face life like sunshine. The so-called sunshine mentality is a positive, optimistic and cheerful healthy psychological state. Because it will make you happy, it will push you forward, and it will make you forget fatigue and troubles.
When you encounter difficulties, it will give you the courage to overcome them. It will make you "the road is always more than the difficulties" and let you test the truth that "nothing is difficult in the world, and nothing is impossible to a willing mind".
When something goes wrong, it will make your mind more rational. When something goes wrong, you will not be pessimistic and disappointed, but reflect on your own way of doing things. If you have something, you will change it. If you don't, you will be encouraged to take a flight of stairs.
When you are wronged, it will give you comfort and tolerance. It will make your heart wide and wide.
When you encounter misfortune, it will turn grief into strength and make you feel that the laws of nature are inviolable, and letting nature take its course is the true meaning of happiness. It will make your eyes deeper, your insight sharper, and you will treat life more naturally and face the road of life.
Friends, sunshine mentality is hard to come by. It requires you to have more life experience, more knowledge and a more positive attitude. It needs you to irrigate with water, support with diligence and care with tolerance. My friends, from now on, let's work hard for a sunny heart! If there is no one to accompany you, learn to listen to music and read words alone. This is a good one. Don't lose your temper with people casually.
If a person starts to neglect you, ask him. People who don't know you should not give up, let alone continue to pay your or.
Don't smoke if you can. Don't drink if you can. No matter how depressed you are, don't go to the bar. A person holding a goblet or a cigarette in his hand will add more feelings. Have the habit of drinking afternoon tea, reading books and listening to music. Shortage is better than abuse. Don't rob a lover just because you are lonely. It's unfair and lacking for both of us. When you are free, play a gentle music, read some good books, and then sleep in. Let's go You can also sleep when you are in poor health.
From now on, be smart and don't ask others if they miss you. Love you or not? If I miss you or love you, I will tell you, but if I say it from your mouth, others will be proud and won't care about you.
There are fixed entertainment places, such as fixed cafes and bookstores. Let the waiter in that place know you, so that there is a good place to go when you are away. Don't torture yourself for anyone or anything. For example, not eating, crying, autism, depression, these are all things that fools do. Of course, it is necessary to be stupid occasionally, and life doesn't have to be smart all the time.
In any case, don't talk about others behind their backs. If you must say it, say something nice.
You are allowed to watch soap operas occasionally, but absolutely not. Allow long hair occasionally, but pay attention to the occasion. Occasionally swearing is allowed, but only in front of old friends or alone. Remember the feeling of carefree after forgetting to speak. Be sure to have a few friends of the opposite sex, and don't have wild desires. I'll help you when it's critical.
Learn to bear the pain. Some words, suitable for rotten in the heart, some pain, suitable for silent forgetting. It's good to know when you've experienced it. Many changes, you don't have to say it yourself, others will see it. Don't quarrel with others, try to avoid it. An angry person is terrible and will become crazy because he can't control his emotions.
If it is impossible to be alone with you, don't play and waste the peace of others. As a result, you may lose a friend who is really good to you, and you will be looked down upon.