It is always difficult to achieve the goal. I obviously planned to read two books this month, and it was not until the beginning of the following year that I found them covered with dust. I made a fitness plan this week, but by the end of the week, I told myself that I had made it, and it had nothing to do with me!
Every time I let Mingming take the fall, can't I think about my own reasons? Yes, we have to tie the bell to solve the problem, and we have to do what we want! The main reason why our goal is difficult to achieve is that it is unreasonable. Compared with yesterday's self, as long as it is better than yesterday's self, this is a great progress!
Improve self-control
1, set reasonable goals.
Many times it's not because we don't work hard enough, but because we demand too much of ourselves and always want to change ourselves quickly. But Rome was not built in a day. We have to accept that we are just ordinary people and can't eat a big fat man in one bite. We should set a goal that we can reach on tiptoe and follow the step by step.
People who never read books suddenly set themselves a plan to read 50 books a year. Of course, it is difficult to achieve. When the goal is not achieved, we will feel anxious and fall into self-blame. Instead of this, it is better to set a small goal, starting with reading five books a year, and then increasing year by year.
Step 2 get enough sleep
Due to the busy work and the temptation of various entertainment apps, it is difficult for us to go to bed early and get up early, but our energy recovery needs enough sleep, which will lead to the decline of our energy value and greatly reduce work efficiency.
Instead of this, it is better to go to bed early and get up early every day to keep a good working condition. An energetic hour's work is twice as efficient as a lazy one.
3. Stay away from incentives and increase the difficulty of action.
Since it is difficult for us to give up mobile phones, it is better to buy a mobile phone prison, lock up our mobile phones and work with peace of mind. Fogg's behavior model tells us that behavior = motivation+ability+trigger. If your mobile phone is in your pocket, we are easily prompted by the news. Pick up the phone and play for an hour.
4. Replace bad habits with good ones
Getting rid of a bad habit cannot be a hard landing, but it depends on replacing the old bad habit with a new good habit. For example, reading habits instead of playing games, getting up early and going to bed early instead of getting up late.
5. Take the initiative to show yourself to others.
When I was a child, it was said that interest is the best teacher, so what is interest? Interest actually comes from a sense of accomplishment. When you always get praise from others when you do something, you can get a sense of accomplishment. A sense of accomplishment will make you forget all about eating and sleeping, and take the initiative to print out your study notes, punching records and movement tracks!
6. action! Say goodbye to tomorrow
Thinking is the question, and action is the answer. There is no difference between tomorrow and today. Most of tomorrow equals the day after tomorrow, and most of the day after tomorrow equals infinite delay. If you want to do something, do it at once. Once you start, you will have a sense of accomplishment and you can't stop. No matter how you listen to it, it's empty talk. Only action can bring results.