Yomi is my high school classmate, female. She is very kind and generous, but she is very fat. She is 1.6 meters tall and weighs nearly 180 Jin. She walks trembling.
Yomi has never been in love, not once, because of her figure. Look at me. I'm 26, and I'm still alone.
Her parents were so anxious that they urged her to get married again and again. Relatives and friends bombarded her on holidays that they urged yomi to go on a blind date.
The blind date that changed yomi's life is still fresh in her memory.
The man heard from the matchmaker that the woman was a little fat. He thinks that "a little fat" means "a little higher in weight, almost in the early three digits".
When he saw yomi, everyone was dumbfounded.
That man is also a frank person, so he swept over and asked, "The matchmaker said he was a little fat. Is this a little fat? Can't we just be honest? If I had known you were so fat, why should I waste my time! "
"Girl, can you be a little self-aware and grow up like this? Which blind date wants you? "
After that, the man tossed his head and left, leaving a blank face of yomi, with broken self-esteem everywhere.
Later, yomi told me that she felt the biggest insult in 26 years.
People used to make fun of her, saying that she was fat, like a mountain of meat, and even discriminated against her and looked down on her. Even if she refused to hire her in the interview for this reason, she didn't think so. After all, meat grows on itself and does not interfere with others.
Sometimes, she even disdains to say, "Those who turn their food into Baba have no right to laugh at us who turn our food into meat."
However, on such an occasion, being treated like this, she suddenly and completely lost that unwarranted self-confidence.
She said that at that moment, she suddenly realized that she was lazy, greedy, undisciplined and felt good about herself. Obviously, her obesity is caused by many shortcomings, which she doesn't know.
She went home with a black face, and from then on, whoever dared to propose to her would fight hard.
Yomi wasn't too fat before.
When she was in high school, her weight was not bad, 120 kilograms, a little fat, but not exaggerated. I told her that it shouldn't be too difficult to lose weight as long as you take part in more activities and pay attention to your diet.
These words fully show how little I know about her-exercise and diet are the two weaknesses in her life.
She never exercises. In physical education class, running and warm-up activities are compulsory courses for teachers. If she can slip, she will slip. Even if I barely breathe, I will basically sit in the shade and chat with my good sisters for the rest of the time, let alone do any exercise.
Take the shot put as an example. I've heard many people say that fatter people shoot far, but it doesn't apply here in yomi. She threw it at the foot of one meter, which frightened the teachers who had signed up for the sports meeting in advance, so she contacted the school to cancel the registration, for fear of losing face to the whole class.
What's more, when I went to college, I couldn't bear to look straight at all the physical fitness tests and physical education elective courses.
As for paying attention to diet, it is out of the question.
Yomi's family is good. He has eaten delicious food since he was a child and has a big mouth. She doesn't eat much, but Sprite cola milk tea often comes in with her mouth open after dinner. Desserts never stop, snacks change with each passing day, and nightingales have different styles. She even likes to drill KFC and McDonald's every three days.
Studying hard in high school consumes a lot of physical energy. Although she consumed a lot of calories, her weight did not rise quickly. Rao is so. Others were as thin as monkeys in high school for three years, and she gained more than ten kilograms of meat.
Jin Youmei's dead house, where he went to college, was a dormitory every day except going to class in the classroom. He eats too much and weighs 30 kilograms. By the time he graduated, his weight had reached 150 kg.
Yomi, which is economically free after graduation, is even worse. While other girls spend money on bags, clothes and cosmetics, she invests all in food. In addition, yomi has been sitting for more than three years, with a net increase of more than 20 kilograms.
In this way, I watched her grow from a chubby little girl of 120 kg to a mountain of meat of 180 kg.
Yomi said before that someone refused to hire her during the interview because she once went to my former company to interview a designer, and I recommended her.
Jin Youmei has a good business ability, and the HR of that company has a good relationship with me in private. Plus there was a shortage of people at that time, and yomi was looking for a job, so I recommended yomi to that HR.
The interview went well, and the skilled yomi answered all the tests and passed. After the interview, yomi told me the good news, saying that although the results haven't come out yet, I'm basically relieved and ready to invite me to dinner to express my gratitude.
The meal hasn't come yet, and she hasn't finished yet. The next day, she called me with tears and said that she had been beaten, and the reason is unknown.
I called back to ask that HR, but he couldn't say it for a long time, beating around the bush, and finally I got angry and asked him to say it directly.
He said, "The interview was good, but the general manager eliminated her."
"What's the reason?"
"The general manager said ... she was too fat. "
I look stupid. What does obesity have to do with work?
Later, I listened to him for a long time, which probably means: the general manager thinks that this girl is so fat, has bad living habits, is not diligent, and is bound to be lazy at work; Moreover, in an industry where designers often work overtime, the chances of getting sick are greatly increased, and the company has to bear risks; In addition, when docking with customers, it will affect the company image. ...
I am filled with indignation. What happened to that fat man? What's wrong with fatty? Don't fat people have the right to live?
But he is the general manager, and I didn't even have a say when I was in office. Now as a former employee, it doesn't matter whether I say it or not.
I told this story to yomi euphemistically. She bowed her head, her eyes were red and swollen, and she said nothing.
Later, she found a job in another small company, and her salary was greatly reduced, and the workplace was not particularly smooth.
In the face of the blow, some people choose to escape, feel sorry for themselves, and some people choose to face it, and the more frustrated they are, the more brave they are.
Yomi is the latter. The double blow of work and life completely ignited her.
The second week after the blind date failed, she got a fitness card and told me that she wanted to lose weight.
Every day, I hear many girls shouting to lose weight, but most of them just shout, and few of them really implement it. I thought she was on a whim and didn't take it seriously at all.
I don't think she is really determined to play for real.
She didn't like sports before, but now she has a private teacher. She ran to the gym every day and went home sweating after finishing the index plan.
She used to be a glutton, but now she has given up almost all drinks, not even yogurt, let alone all kinds of fried desserts. Now there are "brown rice, eggs and carrots" and "tomatoes, chicken breasts and broccoli" every day.
It wasn't delicious at first, but I ate it every day. Later, I followed the online tutorial, improved a little, and gradually got used to it. By the way, I also learned a good cooking skill.
A month later, I lost ten pounds, and the effect was remarkable.
Seeing this effect, yomi was overjoyed, as if she was addicted and began to indulge in the cause of losing weight.
A year later, she was reduced to 1 10 kg.
Ok, I admit, sure enough, fat people are potential stocks.
Yomi has successfully lost weight and returned to a normal life, but after a year of training, her personality has changed a lot.
She used to be lazy and sleepy, and didn't like sports. Now she often goes out to run and play badminton. She used to be greedy and couldn't control her mouth. Now she seldom touches unhealthy and high-calorie food, and her three meals have become more regular.
She became self-disciplined and confident, and she was obviously emboldened when she spoke to me.
She told me: "the first time was the hardest, but after I got through it, I found that I had changed." It seems that what I got rid of is not the dozens of pounds of fat, but a lot of bad habits. "
"Looking back, in fact, others didn't recognize me before, not because of the proud flesh itself, but because of my bad habits. So in fact, I don't hate rejecting my interviewer and blind date before. On the contrary, I am grateful to them. Without their cruelty to me, there would be no me today. "
Yomi changed her job, and her professional skills combined with her own efforts made her career much smoother than before.
"I didn't work well before, and it wasn't all because I was fat. The main reason is that I am not confident, lazy and particularly pessimistic. This year, I have basically changed the bad habits that can be changed. "
Later, she fell in love, and the boy took the initiative to chase her. Recently, she has been preparing for the wedding.
Compared with her previous life, her later life, although not earth-shaking, has also been greatly improved.
The double blow of work and life completely shattered her self-confidence, but it took her more than a year to completely rebuild her self-confidence.
When I said this example, I didn't mean to discriminate against fat people.
Actually, yomi is a very nice person. Whether she is 1 10 or 180 kg, we have always been good friends. She has her advantages, such as boldness and optimism.
But she also has her shortcomings. She is lazy, greedy and undisciplined. Her obesity is caused by her shortcomings.
After losing weight, she got rid of many shortcomings.
She became self-confident, self-disciplined and hardworking, and completed the transformation and growth of herself.
Indeed, most people in this society are biased against fat people, but this prejudice does not exist in the meat pile itself, but the personal character and habits reflected behind it.
I have no prejudice against fat people. I care more about whether they work hard in the face of life. If they work hard, it doesn't matter whether they are fat or not. Not everyone wants to spend so much time on weight control. Maybe they have more important things to do.
Everyone has his own choice, some people choose to go against the wind, and some people choose to find a safe haven to escape.
As long as you work hard, live hard according to your own wishes.
-The end-