In fact, I have always thought that pure "chasing" in love is a false proposition. My understanding of "chasing" should be "slowly lurking, slowly approaching".

Everyone should have seen the animal world. To catch an antelope, a lion usually lurks in the grass first, climbs a little, and pays close attention to the antelope's every move. When the time is right, it will suddenly jump out and grab the antelope with its claws. Surprise leads to victory.

So do girls. And those who show a strong desire to pursue from the beginning and pursue it as soon as they go into battle often scare girls away. On the contrary, those who appear as friends in girls' lives at first get closer and closer, and their feelings gradually heat up. At a certain critical point, they naturally transition from friends to lovers. This relationship is more lasting and stable.

As a senior three student, I will put myself in the position of a girl and provide some skills for the majority of single teenagers to "approach" girls and win good feelings.

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1) Improve personal image and keep it basically clean and refreshing.

Don't underestimate this. In my engineering school, there can't be too many students from engineering male who are slovenly. Not to mention fashion taste, some boys can't even guarantee basic personal cleanliness. When they entered the classroom, they were unkempt, their clothes were wrinkled, and their heads and bodies smelled bad. That's it. You still want to attract girls? Save your energy.

So, before you make up your mind to pursue a girl, take a closer look at yourself: Do you wash your hair every 1-2 days? Did you shave off the stubble? Do you have your hair cut every 1-2 months? Do you often change clothes?

Maybe someone will persuade boys to lose weight or something, but all these need long-term accumulation, and the effect can not be shown in a day's work. However, personal cleanliness can be guaranteed with a little attention, not to mention the handsome sunshine.

I don't know what other girls think. Anyway, I naturally have a crush on boys who are fresh and clean and whose clothes smell faint.

2) Find the same hobby.

This is not difficult. It is easy to find out what this sister is interested in through her friends, or by observing her living habits and watching her hair dynamics. If you find the similarities between the two of you, there will be the possibility of further communication.

For example, you all like to play games and play games in teams; If everyone likes sports, talk about what kind of sports they like. If you have the opportunity, you can play in the gym. If you all like singing, sing with the K-song app.

Here's a question. What if you don't know your sister very well and she doesn't want to go out with you alone? It's simple. Invite your sister and classmates you all know to come out to play together, which not only avoids embarrassment, but also ensures the maximum interaction between you two.

3) Show your own bright spots

Girls like attractive men. So, what's your bright spot? What aspects of you attract her attention more than the people around you? Is it because of your excellent academic performance that you get a scholarship every year? Or are you rich in music, playing guitar and piano? Or stick to fitness, have strong chest muscles and proud abdominal muscles? Or more grounded, are you helpful, sincere and popular?

Show her these advantages, positive or side. Just like in the animal world, many males confidently show their bright chest feathers when courting.

What? You said you didn't shine? How can a person who has no confidence in himself attract the opposite sex?

4) Believe that the magic of love changes with time.

In college, girls are basically past the age of dreaming of love at first sight. On the contrary, they prefer to have a good impression on a single-minded person. I once heard a saying that it is easy for a boy to send you breakfast for a week or a month. But if you let him send it for half a year, I'm afraid only a few people can do it.

Besides, girls are emotional animals. If someone says good night to her every day, suddenly one day she is gone, even if she doesn't like that person, she will still feel a little lost.

If you are really attracted to her, pay more attention to her and let the power of time impress her.

5) Give small gifts from time to time to create surprises.

Some people suggest sending lipstick and flowers to girls, which I don't think is appropriate. For two people whose relationship is still in a hazy stage, it will be too expensive to send such a gift, which will cause a great psychological burden to girls. I'm not your girlfriend yet. How can I owe you such an expensive gift? So girls may choose to refuse under pressure.

So I suggest that boys can start with some very simple gifts. For example, occasionally bring a bottle of my sister's favorite drink, buy her a favorite book, a beautiful bookmark, or make her own gadgets. Although it seems simple, but little by little together, you can slowly impress your sister.

6) Try to discuss some in-depth topics.

After trying these methods, if we can keep smooth communication with each other, we can go further and discuss some in-depth topics.

Of course, in this process, you need to take the initiative to open your heart to your sister. For example, tell me a story buried in my heart, talk about my life ideal, or implicitly talk about my past emotional experience and so on. If we talk well, we can learn more about my sister's past.

Personally, as a sister, I still pay more attention to the spiritual fit in the process of communication. If two people just play together, I will only regard each other as playmates. Only after some in-depth communication will I feel that the other person is a real "chat" person.

7) Don't cook too fast.

When you talk for several nights or even stay up all night, both boys and girls will have some appreciation for each other. When chatting with your mobile phone every night, we all have a feeling of reunion after a long separation. But after a long time, I found that all I talked about were those points. Finally, one day, both of them found that they could never find a topic to talk about. The silence was the most embarrassing and heartbreaking.

In order to avoid this situation, you can't mature too fast. As the leader in this game, boys should learn to release their charm bit by bit, and don't consume all the talk in the early stage. Always maintain a certain sense of mystery. The so-called long-term fishing for big fish probably means this.

Of course, this rule is also applicable in normal interpersonal communication.

Having said so much, I don't know if you understand what I want to express. That is: the premise of all these methods is that girls at least don't dislike you! If your sister has indicated or implied that you don't want to chat with you, or your existence has caused her trouble, then be sensible and retreat in time, at least you can leave a good impression on your sister. Business cannot be just. You can't be lovers At least I can meet friends who can say hello in the future.

The attraction between men and women is sometimes very metaphysical. It doesn't mean that you are good enough for her, and she will be tempted. In feelings, there is no heaven to reward hard work, otherwise there will not be so many boys being dealt good cards.

This has nothing to do with whether you are good or not. You are full of advantages, but you are not the one she likes, so there is no way out. Sometimes, love cannot be forced.

Therefore, no matter whether it is successful in the end, at least you can't leave a bad impression on your sister. Let me talk about the minefield that boys can't step on in the pursuit process.

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1) has been caring and attentive.

What are you doing? Have you eaten? What did you eat? Do you feel deja vu? Some boys who are not good at chatting simply chat with each other in order to show their concern for their sisters. I didn't know I was doing this. My sister just thought you were bothering her and that you were bored. If you meet a girl whose life is already full, they will only think that you are idle and lack of self-motivation in the face of frequent "harassment" by boys.

At first, my sister may respond to you politely. This is not surprising. With more times, my sister always ends the conversation by saying "go to dinner" and "take a shower".

So, if there is no suitable topic, don't talk. One high-quality conversation is better than ten meaningless conversations.

2) haggle over every ounce for consumption

As a student party, most people have not achieved economic independence, but the living expenses given by their parents are limited. Therefore, in the eyes of girls, it is completely understandable that boys' spending power is not high, but what is unacceptable to girls? Cheap.

For example, some girls couldn't resist the kind invitation of boys and finally agreed to come out for something to eat. Finally, the boy offered to share half of today's expenses with his sister. Doesn't this make my sister laugh and cry? Whether men and women in love need AA to go out to play is not discussed for the time being, and it is still in the pursuit stage. Aren't they supposed to show great gentlemanliness?

Moreover, all girls who have their own opinions will take the initiative to share the consumption. If the sister insists, then AA; Otherwise you should invite your sister once. If your sister feels guilty, wouldn't it be better for her to invite you next time? The most terrible thing is that my sister didn't catch up, leaving the impression of being stingy.

3) Chasing after him, even harassing classmates around him.

As I said just now, whether a girl likes you or not is really a subjective behavior. You can't turn Gan Kun around just by being nice to her.

Therefore, if you have been dating for a while and your sister has never given you positive feedback, for example, you never take the initiative to chat with you, and you ask her to answer when chatting, then it can basically be diagnosed as hopeless. Then you can consider returning it. Of course, the length of this time varies from person to person, depending on your patience and how much you like her.

What I am most afraid of is that some disdainful people follow their sisters step by step, pretend to be prospective boyfriends, make some cross-border behaviors, and even harass roommates and classmates. I can't blame my sisters for turning against each other. Finally, the boy asked sadly, I am so kind to her, why is she so cruel to me?

4) for the purpose of picking up girls.

Having said that, the most important thing is that you should take this relationship seriously with a sincere heart. If the purpose at first is to pick up girls, pick up girls, and solve loneliness and emptiness, then you can pretend that I didn't say anything.

Some boys take chasing a beautiful girl as capital and show off in front of their roommates and brothers. In fact, a slightly smarter girl can see whether you really want to associate with her or take part in accidental amusement.

At least, I hope you are not such a person who is reading this article.

5) Physical contact before determining the relationship

Don't do anything "out of line" until the relationship between lovers is formally established, or to say the least, before you are sure whether your sister likes you or not. I don't know what other girls think, but I hate such behavior myself.

Maybe some boys will think that these "little moves" can bring us closer together, but maybe my sister will think that this is an ill-bred and rude performance, but you don't respect her.

For example, protect your arm when crossing the street, pat your sister on the shoulder when talking on the phone, including touching your head occasionally and killing her. These actions that look more like gentlemen are acceptable, but the more intimate ones are unbearable. In particular, don't poke with your fingers and push your sister with your hands. It's really rude.

6) Too impatient, too obvious.

The two people who are still in the early stage of ambiguity seem to be separated by a thin layer of fog yarn. In each other's eyes, two people will have a hazy beauty. However, some boys are eager to get rid of this fog quickly and directly promoted from "acquaintances" to "boyfriends", but it is easy to scare away girls.

For example, it didn't take long for two people to associate, and the boy asked his sister out to see a movie and traveled alone, which was obviously ambiguous. The girls won't be surprised, but they will suspect that your purpose is not pure-it didn't take long for him to launch such a fierce offensive. How sincere is his relationship with me?

Not to mention that some people have never seen a girl in real life, and they ask her out to play as soon as they come online, which is suspected of hooliganism.

Some people may say that the "slow fire" method can easily make a girl be driven away by others. In fact, I don't think boys will cherish things that are too easy to get. Besides, the story of you and a sister didn't end happily at the moment of "catching up with her". The story has just begun, and there are so many wonderful or dull plots behind it that you have to experience it with her. If "chasing her" is the ultimate goal, will you have the patience to accompany her for a long time?

If you think that the girl in front of you is the one you want to spend your life with, is it really that important to arrive early or late?

In fact, I think that when you really meet someone who falls in love with you at first sight, all the "pursuit of strategy", "picking up girls skills" and "correct procedures" will become empty. The two men slowly got closer and closer in the mutual temptation, and finally naturally came together.

Finally, I wish everyone who reads this article can meet the person who can tell you the rest of your life with wet eyes.