I was beaten by PUA in the workplace, so I can't help it.
As the saying goes, once every emperor was a courtier, the situation at that time was: I was an old courtier and PUA was my new emperor. He needed to set an example for the princes, and unfortunately I became that chicken.
The political struggle at the top of the company parachuted a president of Taiwan Province Province. When a new official takes office, he will be angry. After the executive meeting was held vigorously, I received a phone call calling names. I was in charge of the company's MIS department. He said that the mailbox opened by the Beijing company could not be used, generally speaking, it would be worse if this little thing could not be done well.
As I was not sure whose problem it was, I replied that I would check and solve it immediately. It's not my fault, but my colleague in Taiwan Province Province made a mistake when he set up Outlook for him.
The first time I met PUA in the workplace, I sent him an email pretending to be polite, first describing the details of the problem, and finally writing a sentence: Mr. Wang, please confirm before swearing. Thank you. Then, I realized that I was fired.
If you are a soft persimmon, you deserve to be pinched.
In this matter, first make sure you are right, and then stop messing around. In the end, I will be embarrassed to find that the clown is actually myself. Second, you don't have to say bad things directly to show that you have no quality. The most polite words are the most irritating. You have to let the other person taste it and let him taste it himself.
Some people say that if you don't resign, you won't resign if you get angry 10 thousand times a day. Others say that in the adult world, people keep on working honestly while promising to quit their jobs. I don't agree. My principle is: I was wrong. I admit how severely you criticized me on this matter. But when you scold me, even insult me, I can't stand it when I quit.
Unexpectedly, I was ready to be made difficult by any means, and I was thinking about how to talk about resignation compensation. Before I left, he left first, because too many executives complained to the chairman, and the goods were dishonorably dismissed.
I don't advise you to be a ninja turtle, but I also don't advise you to go into the air. People in the workplace, don't take strictness as a bully. If the leader criticizes you more, your bitter drama and revenge will begin to play out in your heart.
A good leader must be strict.
The teacher who can be remembered when studying is Mr. Yan, and the leader who can be remembered when working is Mr. Yan. Your leader is strict with your high standards, which is a good thing. He can force you to be strong and grow, so you have a better future. Strictness is love, and looseness is harm. A leader with low standards and loose requirements is a pit cargo and will only cultivate a group of little sheep. No matter how strong a person is, he will lose his wolf nature in a gentle environment! You either become a wolf or be eaten by a wolf.
When you become a leader one day, you should also remember not to be too kind, you should lose your temper, you should let your subordinates know that you are unhappy, and you should let them know what will happen if your requirements are not met. The more you give in, the less people will take you seriously. This is human nature. Dude, don't go against humans.
In the movie Jianghu, Andy Lau, the eldest brother, said to Jacky Cheung, the younger brother, "If you say you don't listen, you don't understand, you don't do it, you are wrong, you don't admit it, you don't change it, you don't accept it, and you don't say it. What should I do? "
Guess what else to do?
University is the most beautiful commemoration of life. There are 90% fewer bad guys in universities than in society. When you enter the society, you will find that there are more bastards, more villains, more influential people, more people who don't like you, and more people who look down on you ... Your lack of ability and more personality problems are all reasons for society to abandon you, objective cognitive system, continuous mental experience and increasing competitiveness.
A college student friend asked me, is society the law of the jungle? I said, otherwise, what if everyone gave a little love to make the world a better place? Who just came out to get along without any injustice, loss and unfair treatment?
Don't be too busy taking care of your emotions.
Bo Huang said in an interview after becoming famous: "If you are incapable, there will be many bad people around you, and you will be wronged;" One day when you are strong, you will find that you are surrounded by good people and everyone is happy. "You are good at it to some extent. Let's just say that your fart smells like strawberries. ...
A big bowl of old chicken soup:
I was standing at 1 building, and someone scolded me. I was very angry when I heard that. I was standing on the 10 floor, and someone called me names. I couldn't hear clearly, so I thought he was greeting me. I was standing on the 100 floor and someone scolded me. I can't hear or see at all.
When you hate people around you, the best way to express your disgust is not to argue with them, but to redouble your efforts and leave them when you have the chance. In that case, they will disappear from your life forever. Why is your leader so abnormal and your company so bad? Isn't it because you have no better choice?
Growth is the last word. The most powerful counterattack is that you become stronger. You don't need to stand out. You need to get away from these chickens. The pattern is open! Don't dwell on those trifles.
He who has a thunder in his chest and a flat face can worship the general.
A person should properly hide his emotions, laugh when he is happy, and pretend that nothing happened when he is unhappy. This rule is especially applicable to offices. Don't show your emotions in front of people.
It's all about emotions. Is there a feeling that you can't fight well every time you quarrel? I want to argue again that I will regret lying in bed at night. If I were an Monday morning quarterback, I would be full, only to find that there are still a lot of harsh words left unsaid, either improvising or short-circuiting. ...
Once you fall into the whirlpool of emotions, you will lose your rational mind.
Losing your temper is instinct, controlling your temper is skill, and never let your temper outweigh your skill. Losing your temper just means that your wisdom or ability is not enough to solve the problem you are facing. You feel angry, but you are still too concerned about your shortcomings and angry at your incompetence. Remember: being competitive is always better than being angry. If you are right, you don't need to lose your temper. If you are wrong, you have no right to lose your temper. Deal with the mood first, then deal with things.
Quarrel is not good. You have completed your leadership. Even if you made up later, he didn't leave any scum in his heart. Is it possible? Don't indulge your fickle emotions without the ability to clean up the mess. Express your emotions in a proper way, otherwise your emotions will be considered as defects in your character.
To tell you the truth: if someone is angry with you and you keep calm, they may be more angry, but then they will be ashamed of themselves.
The most important ability of adults is the ability to make themselves happy.
Temper is like farting. If you have it, you should vent it, otherwise it will suppress your body. After entering the society, we turn our emotions into silent mode, but when we hold them in our hearts, they will eventually turn into negative energy. Don't cling to sad things, learn to resolve and release them. Whether it's ironing in the gym, singing in KTV, drinking with your buddies or taking your girlfriend shopping, in short, you should have ways to relieve your mood.
It's not the stress that makes you overwhelmed, but the way you bear it.
But don't forget what others say when they are angry, because that is often the truth. Don't hate the person who says this, because it's another way for him to let you see yourself clearly.
Churchill once said: "The value of a person can be seen from the size of the things that make him angry." If you are always angry about small things, you are a narrow-minded person. As the saying goes, a prime minister can punt in his stomach, but you must know that only when he is a prime minister can he punt in his stomach. It must be because he can punt in his stomach on weekdays that he became prime minister!
Being angry is like drinking poison and expecting others to suffer. The more capable people are, the better their temper is, because they know that losing their temper can't solve any problems. The only way to solve the problem is to face it and then solve it calmly.
Lamborghini first produced tractors. Its founder, ferruccio Lamborghini, likes sports cars very much and bought a Ferrari. He found that there was something wrong with the clutch of the car, so he complained to Ferrari that the founder of Ferrari didn't care about him at all, and even sarcastically said, "You hillbilly, go back and play with your tractor." Ferruzzi Lamborghini, this grumpy little scratch appeared. ...
Thus, a great brand was born: Lamborghini, the top sports car manufacturer in the world today.
Peach Blossom Pond is deep in thousands of feet, so it's better for Brother Ming to find a job!