1. Learn to smile in adversity
When life is as popular as pop songs, it is not difficult to make people feel happy.
But the truly valuable person is the one who can still smile in adversity.
Let's remember this poem! A person who can laugh when everything goes wrong has more chances of winning than a person who will collapse in the face of difficulties and hardships.
There are many people who often fail to achieve their goals and succeed as much as they can, just because they are prisoners of feelings that ruin their careers.
Melancholy, gloomy and decadent people are not valued in society. No one wants to be with him; When everyone saw him, they just took one look at him and left soon.
We don't like those gloomy people just as we don't like discordant impression paintings. We instinctively tend to those who are amiable and interesting. If we want people to like us, we must first make ourselves amiable and helpful.
People should not be slaves to feelings. Don't discuss the overall life planning and important life issues with emotion. No matter how bad things are around you, you should laugh at adversity, try to dominate your environment and cheer up from misfortune. You should turn your back on the darkness and face the light. So the shadow will stay behind you!
Many people commit crimes by themselves, because they always use depressed mood and bad mood to destroy and hinder their life games. The success of anything depends on our own courage, confidence and optimism. However, most people don't understand this. When things don't go well, when they encounter unfortunate days or painful experiences, they often let decadent, suspicious, fearful, disappointed and other ideas dominate themselves and ruin their business plans for many years in an instant! It's really like a well frog climbing up, struggling to climb up, but once it slips, all its efforts are in vain.
All the learning in learning is how to eliminate the enemies in our hearts-the enemies of peace, happiness and success. Always learn to focus our attention on beauty rather than ugliness, truth rather than fallacy, harmony rather than chaos, life rather than death, health rather than disease-this is a compulsory course in life. This is not an easy thing, but it is always possible, as long as you can develop some correct ways of thinking.
If you can absolutely refuse those emotional demons who take away your happiness; If you can open your heart, but never let the darkness break in; If you can understand, they won't patronize you again. Try to cultivate a happy accomplishment! If you don't have this accomplishment, you will soon have this virtue as long as you work hard.
A neuroscientist told People magazine that he had invented a new treatment for depression. He advised his patients to laugh under any circumstances. Force yourself to laugh whether you like it or not. "Laugh!" He said to the patient, "Keep smiling! Don't stop laughing! At least, try to tilt your horns. See what it feels like to keep smiling like this! " This is how he cured his patients.
A person with a good spirit can completely expel depression from his mind in a few minutes. But the shortcoming of most people is that they refuse to open their hearts and let the sunshine of happiness, hope and optimism shine in. On the contrary, they close their hearts and want to drive away the darkness with their inner abilities. They don't know that a ray of sunshine will immediately destroy the darkness and drive away demons who can only survive in the dark!
When you feel depressed and disappointed, when you try to change the environment, no matter what happens, don't think about your misfortune repeatedly, and don't think much about what makes you miserable at present. Think of the happiest things, treat people with the most generous and kind feelings, say the kindest and most interesting words, try your best to feel happy and like the people around you! In this way, you will soon experience a magical spiritual transformation, the shadow hanging over your heart will escape, and the happy sunshine will shine on your life!
You should form a habit of not letting any thoughts or hints that may lead to unhappiness invade your heart. Because those thoughts and hints will have a bad influence on you.
Try to walk into the most interesting social circle and seek some harmless entertainment that will make you laugh and make you happy. This is a spiritual renewal. This spiritual renewal can sometimes be found when children in the same family are playing, sometimes in the theater, sometimes in interesting conversations, sometimes in interesting or inspiring books, and sometimes in sleep.
In a word, seeking the most suitable way to improve our mental state will make you find that the poison of depression can be offset and the decadent air can be changed. This kind of magic can surprise you and make you feel brand new.
2. Learn to rise in adversity
Optimism is the driving force for rising in adversity. Someone once asked a famous artist if the young lover who studied painting with him would become a great painter in the future. He replied, "No, never! He has a lot of money every year. " Artists know that a person's talent can only be exercised through hard struggle, but it is difficult to cultivate this spirit in a superior environment.
Looking back at history, we can know that most successful people are often children of poor families in their early years.
"Those who are unfortunate enough to be born into rich children are unfortunate because they are racing against the burden from the beginning." Carnegie said, "The sons of most rich families can't resist the temptation of wealth, so they fall into an unfortunate life. Such people are no match for those poor children; For these small bosses, you' poor children' don't be afraid. But you should pay attention to those children who suffer much more than you. Even their parents can't give them any school education. Once they challenge you in your career, they may eventually surpass you. We should pay attention to those children who have to work after primary school. All they do is mop the floor. It is often these people who make a blockbuster and win the final victory: "
In order to get rid of poverty, such efforts can best cultivate talents. If all people in the world are forced to work all their lives, I am afraid that human civilization is still in a very naive stage until now.
Most successful people are trained from sleepy and poor schools. Businessmen, university presidents, professors, inventors, scientists, industrialists and politicians are mostly driven by demand, and they devote themselves to improving their status.
Ability is the result of resisting difficulties, and great men are born in the struggle with difficulties. Instead of struggling in difficulties and setbacks, it is better to exercise your ability.
A lucky young man who thinks he has a good life will say to himself, "I have enough money to live all my life. Why should I get up early and work hard?" So Shen Wei fell asleep again. At this time, another young man, who has no one to rely on except himself in the boundless world, will be forced to leave the bed and engage in labor because of necessity. He knows that he has no way out but to struggle. He can't rely on anyone and no one can help him. He knew it was a matter of his life and death.
Therefore, a young man who grew up in luxury and often attached to the beauty of others without relying on his own efforts to make a living, a young man who was spoiled since childhood, rarely had great skills. Compared with others, rich children are often like a weak sapling in the forest, rather than a tall pine tree with every inch of trunk growing and being hit by a storm.
However, poverty is by no means a necessary condition for success. Although the starting point of poverty is good, it is nothing more than that. Poverty is meaningless. Just like the sports equipment in the gym, it can develop people and exercise people; But he is only in this sense, which is good, because poverty itself is a kind of deficiency, and it is good for everyone to get rid of poverty, and this kind of getting rid of poverty-if it can be done honestly-can exercise and train great people. How to create a new beginning of every day One day, British Prime Minister Lloyd George was walking and chatting with his friends, and he carefully closed the door every time he walked.
The friend said, "You don't have to close these doors!" " Prime Minister George solemnly said, "Yes, I have been closing the door behind me all my life. It's necessary, you know. When the door closes, all the things of the past are left behind. Then you can start again and move on. "
Yes, life is about moving forward.
Man, who doesn't have the past? Today's truth is often a reflection of yesterday's mistakes; Without yesterday's mistakes, sometimes we can't really understand today's truth! This is called "feeling that today is not yesterday".
Some couples may argue about what happened 20 years ago; The same is true of some parents, who always mention their children's past mistakes, as if once they make mistakes in life, they can never be washed away. Such a relationship often makes couples or parents afraid to speak out when they have difficulties or problems, because they are afraid that the other party will scold themselves and calculate a lot of old accounts.
We must look at the present without condemnation, which can make each of us completely get rid of past mistakes. Pan Xin, a British woman writer. Strong said, "bury all your sins and troubles in the cemetery of the past!" " "
Not bad at all. Only a stupid person will dig up the bad deeds of the past; Wise people let the green grass grow on the graves of the past and let the hope of a new life blossom.
You made a mistake; But who is not wrong? I like GrovePatrerson's article entitled "Running Water under the Bridge" very much:
There was a little boy ... leaning against the railing of the bridge and looking at the running water under the bridge. One moment the trunk flows, and the other moment the twigs and sawdust flow. Sometimes a leaf flows by. No matter what floats on the water, the water is always smooth.
This water may have been flowing under this bridge for hundreds, thousands or even millions of years. Sometimes it's fast, sometimes it's slow, but the river is still continuous and flows under the bridge day after day.
Looking at the running water under the bridge that day gave the boy great inspiration. Suddenly, he realized that everything we experienced in life would pass away like running water under the bridge, leaving no trace.
Yesterday ended last night and every day is a new beginning. Learn the skills of forgetting and make everything plain. Start over! Think about it, this kind of thing happens every day. It was difficult at first-yes, it was very difficult. But as long as they wait, they will be able to spend it safely, because they are just "running water under the bridge."
There is an old story. In ancient times, a powerful monarch summoned domestic scholars and wise men to say a simple and irrefutable sentence, which should be applied to every stage of life and every situation. A few months later, they brought back a sentence: "Everything will pass."
Everything in the world will pass, whether it is success or failure, happiness or sadness, as long as you do your best and have a clear conscience.
There is no need to clean the deck for the sunken ship, because it is futile; There is no need to blame the past. It's like breaking a cup and blaming gravity. Clean up the debris and get another cup.