Share it here briefly, especially for picking up girls mentioned by the questioner. First, positive language, first of all, you must learn to praise women, and even have a flattering side, but don't think that praise is simply to praise each other, and it is very particular to praise each other's comfort. I'll give you two tricks first, bragging about details and changes, such as: praising each other's clothes, jewelry, new hairstyle, new things recommended, views on some issues, and progress compared with before ... Second, physical contact, after the verbal offensive, natural body language should also keep up, take the initiative to hold hands, hold the waist, touch, hug, kiss and make love. Therefore, if you want to pick up girls, you can't be "all hands and feet" at the beginning, and you can't "sit still" after you get better. Third, timely gifts, picking up a man, is willing to spend money, but it does not mean giving money directly to women every time, but using your brains to prepare gifts. Whether this gift pleases the woman is very important, because the woman will interpret how much the man is willing to pay for her according to the gift from the man. How much attention do you usually pay to her? Are you smart enough? Is there a tacit understanding between the two sides? Basically, the man should remember several important time nodes, such as the woman's birthday, some anniversaries of both sides, and all the festivals in a year. ...
And the secret of the ultimate success of picking up girls lies in this fourth point: the act of serving, or helping. Women look for men not only because men love to brag, have high emotional intelligence, are willing to spend money and be men, but also because this man is useful. Can he really help her? Women can't handle it. Can he handle it? That is to see how powerful this man's social function is. If all the men pass this test, it is not a success, but basically a proposal. Fifth, I prefer to use "* * * degrees of time" when I do psychological counseling on intimate relationships. How long will the two parties last after you succeed in picking up girls or even after you get married? Apart from the first four points, this is the fifth point that is most needed and probably most easily overlooked. I will not mention it for the time being.
In psychology, this question is actually to ask girls what kind of boys they like and what kind of behavior boys will make girls feel better.
First, everyone likes to be praised, and girls prefer it. Therefore, you should always pretend to praise her inadvertently, for example, your hairstyle today suits you so well that you can do such a rare thing, and so on. Be careful, don't be too deliberate, it will make her think that you are intentional and make her feel better inadvertently.
Second, you must speak elegantly, especially when you meet for the first time. When you get to know each other, occasionally making a dirty joke will bring you closer. However, remember that when you first met, you were full of unknown addresses.
Third, if you help her, you must be serious. If she asks you for help, you must be serious when you help. It is easy for men to charm girls by doing things seriously.
Fourth, we must pay attention to some small details inadvertently, such as. When crossing the road, you must walk on the other side of the car. Her collar is untidy. You can help her tidy up. Very rewarding.
Fifth, carefully prepare some small gifts. Girls are basically immune to gifts if you prepare them carefully. She'll think you're nice and you care about her. Nothing can increase her goodwill more than satisfying her heart.
Sixth, proper physical contact. When your relationship has developed to a certain extent, you can make some physical contact properly, but don't be all hands at the beginning.
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Since this question needs to be answered from the psychological level, from personal experience, it needs to involve some professional theoretical terms, and then explain it in simple terms.
According to the general path of "picking up girls", it is the process of "attracting girls-attracting eyeballs-singing operas with each other". Then there are three technical terms to explain psychologically. One is to generate "curiosity", the other is to generate "attraction" and the third is "emotion * * *". Let's explain them one by one and see how these theories play a role in the process of "picking up girls".
1. Stimulating the other person's curiosity about you is the first step to successfully attract attention.
Curiosity is a process that people instinctively pay attention to understanding when they meet new people or things or unknown things. For example, the first sentence you say when you meet someone who is being teased is not ordinary "hello", but "I am in a bad mood today." Then there is a high probability that the other party will go up and ask you what's wrong, thus becoming a conversation material for continuous communication and interaction. If you say "hello", will she be embarrassed to reply "hello"?
2. Attracting the other person's attention is the most obvious means, not "strong".
The ideal relationship between men and women is mutual attraction. Create a good personal attraction, and maybe you will be teased in the process of communication. Attraction is divided into appearance attraction, trait attraction, functional attraction and many other aspects. Here is a simple list. If you want to know more, please continue to pay attention to psychology.
(1), Appearance Attraction: Simply put, it is your own image power, clean and tidy appearance and moderate decoration, plus good clothes, which can win the favor of more girls;
(2) Trait attraction: In short, what kind of talents do you have, such as poetry and music, basketball, you are humorous and philosophical;
(3) Functional attraction: For example, you can become her sense of security, the object she confides in and the person she can rely on. ...
3. Positive and cheerful emotions can quickly push their emotions to a climax.
Emotion * * * sounds like when you are in contact with a girl, both sides feel very happy through communication and interaction. For example, when you talk about the same topic, for example, you both like a star in a Korean drama, and you express your opinion on the star's acting skills and get the recognition of the other side, both sides will feel embarrassed. This way, the other party will think that you have a like-minded conversation.
Finally, in fact, you can use a lot of psychological knowledge in the process of picking up girls, not limited to the above three points, such as psychological suggestion, halo effect, dependence and anti-dependence, psychological defense mechanism and so on. These psychological knowledge can effectively help you pick up girls correctly. If you are interested, please continue to pay attention, and more cases will be presented to you.
Speaking of picking up girls, it's actually a technical job, but it's simple but difficult.
From my own experience in picking up girls, the most important thing in picking up girls is to realize whether my level matches the level before the goal.
If it doesn't match, there is a big gap, and your skills and methods will be in vain. For example, it is futile for an experienced veteran to flirt with someone like Fan Bingbing.
So how is this level divided:
According to my own experience, a normal person, regardless of gender, without physical defects and with normal emotional intelligence, can be defined as level 5 (highest 10).
If it's a man:
On the basis of passers-by, the height 180 or so, and the symmetrical figure can reach level 6; Those who meet the above conditions, have family business and industry at home, and have their own independent living space and vehicles, can reach level 7; Meet the former conditions, but also fitness, muscle lines, facial features, the average girl will be obsessed with flowers, can be defined as level 8.
Up, it is difficult for ordinary people to reach, unless they are male internet celebrities or male stars, they can reach level 9, 10.
If it is particularly outstanding on the one hand, the level can also advance by leaps and bounds. For example, although his figure is average, he is a successful single entrepreneur, and his attraction to girls is based on his own strength, so he can also increase the level of 1-2 on the original basis.
If it is female:
Passerby foundation, height 160- 165 or so, well-proportioned, clean face without spots and acne, standard facial features, and can reach level 6; On the basis of satisfying the former conditions, men can dress up and make up. Generally, men who want to chat up and get dressed can reach level 7. On the basis of satisfying the former, I have my own independent career, I don't need to rely on others to support me, I can afford luxury goods, travel abroad, keep fit and run, so I can reach Grade 8.
Above level 8, celebrities and stars who are popular on the internet, celebrities in the circle, or young female professional strongmen can all be defined as above level 8.
How to use checkpoints in picking up girls;
As I said at the beginning, you need to know whether the previous level matches. Matching means that if you want to pick up girls, you need to know your own level and judge the level of the object.
Generally, men are more likely to seduce women, and they can seduce women who are one level higher than themselves. For example, if you have Grade 6, then you can seduce girls of Grade 7, but it takes some efforts and methods. If it is level 8, don't live in vain.
Generally, you eat too much and eat too little. If you are level 7, you can easily kill a passerby girl with a high probability of success. But you are definitely not satisfied with the average girl, preferably at the same level or lower, so the probability of success is high. If the challenge level is higher than yourself, be prepared for failure.
How exactly:
To sum up, if your level is higher than that of girls, then girls may have some ideas when they see you, but girls will think you are so excellent, so it doesn't matter whether you despise her or not. At this time, if you extend an olive branch and give some hints to girls, then girls will easily take the bait.
If you are not satisfied with being lower than you, you can try to tease girls of the same level with skills and means. You can't pester them, and you can't have the cheek to disturb others. For girls of the same level, you don't need to chase them too hard, and others will have a little idea. If possible, you just need to break off the relationship. For high-level, you can try to flirt. If the other person is not interested in you, there is no need to pester you, which has no practical effect.
Therefore, from my own experience, it is generally not wrong to look at each other's level and my own level, and to look at the goal. I am also quite sure. Instead of aiming at a girl who is much taller than herself, it is better to find a practical girl around you, because even if you catch a girl who is much taller than yourself, it is difficult to stick to it. Therefore, it is very important to find your own position.
In life, many people don't know how to fall in love, and try their best to pursue the girl they like, but there is no progress. However, seeing some people can easily make girls secretly agree, not that they are better than you, but that they are more skillful than you. If you use the wrong method, it is naturally difficult to get the correct result. If you don't know your own problems, you naturally don't know how to change them. My following series of articles will teach you how to control and influence her with psychological "tricks" and make you easily attract her! If you can persist in reading this series of articles, it will change your love life!
The first thing you have to do is to change yourself-"packaging".
How to influence others' decisions is a means of controlling people! Psychologically speaking, people usually make a decision through an appearance seen by their eyes first.
For example, if you go to a place to eat, if there are two restaurants next to you, you don't know them. One is a wedding, and you need to wait in line for an equal sign to eat. In another house, the door is empty and no one is there. The waiter pulled the guests at the door and let them in for dinner. Which one would you choose? I believe that as long as you are not in a hurry to eat, you will usually choose the one in line. As for whether this restaurant is really delicious, or maybe these guests are entrusted by the hotel, you won't think about it, just through your eyes, it will affect your decision invisibly! Give another example of packaging. If you are a master of fried noodles, your fried noodles are the best in the world. If you fry at a street food stall, buy 20 yuan a plate. No matter how delicious the fried food is, the guests will feel expensive! Let's change the scene. If fried in a six-star hotel, the same noodles will be served in 60 yuan, and no guests will complain! This is that through self-packaging, you can influence other people's thoughts and decisions.
The first is the outer packaging. You don't need a handsome face and a famous brand. But be sure to be clean and tidy, sunny and healthy, cut a hairstyle that suits you, ask female friends more questions about clothes, or look at fashionable clothes. This is easy to change, and it is indeed a way to get good results, because if she can't accept anything she sees in her eyes, then whatever skills you use will get twice the result with half the effort. So this change is a way to get twice the result with half the effort.
The second is the clever packaging inside psychology, which means that we should be the restaurant at the wedding and let her queue up for the number! You should show your colorful, healthy and rich life and make her feel that you have many friends and many women are willing to make friends with you. This is also called high-value display from the psychology of picking up girls (of course, there are many skills of high-value display, and I will write an article later). You must be equal, even your value is slightly higher than hers, because we always choose hotels that need to wait in line to get the number, and rarely enter hotels where the doorman asks you to enter. So you will always see that she is always indifferent to a good man who flatters in all kinds of ways, but she is so fascinated by a bad man who often puts her aside and loves to answer irrelevant questions.
You can pay attention to my psychological series of practical skills of picking up girls, including a series of real-time learning moves such as chatting online and meeting!
Heart anchor
Usually, a hypnotist will establish a heart anchor during hypnosis, which is a conditioned reflex and will make you feel pain. Every time I hear the drums, I feel emotional pain. Anchor drum is the heart of poverty and emotion. Psychological research has found that using hypnosis will increase others' interest in you, and hypnotists use hypnosis to pick up girls.
Use hypnosis to enhance my sister's interest
The first time I chatted with a beautiful woman, I said that she was very powerful. She could understand other people's inner thoughts and control them, such as making beautiful women fall in love quickly. Ross said that the purpose of doing this is to arouse people's curiosity about beautiful things.
What's it like to be attracted to you? The beauty replied, "I should blush and my heart beat faster."
In order to create a relaxed communication atmosphere and relax the unconscious, it is easier to slow down. The problem itself will also remind the beauty of the feeling of being attracted by time, and naturally it will be introduced into a moving state.
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After entering this process, a method is adopted to construct the heart anchor. He put his hand on her belly and said to the woman, "I think when you are attracted, it must be hearts." Then he moved his hand to the position of his heart and continued to talk to the beautiful woman. When he touched his heart several times, his beautiful heart beat faster, which also established an action related to the heart anchor. When the heart anchor is established, putting your hand on your heart can cause the beauty of your heart to accelerate, and the beauty will also enter a trance state, even forgetting her work during the conversation. This is hypnosis.
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Keep talking to her and be beautiful in a relationship, so a long-term relationship won't let love continue. If it is love at first sight, it is the beginning of a good relationship. "At the same time, Ross pointed to himself, suggesting that she is very beautiful. Of course, the answer is yes. Beauty said that the reason why he broke up with his ex-boyfriend was that he was too naive. Seize the opportunity: "You should choose a mature man. "Beauty immediately said that her first reaction was that the people around her hypnotized her.
So you succeeded in attracting beautiful waitresses, and through the establishment of language and the anchoring of mind, you have a good impression on beautiful women in a trance.
Hypnosis increases confidence.
If you want to be more attractive to the opposite sex, hypnosis is definitely a good idea, which can boost your confidence. Using hypnosis can increase people's confidence. When hypnotizing, generally choose a quiet and comfortable environment, so that people can achieve a relaxed state. Then through induction and stimulation, we can eliminate some bad phenomena such as nervousness, fear and inferiority, and improve our self-confidence.