People have boundaries, such as interpersonal boundaries and ability limits. God, perhaps without boundaries, should hear everything and do everything. If you care about what others think of you, or you want to change them to say hello, or you want to change yourself to let them say hello, it means that you just lack the most basic boundaries and are pursuing to be a god.
But god can't be achieved through hard pursuit.
A few days ago, I met such a scene in the yard: two girls, one big and one small, were at least three years apart in age. When they were fighting for a fitness equipment to play, they were deadlocked and somehow only heard crying. It turned out that the small one actually pushed the big one to the ground. It is strange that the two children have no parents around them and pass by when they hear crying.
When the mother of the eldest child saw that the child was bullied, she opened her mouth and began to scold, scolding the child for failing to live up to expectations, scolding the child for being so rude and pushing people casually ... The mother of the little girl took the child away without saying anything. That's not all. The mother of the eldest child kept scolding her children for being useless, and then told other parents around her that both parents and children just now had no quality. The expression of anger is beyond words.
Taking children out to play often meets parents who don't look after their children. Some people feel that finally coming out to play does not stick to me and can be easily satisfied; A little bit, I feel that children can't afford to lose and are not afraid of being bullied.
Whatever the reason, I think it's actually wrong.
When you get to a crowded place, you should pay more attention to taking care of your children, which is the minimum responsibility of parents. Unless the child is already responsible for his actions.
Some parents feel that there is no need to be too nervous. There is no risk for children to play together. There is no need to be nervous. But no one can guarantee that something will happen. Your children are not afraid of being bullied, but it is obviously impossible to hurt others.
Especially around the community fitness equipment, it is really a gathering place for children and a high-risk area for accidents.
A while ago, a child was kicked in the news and hit his head. Everyone was discussing how to blame him.
When the two children clashed that day, the children were with me. I asked her what you would do in this situation. She said I would push her down harder. I said, what if he is several times stronger than you, and he is the eldest brother? She said, I tried my best to push him, but I couldn't push him, so I went to sue the teacher.
What she heard was what her father taught her, not what she really thought.
Dad advocates that we must be better than others, and we will feel bullied if we don't let him.
Then I told her that the teacher was not here and he pushed you to the ground. What would you do if you hit your head again?
She said, what should I do?
I said, mom thinks safety is the most important thing. There are many interesting things, and there is no need to rob that. It's good for everyone to queue up and take turns to play, but if someone really didn't obey the rules just now, don't push him hard to avoid injury.
After listening to me, she said that she knew, and other games were also very interesting.
There is a piece of news that impressed me deeply. A boy in a couple heard what a tramp said, then got into a fight and was killed ... The tramp was actually mentally ill.
Many times, we all have to fight for a sigh of relief, and we all feel unbearable, otherwise it will be very embarrassing. But I think the real competition is not impulsive, not violent. But to be able to deal with problems calmly and know what is important. You can't lose the bottom line in order to win face.