Watching problem children play happily in the corner of the living room, suddenly ~ he is one year old and four months old! Looking back on many moments of war in the past year, it is simply heaven.

My idea can be traced back to earlier. /kloc-When my eldest daughter was born 0/2 years ago, I took her personally and started a business at the same time. Those years really brought the hard work of "women in Taiwan Province Province" to the extreme. Every day, I either take care of my children or work, and I have little time for myself.

It was not until she went to primary school and her career was more stable that she was able to take time off occasionally to do something of her own. I still remember that when I "sleep with you" every night, I didn't even have a chance to "accidentally fall asleep". I always reply to emails or print documents with my laptop at hand.

Both "mom" and "entrepreneurial boss" work 7- 1 1 all year round! The word "support" is probably a portrayal of life in those years.

At that time, if a friend of an office worker told me how tired his life was, I would say disapprovingly, "At least you still have time to get off work!" " !

Mom, you should also have time to get off work!

My daughter has grown up, and I finally have some time to myself, but I didn't expect to have a younger brother. After my brother was born, my daughter moved to Germany to live together. The career of a newborn and a girl in a different environment in Taiwan Province Province at the same time made me feel that I was really "doing my best" at this time a year ago, and I would rather die than surrender.

The husband said, "You should give yourself time to rest! 」

My heart OS: "Yes! Come and be a mother and see ... that will be a day! 」

Once my German mother-in-law visited me and saw that I was busy and tired. I couldn't stand it. She ordered me to go to bed, helped me take my brother out and bought some food. After getting up, I can tidy up my house a little and read some books. When they came back, I felt refreshed!

She said to me, "mom, you have to have time to get off work!" 」

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Mommy can take care of herself and the whole family!

In the past, she raised three children of similar age by herself, two of whom were brothers who were one year apart. She often said that she often wanted to hit the wall at that time! But she knows that if she doesn't take care of herself, it will only bring such fatigue and emotion to her children. This shouldn't and isn't what she wants, so she insists on getting up an hour earlier than the children every day, quietly drinking a cup of coffee, reading newspapers and doing housework.

Every night, she insists that children must go to bed before 8 pm 15 until they go to middle school. Of course, the child will protest when she is older, but she directly said, "Mom, I'm going to get off work, too! Mom can't get off work if you don't sleep. So please come to the room! 」

When children are young, they are put directly on the bed, and when they are older, they have more buffer time. However, the 8: 00 pm 15 pm "Mommy's Off-duty Time" has therefore become a fixed schedule for their family. All homework problems, if necessary, must be completed before 8: 15. After this time, mom won't help. After several fires, my mother insisted on this principle, and the children naturally accepted and cooperated.

I speak German. In fact, when they grow up, they all know why it is 8: 00 p.m. 15 p.m., because my mother has a fixed TV program to watch at 8: 30, but her mother insists on not watching TV dramas when the children are together, so she can only enjoy it when the children are asleep.

This is a lovely reason, but they also learn to "respect" their parents' time. Parents also need to rest and not be disturbed.

That's why he really wants me not to give all my time to my children, even to him. He hopes that when I have a rest, I will also have a rest, not doing housework and busy with business. Even if I don't enjoy the time with him, he thinks it's good, because everyone needs to have "complete time to himself".

I just found out that I have always felt deeply guilty about "doing my own thing" I think if I have free time, but the dishes at home are dirty, the toys are not put away, the clothes are not finished, and the work has to be done, I have to use this time to finish it, otherwise it will be a "waste of time".

But there will always be dishes and clothes that can't be washed, things that can't be packed, emails to be answered, and documents to be processed! So when can mom rest? Ten years later?

So I started practicing from then on. When I sent my brother to bed at eight o'clock, I put a sports mat beside his bed. The "sleeping time" every day is my "fitness time". He is talking nonsense, and I am doing some weight training on the ground. He is asleep, this is my "off-duty time"! At that time, although there was still an hour before my daughter went to bed, I wouldn't let myself be busy with any housework or children's things, because it was time to get off work!

Occasionally, I watch a football match with my husband, watch some photo albums or movies, or just drink beer and chat on the sofa, enjoy the time alone, read or write articles by myself, and chat with friends, but I just don't "work".

I carefully "screened" what I did during this time, only doing things that made me relaxed and stress-free, and made me more energetic after I finished.

This time is sacrosanct. I even think during the day. What am I going to do after work tonight? I feel very happy just thinking about it.

Although there are endless dishes and clothes, endless things and endless business, it is much smarter to know when to shout "stop" than to complain about yourself again! Children can also see a more energetic mommy, and her husband has an emotionally stable wife. I can also prevent myself from drowning in housework and becoming a yellow-faced woman. Mommy, you really need to get off work!

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20 16. 10.08 supplement:

After this article was published, it was recognized by many mothers, but many mothers were thinking, how is it possible? Seriously, it's really hard to get off work, and it's even harder to have a holiday. But if we don't draw a clear line ourselves, our world will get smaller and smaller when our children are older!

The following is my practice and a supplement to this article. I hope mothers can justifiably let themselves get off work every day!

My practice is to put problem children to bed before 8:30 every day and whisper to my sister before going to bed at 9:30. Then it's my off-duty time! Is it still early? In fact, German children sleep at this time. Sleep more, grow taller, be in good spirits and be strong!

In the past, when I was busy at work, I also rushed to put my daughter to bed before nine o'clock, and then I continued to work overtime at home. Some things have to be adhered to, and some have to be adjusted and sacrificed.

No matter how messy the house is, I will let my husband clean it up with me. What if he wants to relax and not do it? Then leave it alone and do it together the next day.

Why? Because home is not just mine, he is my (only) companion. I will never do housework alone in bad business when he is relaxing. What if it's really messy? Then tell him it's too messy (otherwise my son will have no clothes to wear tomorrow, ha), and we will finish it together and have a rest together.

Children can't spoil, and neither can husbands.