How to date? Where you can't go on a first date.
1. A karaoke room like a secret room.
Of course, you can go to a closed place on the first date, but it also depends on your relationship. Relationships will not make her insecure and insecure, but will make women feel that you are an "uncle" with ulterior motives.
2. Internet cafes
Once you bring a girl into an Internet cafe, you lose the chance to communicate with her, because computers are definitely more interesting than your first date.
3 Crowded playground
Going to the playground is good and entertaining, but a crowded playground is definitely not good. It will be hot when people are crowded, and girls will think it is better to stay at home.
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4. Near the woman's house
If a girl is shy, she basically doesn't want people nearby to see her near her home and where her relatives and friends often go.
5. Bar
There are many beautiful women and handsome men in the bar, and you will be easily distracted in it.
6. Cheap family restaurants are everywhere
A person's life taste and lifestyle can be reflected in peacetime. Of course, I can't go, but the first date is often a time to get to know each other. If you do this for the first time, you have poor taste in life.
How to date? Matters needing attention on the first date
1. Absent-minded, look in all directions.
2. Dressing inappropriately and exaggerating restlessness.
3. Check the accounts and get to know each other.
4. Ask her about her past emotional experience.
5. Always reply to text messages and phone calls.
How to date? Dating essentials
1. tissue
Tissue is a must for dating. In any case, you should buy a pack of soul mate tissues and take them with you in case of emergency.
2. Small gifts
There is no woman who doesn't like the surprise brought by gifts. On the first or second date, she can bring a piece of chocolate or something.
3. Condoms
This thing should be carried with you, which will be of great use at critical moments and can also hint at women.
How to date? Appointment location selection
1. Coffee shop or dessert
Many people don't know what to talk about when they meet for the first time, so they sit down and look around to find a state to ease the atmosphere.
2. Cinema
(What movie to watch on the first date), watch movies together, preferably comedies, without handsome guys, otherwise it will steal your thunder.
3. Large shopping centers
You can ask her to help you choose clothes from a female perspective, and talk about fashion and dressing.
4. Ice rink
This is a very good place and there is a good chance to move in. Everyone should know how to move in.
5. Parks, amusement parks and video game cities
These places are good choices. Walking in parks, amusement parks and video game cities can help us experience some interesting things together and deepen our distance.
Finally, dating is really not for fun. More importantly, how can we improve our relationship and get to know each other better? This is the purpose of dating, not to attract outsiders to ignore you.
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How to date? What should I prepare before a date? What should I pay attention to when dating?
(1) Appointment preparation
It is necessary to spend time changing clothes and arranging hair, because women will notice;
Brush your teeth before going out, you must not smell, and clean your shoes before going out;
When wearing perfume, women will definitely give points to men who wear perfume, but don't use cheap perfume;
Don't go out too early, just arrive on time, and send a message to ask her if she has gone out before going out.
If you are familiar enough, you can play a joke on her: when you see her on a date, call her and say, "I'm sorry, I can't come because of XXX." Then she suddenly appeared and surprised her.
(2) About paying the bill
First of all, don't choose to date in too high-end places, even if you are rich.
Usually these places are not only expensive, but also make her feel that you are using money to impress her, or she will obviously feel that you are chasing her. More importantly, too formal a place will make it impossible for both of you to relax and chat.
Don't always pay for her. But don't let the question of who pays the bill cause embarrassment. It's best to assume that you are the one paying the bill. Don't argue with her if she is in a hurry to pay the bill. She must be right to invest more in your relationship. She will care about you only after investing. Or when you pay the bill, say, "I want this." You can buy drinks in the future. "
(3) Arrange the transition
Good dating needs to be changed, because dating in a fixed place is too monotonous and the atmosphere can easily start to decline. This is a warning, you need to change your position immediately.
One principle is "I would rather visit three places in an hour than stay in one place for three hours." When you and a woman experience different places, because of the illusion of space, it will quickly increase your familiarity.
(4) Dealing with obstacles
If she takes her friends out on a date, you should take care of her friends first. Women are the most indecisive animals. If her friend goes back and puts in a good word for you, it will be more effective than anything you do yourself.
Besides, you'd better call your wingman (your brother) too. A powerful wingman can help you solve many problems, such as showing you high value and making her date less boring.
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How to date? What will you say when dating and chatting with girls?
Many men worry about what to say in dating chat. Actually, this question is wrong. Women like you not because of what you say, but because of what kind of man you are. We express what kind of person you are through communication in dating-your information, your personality, your attitude and so on. So what is said in dating chat is only superficial, and the deeper level is the interaction between you.
But that doesn't mean you can mess around. If you engage in a conversation on a date, but the topic stays at the same level, for example, if you spend half a day talking about what her cat likes to eat, the result may be that you become her friend.
The purpose of dating is to upgrade your relationship, not to make friends. You should care more about the direction of your chat than what you say.
The direction of chatting with girls is divided into three stages:
First, the starting topic: the surrounding situation, life interest
Second, related topics: experience the * * * vibration, and the state is well received.
Third, in-depth topic: emotional state, related to sex
First, the starting topic
Usually you may hear this conversation between a man and a woman:
Man: Where are you from?
Woman: I'm from Qingdao.
M: Qingdao is quite good. How old are you?
Woman: Almost 22 years old.
Man: Well, I'm a little older than you. You work here, right? What do you do?
W: I'm an accountant in the company.
Oh, have you studied accounting before?
Woman: Yes.
……
You can see that girl is bored to tears, because this man just keeps asking questions, just like auditing accounts.
A good date should be a relaxed and pleasant exchange, avoiding creating an atmosphere of formal dating. If it is too serious, both sides will be under pressure. So when you meet for the first time, you should ask fewer questions, and you can talk about some topics related to the surrounding scenes or life interests first. The core of this stage is to make the atmosphere relaxed and interesting.
1, peripheral conditions
The surrounding situation refers to the scene between you, the people, things and things around you. The first step is to break the ice and use the scenes and things at that time to start a dialogue.
For example:
Hold out your hand, as if you wanted to shake her hand when you met. She stretched out her hand, and you pulled it back and said with a smile, "Haha, I didn't expect you to be so old-fashioned. Do you really want to shake my hand? "
When I was drinking, I said to her, "The last time I drank with my friend, she ordered a' feeling of first love'. She said that the feeling of first love is like this. She let me taste it, and I regretted it as soon as I drank it. It turned out to be soda water. It seems that the seasoning master has regrets in his heart. It's really a pit. "
Give her a funny nickname, for example, everyone calls her Coco, but you call her by another name, so there is a conspiracy. When a girl says she is a Pisces, you can say, "I'll call you Xiaoyu after that." If she objects, you say, "Oh, OK, Coco." If she is younger than you, you can call her sister in turn and start role-playing, and she will start bothering you. )
2. Interest in life
You can talk about topics that women are interested in and do what you like. Think about what women care about most. Gossip about sexual feelings, horoscopes, psychological tests, palm reading and magic are women's favorite topics.
What constellation are you? (Constellation is a great topic)
What sports/music do you like? Tell me about your hobbies, books, music, movies, etc.
Have you ever kept small animals? Tell an interesting story about your cat and dog. Girls usually like small animals.
How do you choose to spend your free time on weekdays? It's convenient to arrange the next appointment and talk about life.
Some interesting ways of dialogue:
"What constellation are you?"
"Gemini."
"Gemini girls are cute and articulate, so you are quite suitable for me. Let's get married tomorrow. "
"Ha ha,,,,"
"Wait a minute, can you cook? No? Well, we are divorced. "
"Ha ha,,,,"
"But I think I like your personality, although you are a little silly."
"Ha ha, you are so stupid. Gemini is very smart. What constellation are you? "
"I am a * * *,,,"
"Ha ha,,,,"
"Do you usually cook at home?"
"Yes, I often cook at home."
"Oh, really? In my opinion, there are three levels of cooking. The first is to want to eat, want to eat; The second one won't die if eaten; Third, eat it and die. What kind are you? "
"Haha, I am the first/second."
"It doesn't look like it. Are you lying? If you have a chance, you must give it a try.
"Very good."
"Oh, no, if it's the third one, then I'm dead." (Yu Le original)
"What do you do?"
"You guess."
"Do you do technology?"
"You are so smart that you are wrong when you guess."
"So what do you do?"
"Do you want to hear the truth or a lie?"
"Of course it's true."
"Actually, I'm a magician. If you buy me a drink, I will help you realize a wish. "
"Are you a person who believes in intuition?"
"Well, I believe."
"I have feelings for you, do you believe in telepathy? Why don't we play a guessing game? "
"How to play?"
"Look at my right eye. Choose a number from 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9 (speak slowly at 7 o'clock for emphasis). Think of a number in your mind and see if we think the same. "
"I'll think about it."
"Give me your right hand, I will feel it. Is it 7? "
This is a psychological game, and the probability of guessing 7 is quite high.
The initial topic is only a transitional topic when we first meet. Don't talk for so long, and then get into the contact topic.
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Second, the topic of contact chat
Men often make the mistake of chatting with women about news, current affairs, study and work when dating. Tell the truth to women that your work projects tend to preach, criticize and complain, and only agree with one value, which will hinder you from attracting women. Let's talk about some topics related to you and her-your life, your story, your thoughts. The more similarities between you, the deeper your connection with her, and the more comfortable she is with you.
1, encounter * * * vibration, causing * * * sound.
We all miss our childhood and college life, and we all long for a dream. You can talk about some interesting things when you were a child and plan your dreams in the future. Too many people live a real life, but they are not happy. When it comes to childhood and college, we always miss it. When it comes to dreams, we always have a lot of * * *.
Share more previous stories and future plans, because the illusion of time will make the other party feel that you have known each other for a long time and can quickly promote the relationship between two people.
Guiding topic:
"How was your childhood and college?"
"What do you want to do in the future? What's your wish? "
"If you had a choice, which city would you like to live in?"
"If you had a month's time and money, where would you choose to travel and why?"
"What was your most romantic experience and what moved you the most?"
"Beauty is born and bought with money. What matters is personality and how to show yourself. There are many beautiful women here, but what really matters is vitality, wisdom and personal characteristics. What qualities do you want me to know more about? If I asked you, what are your three most special personalities? How would you describe yourself? "
As a guide, you can talk about interesting things in your childhood, things in college, and your plans and dreams for life.
Everyone is most interested in himself. When she shares her world with you, you can look at her and say, "Do you want to know what kind of person you are in my eyes?" Then remember to pause. For example, you can say, "Actually, you are sexy, but not as confident as you look. Sometimes you look a little cold and dizzy. I think you are a very enthusiastic person, and your bosom friends will know you very well. You are a girl who is very willing to pay. Once you find someone you like, you won't care about gains and losses, but sometimes you don't have an opinion and are easy to trust others, right? "
Or "I don't think you are as confident as you look. Maybe many people think that you are in good shape or not, and that you are very satisfied with yourself, but I can see that in private, you will doubt yourself in some ways and feel less confident in yourself. In fact, you want more people to care about you and someone to lend you a shoulder to lean on. "
This is called "cold reading", which can instantly hit a girl's heart and cause a * * * sound.
2, her state, praise
Women need compliments to rationalize why you like her, but the mistake men are used to making is to give a woman a lot of compliments at the beginning, and give her compliments before she has invested, which women will think is flattery. Now that she has shared her things, her thoughts and so on with you, she has devoted herself to your interaction. You can praise her according to her personality and express your interest in her, but don't praise her for her beautiful appearance superficially. Even better, praise some internal advantages and don't say "I love you, can you be my girlfriend?"
Can give her different degrees of praise:
I think your social skills are quite strong ";
"I find that besides being sexy, what you say is very interesting";
"I think you are a very sensible and thoughtful girl";
"I like your smile, and I am very happy with you";
We found that we found so many similarities between us, and you surprised me.
Or implicitly praise:
"I think you like adventure, although you are a little stupid. By the way, do you often coquetry?
"I like your independent personality, but unfortunately, I hope you are taller because I like taller girls."
Only when she is confident about her height can you say, for example, that she is taller than you, so that she will know that you are flirting with her. If she is not very tall, but she is good at dressing up, you can say, "If only you could dress up, I like girls who can dress up."
If she is cute, you can change it to "I wish you were cute". )
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Third, the depth of the topic
Deep topics include emotional state and sexual topics. Talking with girls about in-depth topics requires a quiet environment, and no one will disturb them. If you are in a sensitive environment at first, you need to move to a private place before you can start the third stage of in-depth topic.
1, emotional state
If you want to develop a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with her, you'd better talk to her about their emotional state. Directly asking "How many times have you been in love before" will make the other person uncomfortable. The way to talk about emotional state can be to talk about the age of the first kiss. For example, ask, "If someone asked you the age of your first kiss, what would you say?"
If the girl asks you the age of your first kiss, you can take the opportunity to tell your love story: "I fell in love late." Although I used to know many girls in my class, worked in the violin association and often went out to eat with them, I really liked only one. She is a junior in normal college, Gemini. I especially like her personality. There were many boys chasing her at that time. Moreover, she is a girl who doesn't like reading very much. Because she signed up for the etiquette competition of the Universiade, she needs to improve her oral English. Later, I got up every morning to accompany her in morning reading and teach her English. Once, I joked and said "close your eyes". I didn't expect her to be really obedient, and then I kissed her. " This is a simple story just made up, but it shows (1) that you are very popular with girls (2) that you won't fall in love casually (3) that you get good grades in school (4) that you are very kind to your girlfriend, and so on. You can add more things about yourself in the middle, and of course it is best to show your various advantages indirectly.
Step 2 talk about sex
Sex topics can directly induce girls' sexual awareness, thus enhancing the possibility of having sex with her. When talking about sexual topics, we must have a positive attitude and think that * * * is normal. If you can't let go, girls will feel unnatural.
Introducing the topic of sex can be to share your views and attitudes towards sex. For example, she said that she was losing weight. You can answer this question:
"I don't know why many men like thinner girls, but in my opinion, they all say that thin is not good, fat is not good, thin women look good, fat women are easy to use, men like meat, and bones are like dogs."
"Ha ha, how to understand?"
"Easy to use is comfortable to pick up, and it will be better when there is meat. Here I have to admit that "easy to use" is a lewd ingredient, but the problem is that experienced men have a good memory of sex. Men are all sensory animals, and my attitude towards sex is open. I don't want to hide the so-called sexual concept like other men. As the saying goes, it is better to be honest than gloomy. I don't smoke and I can't drink too much. If I don't even like women, I'll be miserable. I would rather be open-minded than gloomy, saying that men have no good things. " (Yu Le original)
Or a sex joke:
"American scientists have invented a simple method to measure IQ. Do you know what this is called? Elbows, if you can touch your elbows together, it means that a person is very smart, like this,,,, "When she does this, she will squeeze her breasts. You can laugh at her and say, "It seems that your IQ is a little normal."
Then you can ask her, "How old are you?"
"22 years old, why?"
You point to her breasts and say, "I mean here, your cup." Give her a bad smile at the same time, and then make fun of her: "Is there a C? I prefer women with big breasts. Alas, it is said that men have no good things. "
In the third stage, in-depth topics can't be just words and deeds. The key is to keep up with the movements (intimate physical contact). If you tell her your sexual attitude before kissing her, it will make the atmosphere very strange. Topic guidance of kissing: reduce the distance between two people's private space, make and maintain strong eye contact with her, sweep between her eyes and lips when talking, let the conversation gradually decrease when you sit close together, and say to her when silent: "I find it really good to be with you." I don't know why, I am suddenly a little nervous now. " Come closer and look her in the eye. When she speaks again, interrupt her. "Shh, you talk too much. Do you want to kiss me? " Kiss her if she says she wants to; If she says "I don't know (or something else)", you say "Let's try"; If she says no exactly, you can say "I didn't say you could" to her.
Or just ask, "How's your kisser? From 1 to 10, how much do you rate your kiss? "
Finally, the simplest and most basic formula for picking up girls is to be interesting and express interest.
The key to becoming interesting is to keep yourself relaxed, so as to express yourself better and attract women. If you are nervous when you talk, no matter what you say, women will feel uncomfortable.
The key to expressing interest is to express interest in her step by step, with the aim of gradually guiding women and improving their relationship. If you confess from the beginning, women will feel strong pressure. If she is not sure that she likes you, she will usually refuse you or send you a good friend card.
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How to date? Using wechat dating strategy
Everyone must know that WeChat and Momo are dating artifacts, but many people don't know how to date. After reading this article on WeChat dating strategy, it will open your eyes to the method of WeChat dating.
Wechat friends focus on skills. I am very responsible to tell you that if there is no correct method, the dating tools such as WeChat and Momo are actually very inefficient, but I have found a very efficient way to make friends with WeChat. Without further ado, let's talk about my WeChat dating operation process:
Before starting WeChat dating, you need to analyze why girls want to go to WeChat. There are indeed some women who go to WeChat for blind date, but the number is very small and the quality of appearance is even worse. The biggest benefit of WeChat to them is to stay away from their social circle. Even if they date a man on WeChat, as long as they don't leak, it won't spread to their social circle. Bored to kill time, follow the trend, or go to WeChat because of your vanity and so on. It may all be the reason why girls go to WeChat. But this is not a problem. What we should keep in mind is that as long as our image and conditions are not bad, plus the correct WeChat chat method and invitation process, girls are still willing to come out and have sex with you.
In the process of operation, we will attach great importance to the initial response rate. It's really terrible to say hello to a bottle with a mobile phone and no one replies. Therefore, before we say hello, we must first establish our own WeChat profile and upload some good photos in the circle of friends.
Personal experience in playing WeChat proves that the method of saying that you are a good man in the message is basically useless for dating, and the role of uploading photos in WeChat circle of friends is very great. Personal signature introduction is not as powerful as photo information. Needless to say, the first time you read a girl's information, will you read the text or the photo?
Regarding the photos of WeChat friends circle, the relatively low-level gameplay is to directly show that you are Gao Fushuai. For example, using some photos that don't match your identity-like posing in front of other people's famous cars or taking photos in some high-end restaurants ... This method may fool an inexperienced little girl or a woman who hasn't seen many big scenes, but it is very difficult to fool some socially experienced beautiful women, because women will think you are too deliberate and unreal.
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What kind of photo is a good profile?
First of all, be consistent with your identity. Identity refers to the impression you want to engrave in others' eyes. Everyone has stereotypes, and this theory, which has been proved many times in psychology, is equally reasonable when applied to picking up girls.
It is also very important that identity positioning will determine the lifestyle that needs to be displayed. No matter how much money or things you give her, women always like a way of life. If you can show this in your photos, that's the best. This is the general idea of making friends on WeChat.
Therefore, the following factors can be considered in taking photos-traveling, keeping pets, having some beautiful female friends around, cooking by yourself, taking dance classes, keeping fit and so on.
It takes skill to convey real information. At the same time of publishing their own basic information, the importance of photo background is reflected-because mm will analyze the background in your photos according to the information, and as long as it is logical, they will rationalize your information and identity positioning.
I personally put photos such as traveling, attending university parties, taking photos with different girls and so on. These examples all imply that my life is wonderful, not rich.
It should also be noted that WeChat greetings don't need too much nonsense, just an expression or a hey. Interested people will naturally reply to you. If you're not interested, it's no use wasting your mind. This is the key to dating efficiency.
After a round of chatting, you start with the girl who replied, but talking too much is also a waste of time. As soon as the two sides talk, they will send out invitations. Without an appointment, nothing will happen. The Bad Boys College of Girls' College has many ways and topics to chat with girls on WeChat. These are the experiences of making friends on WeChat, so we don't need to discuss them here. In Bad Boys College, we arrested many people, and the whole process of making friends on WeChat is a short-term game.
After playing WeChat for a month, I probably counted the data. There are more than 50 greetings from * * *, of which more than 30 people replied. Finally, nine girls came out to meet, and five dates were successful. Because the university near me is a comprehensive university, these girls are of high quality, at least they look like seven or eight points in the photos. However, different people have different standards. For my date, 78% of the girls can already sleep and take them out to meet people.