Elasticity makes ball games full of infinite changes and vitality, and elasticity can also make life full of vitality.
Laozi's Tao Te Ching: "People are born weak and die strong. Everything is tender and crisp, and its death is withered. Therefore, the strong die and the weak live. " It means that when people are alive, their bodies are weak and elastic, and after death, their bodies are stiff and cold. Hard belongs to the category of death, and everything in the world, people with plants and trees, are soft. And soft things are often elastic.
Soft and elastic life is like a rubber ball. When it is pressed or slapped by an external force, it immediately bounces to avoid it and never touches it hard. If it is unavoidable, the soft ball can temporarily follow the external pressure with great endurance, and after taking away the external force, the ball will immediately return to its original state.
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If life can become soft and elastic, everything can turn a corner and take a step back, then the unpleasant things in life will no longer be terrible. If a person can live into a ball, which is full of vitality inside and soft and tough outside, it doesn't matter even if he hits the south wall, bounce back and start over.
I saw this news recently: On June 6th, when Xiaoyang, a sophomore boy in north university of china, was taking a make-up exam, his mobile phone in his desk was found by the invigilator, and then the invigilator confiscated Xiaoyang's test paper. After leaving the examination room, Xiaoyang sent a message to his mother saying, "Mom, I'm sorry, don't think about me, I don't deserve it", and then fell to his death. What makes this beautiful boy feel that he is not worthy of his mother's miss? Is it because you have to cheat in the make-up exam, weak? A failure in the exam and a cheating bring a black spot in life, which does not mean that life is dark. Boys are young and energetic, and they look hard and energetic. In fact, they are the most vulnerable and will be discounted.
I wish someone had said to the child at that time, "Life is not black and white, and there is a gray area in the middle. If the child is caught cheating, you just walk into the gray area, not completely dark. As long as you change your mind or try to ask for help, you will definitely be able to move from the gray area to the light. "
Our education has always taught us to be strong and not to be knocked down by any difficulties, but I think that the strong are easy to break and the weak are invincible. If we always ask ourselves to be firm and strong, then in the process of our own death, we will often walk into a dead end, get more and more desperate, and finally we can't persist and go to a dead end.
If we understand that everyone is fragile, we will understand our own weakness and cowardice, so don't suffer when encountering difficulties. Don't deny yourself because you are not strong enough. None of us is as miserable as we think. When appropriate, show your weakness to the people around you, ask for help, get back the flexibility of life when you are weak, and wait for the opportunity to rebound.
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But our society has always advocated being strong. In contrast, weakness seems to be a sin. I remember seeing a news on 20 18 that a woman who was pregnant for 3 months was cooking at home, and the gas leaked and exploded, and the burned area of the whole body was 18%. In order to affect fetal development, pregnant women voluntarily do not use painkillers and anesthetics. Netizens just praised "the greatness of maternal love" with one voice, without thinking about whether these pains will crush the body and mind of pregnant women. Our society labels mothers: women are weak and mothers are strong, as if cowards are not worthy of being mothers.
A few months after my friend gave birth to a baby, she experienced the pain of childbirth. In the face of a day of shit and fart, she wakes up frequently every night. Every time the baby gets sick, she is anxious and blames herself. Every time the milk is blocked, the whole person is tired and upset ... One day, my friend collapsed, and she cried and said to me: "All other baby mothers, even if it is difficult to read the baby's jokes, can become strong, but I am strong."
My friend cried on the other end of the phone. She has always been a strong and rational woman. When she became a mother, she intuitively felt that she could be strong enough to face everything. I said to my friend, "Fuck being a mother. Please be a weak and flexible mother. Each of us is vulnerable at times. Don't touch anything hard, and don't cling to it. Tell people around you that you are not superman, you are weak and you need help. Please imagine yourself as a ball. Even if life is pressing you, there is no shortage of exercise. Please seek the help of external forces to take away the oppressed things.
If life is a spring, some people overstretch, tighten, lose elasticity and permanently deform.
If you are a mother now, please remember that when you are carrying a crying baby around every corner of the house every night, you are too tired to fight and exhausted, don't hold it to death. Fuck being a mother. Don't think that the father of the child has to go to work every day, and then you will be sensible to take care of every child day and night.
A person's rubber band, if pulled too long, will break if pulled too hard, and the rest of his life will be long. All children need your company in their future growth. As mothers, we should take care of ourselves and not worry about everything. When we need help, when we are vulnerable, please make every effort to seek foreign aid, wake up our husbands and ask our mother-in-law for help. Don't think about what will happen during the day, let yourself get through this first and keep yourself weak and flexible.
Life and death are only in one thought. If you think life is too hard, stop and have a rest and turn your head. There is no despair in life, but you can't figure it out.
May we all make a rubber ball, full of vitality inside, soft, tough and elastic outside, and bounce when it touches a big stone. As Chang 'an said in August, "Always remember that when we are knocked down by fate, we still have to get up, pat ourselves on the ground and say, Come on, win two out of three games."