Compared with procrastination, self-control is weak, and if you want to be self-disciplined, you either give yourself chicken blood or force yourself. The reason why we can't do it well is because we are too arrogant and not enough.
And when we use what we have to do and should do (things that we don't really want to do), we actually use willpower, and willpower is very limited. When we use willpower to force ourselves to do things we don't want to do, we will suffer.
Don't always get along with yourself with strengths and weaknesses, and don't try to face all challenges with willpower, self-discipline and execution. These resources are limited and will have a negative impact.
Respect your own happiness and pain, because happy people can be better self-disciplined.
Why is self-discipline so difficult?
According to motivation psychology, people often think that whether to do or not to do something is judged according to the merits of rationality, but in fact, people are largely driven by emotions.
It is difficult for people to change from a relatively happy thing to a relatively painful thing. But why can those self-disciplined people do many things that make us miserable and still be happy? Although these things are painful for others, they are happy for them. They will do it naturally and have fun from it.
True self-discipline never depends on hard support.
1, driven by dopamine, the goal becomes smaller, learning counterattacks, slimming and becoming beautiful, and the brain secretes dopamine, which is exciting. However, due to the decrease of fresh stimuli and lack of timely feedback, dopamine will decrease rapidly. This is what we often call "three-minute fever". Dopamine is the driving force, and its mechanism is reward and feedback. Therefore, if we set a smaller goal and give positive feedback continuously through short-term goal realization, dopamine will continue to have a steady stream of motivation.
2, the pursuit of endorphins to maintain long-term sustained motivation
Unlike the instant pleasure brought by dopamine, endorphins have to make great efforts to get something more painful and addictive in the end. Zhang Jun, an actress, kept running 14 years. She said, "When the work pressure is high, I like to go out for a few laps to release myself, sweat and take a bath, and my mind will suddenly be enlightened. Endorphins produced after suffering make your inner goodness flourish, keep your vitality and keep moving forward.
3. Find happiness and reduce the perception of pain.
Find your own self-discipline goals and appropriate methods, such as losing weight. Some people like running, some like yoga, and some like dancing. You don't have to follow someone else's action plan completely, just act in your own way. This is to increase your happiness and to some extent resist the pain caused by self-discipline.
2 1 day self-discipline training method:
1-5 days: choose 2-3 self-discipline plans and adapt to the rhythm slowly.
6- 14 days: gradually increase the amount to extend the self-discipline time.
15-2 1 day: initially form a habit and continue to maintain it.
2 1 day: Continue to form habits or increase self-discipline goals.
Forming habits is the best way of self-discipline. Even if you only do the most basic and energy-saving self-discipline, which is similar to the starting price, you will feel that the steering wheel of life is still in your own hands.
You can only do one thing for a week. No matter how vigorous it is, there is nothing to show off. And a trivial thing, if it persists for several years, or even more than ten years, will have earth-shaking effects. Adhere to low-intensity self-discipline every day, but you can achieve your goals and achieve new breakthroughs in your life.