I also analyzed three reasons why it is better than painting a gourd ladle, but when the dean analyzed this problem, it was simply a soul torture for me. I have a strong sense of substitution. I want to sweat on my back, I have a slight smell of sweat on my head, I have some difficulty breathing, my heart is heavy, and my body feels obvious. I feel that the dean is analyzing my heart, just like peeling it.
Following the dean's train of thought, I am analyzing myself:
The first reason is that children's learning enthusiasm is not high and their grades are not excellent.
The second reason is my own frustration.
The children's grades are not excellent, and I can't stand not being in the top few in the exam. I think it is my own incompetence. Why did I give birth to such a stupid child? Why can't I educate my children? I take the child's Excellence as proof of my Excellence. If my children are not good, I will fail. A few years ago, I thought I had failed in educating children.
I especially believe Li Ka-shing's words: No matter how successful parents are in their careers, they can't make up for their failure in educating their children! (this sentence has simply become my curse. )
Until I studied it for a long time, I still thought I had failed in educating my children. One day, my husband and I discussed the education of our children.
The child is really a mirror of the mother. Never look at yourself like children.
I only lived on the second floor before. Today, I tortured me with the soul of the dean, and I continued to dig deep into the third layer of my education of children's anxiety. The reason is that my unfinished wish is that my expectations are not met and I am not satisfied with myself. This shocked me. I didn't think of it. )
Looking back on your school history, it should be said that it is excellent. I am an out-and-out rural girl, and my parents have no knowledge. I went to junior high school in the village Committee first, then transferred to township junior high school after I stopped, but my grades were really good. I didn't repeat the grade, and the third grade of junior high school was also taken to the city to participate in the physical chemistry Olympic Games and won the prize. Because people in rural areas want to take shortcuts, I graduated from junior high school and got a normal degree, because after graduating from normal school, I began to receive subsidies and issue food stamps. Being a teacher is also relatively stable, which is a good way out for girls in the eyes of parents. So I was admitted to the normal school on 16, and I didn't go to work until 19. I didn't feel dissatisfied at that time. I feel that I am also very successful, and my study, work and even family are going well.
Because from the inside, I won't let myself go. Can I let go of my children? So I saw today that my son is under great pressure with a mother like me. My unfulfilled wish requires me to grow hard. I want to prove that my excellence was made by family of origin. These are my topics. The child has his life, and he shouldn't bear my life problems. When I realized this, I was really ashamed of my children. )
Fortunately, in the past few years of study, I have devoted myself to my own study and growth. I have done a good job, grown myself up, managed my family well, and let go of my children more and more. It must be encouragement. I think our parent-child relationship is getting more and more harmonious, and children's lives are getting more and more stretched. Moreover, he has higher requirements for himself, new goals and greater motivation. All these.
Everything is so coincidental. Listen to the dean's class and reflect on yourself. I got up from the toilet and drank another glass of water before I recovered from my emotions. Just as I was calming down, my son called back and said that this class was a bathing class. He cleans himself in the dormitory every day, and the bathhouse is very dirty. He didn't go to the bathhouse. During this self-study class, he called his grandmother, called her, called me, called his brother and sister (his uncle's two children) and called her every week.
Listening to my son chatting with me, I was so happy and filled with emotion at that moment. God gave me such a good child! I took the opportunity to say to my child, "When I was at home, I always felt that I cared about your grades. Now that you are studying outside, I have more feelings for my parents, grandparents and grandparents. We all care about loving you. Although you are abroad, we will talk about you every day at home ... My son himself said: I also think my grandfather is a nurse, and my grandfather is very kind to me. I went to college and called them every week.
I didn't get out of control until the child became an adult, but I don't think it's too late. Children have children's lives, I have my life, I believe in myself and children. I think our family has a bright future.
Thank you, Dean, for waking me up again. You are so grateful!
The era of heart is the best encounter in my life, the place where I really grew up, the place where I realized the counterattack of my life, and the place where I respected and maintained it all my life.
Thanks to my children, thanks to my children for making me grow up, thanks to everything I have, I will cherish it doubly!
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