Gao Fushuai before marriage, laziness and greed after marriage?

Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to go in and people in the city want to come out. This sentence is really true. How many people swear before marriage, but live a widowed life after marriage? Children are noisy, husbands are noisy, and life is a chicken feather.

Do you want to change the status quo? Want your husband to be the perfect lover?

The ultimate meaning only needs two words-influence.

There is no need to change here because change is a denial of the other party's behavior and requires the other party to correct it immediately, which will cause the other party to resist, and the influence is to make the other party unconsciously become what you want in a quiet way.

Tip 1: Allow.

The influence will not happen overnight, just as children need time to grow up and husbands need time to grow up, so we should first allow husbands to have temporary problems and give him a happy environment. People rarely have negative emotions in a comfortable environment, and we can also give him free space to grow up faster.

Tip 2: Strengthen.

Reward your husband's good behavior in time and ignore his bad behavior. Just like we train a puppy to shake hands, we give him something delicious when it is done, instead of hitting him because he can't shake hands. Training a husband is similar to training a puppy.

Dogs shake hands for food. When a man does a good deed, he often expects his lover's attention. At this time, you can strengthen his good behavior with a warm hug, a sweet kiss and a small gift. The key is to use the way he likes.

Of course, in addition to allowing and strengthening, we need to understand each other, care about each other, and put each other on the cusp of the heart in order to effectively influence each other's behavior.

What kind of environment you create will affect your husband, so change from yourself, let go of high expectations and let the other person grow up slowly!