There is a blood relationship between mother and son, but no matter how contradictory, they will eventually tolerate and understand each other because of the blood ties, and then make up. Blood relationship means that as long as your natural feelings are revealed, the relationship can be very close.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is complicated. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is a social relationship. There is no connection between them, and there is no common interest and purpose. It is a game and contest between people from strangeness to intimacy. Even if you show your true feelings, the other person may think that you are bullying others, not making out with you.
Men always think, just keep it? Mother's kindness, wife's filial piety? All conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be solved. As we all know, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in some families is called? Palace drama? The emphasis on emotional intelligence contest and strength acting has to be amazing.
Xin Wei lived separately from her mother-in-law after she got married. My mother-in-law lives in her hometown, and Xin Wei's young couple live in the wedding room bought by her husband's family. Of course, the house doesn't have her own name. Xin Wei thought it was normal and didn't pay.
The time when the young couple lived alone should be the happiest time after Xin Wei got married. Because Xin Wei was about to give birth when she was pregnant, her husband asked her mother-in-law to take care of her, and then she began the day when chickens flew and dogs jumped. Xin Wei and her mother-in-law live under the same roof for only 20 days, but these 20 days are Xin Wei's longest life.
In these 20 days, it is obvious that Xin Wei is taking care of the baby during the day and night, sleeping in separate rooms with her husband, and her mother-in-law is only responsible for cooking and washing clothes. She also has a fully automatic washing machine. Most of the rest of the time, she is eating melon seeds and watching TV. However, when Xin Wei needs her mother-in-law to take care of the children because of eating or going to the toilet, in less than ten minutes, her mother-in-law will definitely shout back pain.
At first, Xin Wei also found a plaster to put on her and tried her best to let her rest more. Later, feeling always tired and in poor health, I took the initiative to give my mother-in-law my medical insurance card and let her go to the Chinese medicine clinic for massage. Later, her mother-in-law kept asking Xin Wei for a medical insurance card, although her husband offered to let her use her own medical insurance card, saying that there was too little money in Xin Wei's medical insurance card and her mother-in-law didn't like it.
Xin Wei and her husband live in AA system. They all have their own salary cards, and the money at home is divided equally. When her mother-in-law asked for a medical insurance card again, Xin Wei did not agree. The mother-in-law ordered her sister-in-law to ask for it again, so Xin Wei gave them her husband's medical insurance card.
Unexpectedly, when her husband came back from work at night, her mother-in-law and sister-in-law began to criticize each other strangely. One minute ago, she said that the child was hungry and Xin Wei didn't feed the child. A few minutes ago, she said that the child's stool was abnormal, and Xin Wei did not take good care of the child and let the child catch a cold. Knowing that her mother-in-law was challenging herself, Xin Wei couldn't help quarreling with her mother-in-law.
Mother-in-law may think that her son and daughter are here, and the momentum is very arrogant. She asked directly at the top of her lungs. Why not give me a medical insurance card? ? Xin Wei watched her husband keep silent, while her sister-in-law was still recording videos. She was so angry that she scolded her mother-in-law directly.
Mother-in-law began to shout: son, look at the daughter-in-law you married! I worked hard to wait on her confinement, wash her clothes, cook and take care of her children. I didn't sleep well all night, but she was willing to let your mother spend money and scold you so much! Your mother worked hard to raise you, and you married such a daughter-in-law to be angry with me? ?
Hearing this, the husband slapped Xin Wei and gave her a hard push. Xin Wei is unbelievable: You hit me as soon as your mother encouraged you? ? Mother-in-law gloated: If you don't make a mistake, my son will hit you? ? Xin Wei felt very weak. Her eyes were black and she could hardly stand. She couldn't help being angry and asked for a divorce.
Mother-in-law shouted: My family bought the house, so get out of here! ? Sister-in-law and husband were silent. Under the stalemate of Xin Wei, her husband sent Xin Wei and her children back to her parents' home. Xin Wei's parents only knew that they had quarreled, but they didn't know it was so serious. They also plan to go out for dinner together.
Husband doesn't eat either, just tell her parents-in-law. My father died early, and after my sister got married, my mother and I lived alone. It's really not easy for my mother. But Xin Wei is too ignorant. My mother came to wait on confinement, but she was ungrateful. She also swore at my mother and tried to get rid of her. Busy at work, no time to mediate the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I can't take care of Xin Wei anymore. ?
Xin Wei argued:? What your mother said never happened! I have always taken care of the children, and I have always been the one who couldn't sleep well that night. She looked at the children for ten minutes and said that she had a backache. Is she reasonable? ? Husband said coldly:? That's my mother. How could she lie? What's good for her? ? Xin Wei felt very sad. Her husband believed in her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, but he didn't believe in himself.
Xin Wei's mother stood up: Clap your hands with two hands. My daughter must be anxious. Even rabbits bite when she is anxious! My daughter has been very gentle since she was a child. She can't swear at all, let alone scold her elders for no reason. ? But my husband still doesn't look back. Xin Wei is a little tangled now and wants to apologize. She didn't want the child to be separated at such a young age, but her parents wouldn't allow it, saying that her husband-in-law beat you even after giving birth and didn't take you seriously as a mother.
To tell the truth, such a husband's mother-in-law, an unreasonable and manipulative mother-in-law, an elder sister-in-law who goes home to interfere in family affairs after marriage, and a mother-in-law who is only partial to her mother, will not have a good life no matter how you compromise.
One more important thing, girl, you have to understand one thing? It will never be your strength and patience that will make you stand firm in your husband's family. Your humiliation and compromise are only the aggravation and recklessness of the other party. What makes you have a respected position in your husband's family is your husband's trust and love for you.
Or, if you meet a good mother-in-law, whether you give or not the medical insurance card, the other party will treat you as a daughter. If you don't meet a good mother-in-law, you can only let your husband be the middle lubricant to adjust. A wise husband knows how to affirm the position of his lover in his mind, instead of leaving his wife in a desperate situation.