The difference lies in whether this woman has a strong heart, whether she can turn grief into strength, adversity into prosperity, and the trough of life as a new beginning.
A woman with a strong heart doesn't care what kind of people come and go in life.
I have a strong-hearted teacher elder sister. Five years ago, she was betrayed by her doctor husband; Five years later, she was reborn, braving the wind and waves, and became a real "postdoctoral" in one fell swoop.
Senior sister is five years older than me, with a porcelain doll-like face, petite figure and the unique gentleness of Xiangmei. When I was in graduate school, she had graduated from graduate school and married a doctor husband.
The doctor's husband is a senior in her university. It took them seven years from falling in love to getting married. In seven years, like most young couples, they wrote enviable love fairy tales. But they survived the seven-year itch of love, but failed to survive the five-year marriage.
In the second year of their marriage, the senior gave birth to a girl and began to live as a full-time wife. Sister Shi's husband is a doctor and a civil engineer in a well-known enterprise. When the child was less than two years old, he was sent to work in Yunnan. Because of busy work, I can only go home three or four times a year.
When the doctor's husband went to Yunnan, someone joked with the teacher and sister, "Your doctor is so handsome that he won't be hooked up by those beautiful Yunnan girls, will he?"
Senior smiled and shook her head: "No, I believe him!" The doctor's husband was born in a poor family. She accompanied him through so many ups and downs that she finally had a happy well-off family. He can't betray her.
Shi Jie never thought that what she said would be hit in the face. When my daughter was three years old, she was hospitalized with a high fever due to lung infection, and she cried for her father at night. She called, but a woman answered.
The woman said that she was her husband's assistant, and she accompanied her husband to talk about work with clients in the hotel at night. At first, senior sister believed it, but it was already eleven o'clock in the middle of the night. Which customers are so important that we have to talk about them so late?
The next day, she called her husband again. His answer is exactly the same as that of a woman, saying that the company did meet an important customer, and he fell asleep at his desk because he couldn't drink. The female assistant saw that his cell phone kept ringing, so she answered it.
Sister Shi is dubious. After that, she has always had a knot in her heart. And women's sixth sense is often the most sensitive.
Two months later, the teacher elder sister quietly went to Yunnan. When she knocked on her husband's door, a woman who was pregnant for four or five months appeared in front of her. The woman looks only in her early twenties, and her watery eyes are full of charm.
In the face of her husband's betrayal, my sister, who has always rubbed half a grain of sand in her eyes, slapped San Xiao in the face on the spot.
The subsequent divorce procedure can be described as a decisive battle. The doctor's husband left home neatly, and the house, car, ticket and children were hers.
Since the divorce, my sister sent her children to grandma's house, and then spent half a year saying goodbye to the past. She destroyed all things and memories related to her ex-husband and traveled all over China.
When she came back, she was a completely different person, with unprecedented peace of mind. All this is because she has seven years of psychological knowledge and knows how to use psychology to heal herself, so she has developed a powerful mind beyond ordinary people.
Considering that there are so many unhappy women around, Senior Sister has set herself a small goal. She wants to be a doctor of psychology, to help her sisters in trouble.
The teacher elder sister thinks so and does the same. The next year, she successfully passed the doctor of psychology. After graduating from Ph.D., my sister went on to study as a postdoctoral fellow and got the first-class qualification certificate of psychological counselor.
At present, Senior Sister is a professor of psychology at a famous medical university in China. She has helped countless women like her successfully through the marriage crisis.
Not long ago, there was good news. My sister married a postdoctoral returnee. Postdoctoral love for her made her feel gentleness and happiness that her ex-husband could not have.
Although not all women have rich psychological knowledge like big sister, and not everyone can become a postdoctoral fellow, we should be a strong woman like big sister.
As Whitman said, we should face darkness, storms, hunger, fools, accidents and setbacks as bravely as trees and animals.
Even if love is perishable and marriage is fragile, we should try our best to be the master of our own destiny and the princess of our dreams.
When we accidentally tear open the colorful satin of our happiness, we should learn to rely on time to rebuild our hearts, no matter how hard it is.
The book "Be a Better Self after Breaking Up" describes the process of psychological reconstruction after divorce, just like climbing a mountain. Climbing all the way, you are likely to encounter setbacks and occasionally deviate from the road, but don't stop there.
Every step you take is a valuable life experience and lesson. Don't worry, give yourself enough time, fully understand your pain, rebuild your ability and keep moving forward.
Don't be afraid to start all over again at any time, because every seemingly low starting point is the only way to the top. When you cross this mountain, you will find that what really leads you to out of the dark is the confidence and light in your heart.
So, try to be strong! Only a woman with a firm dream and a strong heart can marry happiness!