A young man once wrote a long letter to Mr. Jiang Yang, pouring out his admiration and many life puzzles he encountered.
Jiang Yang wrote a reply:
People like young people are not uncommon in life.
We tend to be complacent for a short time, but eat for a long time and wait for death. Confusion and anxiety coexist, staying up late in the morning, staying in bed at noon, and refining lemons to delay addiction. ...
In fact, the fundamental problem is that you are too lazy!
People who really want to get better are constantly breaking through their comfort zones, and will not leave the desire for change in their minds, because they all understand it in the process of change:
Self-discipline is a good medicine to cure all puzzles.
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The biggest gap between people lies in self-discipline
Have you ever thought about yourself in 10 years?
Last year Tik Tok had a topic # 10 Challenge # Many people uploaded their own changes in 2009-20 19.
Some people made up their minds about 10 years ago, uneasy about mediocrity, and started a self-disciplined life, reading, writing, learning professional skills and honing their expression skills. 10 years later, they have undergone tremendous changes, from timid and introverted people to calm, professional and confident company executives.
Some people are still lazy, and their appearance has not changed much, but their weight is steadily rising. 10 years, they lived an unremarkable and uneventful life every day, except for wrinkles to remind them of their old age and rising prices to remind them of the changes in the world, and they stayed in the comfort zone all the time.
Same time, but different changes.
3650 days and nights, 87600 hours, the gap between self-discipline and non-discipline has widened.
There is a proverb that on the road where few people walk:
Many pains in life are not irresistible natural disasters, but small obstacles that can be solved, moved and changed.
If you always live passively, life will not change. A year later, you are still the same, only one year older, and the pain is still painful.
But when you take the initiative to solve the problem, the pain will become a small sand in the pearl clam, and one day it will be dazzling and sweep away a sleeve of dust.
Writer Stephen Gass insisted on writing at least 50 words every day and practiced day after day, and finally wrote the best-selling book Micro Habits.
Yang li Ping, a dancer, has not eaten a full meal for more than ten years in order to keep her light dancing and graceful figure. She started peacock dance and was named "Dance God" by Southeast Asian audiences. Now she is over 60 years old, but she has no fat at all.
Actor Eddie Peng Yuyan Yu Yan tried to express herself more realistically during filming. Every time he makes a movie, he dies on a skill. Up to now, he is not only an actor, but also a bachelor of economics in Colombia, a dolphin trainer and a professional cyclist. In addition, he can surf, gymnastics, sign language, Thai boxing, Brazilian jujitsu and many other skills.
If you don't accumulate steps, you will be thousands of miles away; If you don't accumulate small streams, you won't be a river.
In exchange for long-term self-discipline, it is a brilliant achievement day after day and year after year.
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He who can control himself can control his own destiny.
The movie Farewell My Concubine has an unforgettable scene:
People's life has always been in their own hands and has nothing to do with others.
Some people insist on getting up early every day, study English with 1 hour before going to work, get into BEC and advanced interpretation certificate, and get a high salary offer after 1 year.
Some people failed in the college entrance examination and chose the road of repeating. Every day, they force themselves to strictly abide by the timetable. Later, I was admitted to an ideal university and didn't relax. Every semester's exam results are the best in the class.
Some people are stimulated by body fat and are cruel to lose weight. They have boiled meals and high protein every day, forcing them to give up barbecue fried chicken and beer cigarettes. They can't exercise 1 hour every day, and they have lost more than 30 kilograms in six months.
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In fact, such people are always around us. They used to be ordinary people, and there are not many bright spots worthy of attention. But when they choose self-discipline and force themselves to make a determined effort to achieve their goals, it is dazzling enough.
But there are more people who can delay and slack off everything, that is, never let go of playing games and sleeping late; Habitually use the busyness of action to cover up their laziness in thought, euphemistically say that they have tried, but in fact they have done nothing;
Some people clearly said that they would work hard and made n plans, but after two days, they still chose to say to themselves, "I'm sorry, I gave up."
Bai once said:
Don't wait until you are humiliated by fate again and again, but you don't have the backhand power to realize that every step you have taken has already been quietly recorded in your life file.
If you can't discipline yourself, you will suffer from mediocrity.
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Self-discipline, there is no shortcut.
Clark, an American psychologist, once said: the early stage of self-discipline is excitement, the middle stage is pain, and the later stage is enjoyment. When you begin to enjoy self-discipline, you will find that life is less frustrated and confused.
The reason why many people are anxious while working hard and annoyed while giving up is because they can't maintain the excitement in the early stage and can't stand the pain in the middle stage.
Actually, there are not many shortcuts to self-discipline, but there are laws to follow.
The first step of self-discipline: get up early.
Psychologists have long found that for early risers, in their subconscious, the daily disposable time is longer, while in the consciousness of late risers, the daily disposable time is much shorter.
Get up early 1 hour, and you will find that things that you dare not try because you don't have time and energy can actually be done easily.
For example, reading, writing, making breakfast, running in the morning, learning English and listening to online courses. When you start to use the early hours of the morning to do something positive and meaningful, you are already at the starting line of self-discipline.
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The biggest reason why it is difficult to be self-disciplined is that there are "temptations" around you that bother you.
Think carefully about what you often do when you study or work. Is it a Tik Tok video, a mobile game, a romance novel, or a friend who often asks you out for a party and a drink?
Find the biggest temptation that bothers you, stay away from it, and don't let it test your willpower.
③ Self-discipline Step 3: Make a daily schedule.
Everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not foreseen.
Work and rest time is basically the standard for everyone who is self-disciplined. When a person has a plan for his time, he will have the direction and motivation to act.
Nana Ou-yang once shared her schedule on her blog.
She will do a routine daily task first: drink 200cc of water, hang her throat for 5 minutes in the morning, do yoga for 8 minutes in the morning, practice cello for 60 minutes, sing for 30 minutes, and exercise 12 minutes.
In addition, because the daily work and schedule are different, she will make another list of tasks that need to be completed that day.
This method is simple and effective. If you don't know what to do every day, it is better to make a timetable for yourself in the morning and complete the daily tasks according to your own plan. When you check every completed task at the end of the day, you will feel a full sense of accomplishment from your heart.
Start your new self-disciplined life. Only with a high degree of self-discipline can we be highly free!
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About the author: Shu Fan, this article comes from the official account of WeChat.