Electronic products, like many other "tools", have no inherent problems. The key is how to use them correctly. If used well, it is a very helpful "parenting assistant"; Excessive indulgence will naturally become the "culprit." In the final analysis, it depends on usage.
Therefore, for children to use electronic products, our parents should guide and teach them to use electronic products correctly and reasonably.
Regarding the use of electronic products, I am actually afraid that children will be fascinated. So I read a lot of articles in this field and listened to some related courses. The final conclusion is: while mastering some basic principles, guide children to make rational use of them. In this practice, my children not only meet the needs of watching electronic products, but also won't be addicted to them. Moreover, children really learn something from it.
I wrote down some basic principles and my practices for your reference.
First of all:
Try to play mobile phones in front of children as little as possible, and put them far away when you are with her. Have at least 20 minutes of dedicated company every day.
I know this basic rule is known to everyone, but you must be shouting in your heart: I can't do it!
You can't stop looking at your mobile phone, but when your child calls you and wants you to watch her work or communicate with you, can you throw away your mobile phone and stay with her?
When taking children out to play, don't take out your mobile phone unless there is an emergency.
If you can't do these two things, you brush your mobile phone in front of your children, and you ignore them when they talk to you, but you want to prevent them from indulging in their mobile phones. You really can only say: dream on! ! !
Second:
I won't use my mobile phone to coax my child to stop crying unless there are special circumstances (basically going to the hospital).
Third:
I will take the initiative to show my children electronic products.
For a long time, when my child didn't watch the ipad and mobile phone, or I wanted her to see something, I would take the initiative to ask my child if he wanted to watch it. But it is true that sometimes children would rather play with you than watch; But I watch it most of the time.
Fourth: guide children to watch their mobile phones every time.
Every time you show your child your mobile phone, tell her how long it will last, and then turn it off resolutely.
(details determine success or failure. Look at my method and see if you can get the details. There are many words, but they are all concrete steps that can be implemented step by step.
A. how to set the correct time?
(1) Choose a program suitable for children, and control the complete content of an episode within 30 minutes.
(2) Give children a clear and measurable time to see.
If it's a 20-minute program, tell the child: Baby, we'll turn it off after watching this. When you speak, you must be gentle and firm! )
If it is a program within 5 minutes, set a time with your child. I don't think there is a fixed time here, just let your heart accept it. I usually take 20 minutes, which will be adjusted according to the actual situation. 10-30 minutes.
What I did at this point was,
Say: Baby, let's watch it for 20 minutes today!
Do: Take the children to see their watches.
Take the child to the clock, point to the minute hand, and tell her: Baby, you see this needle is now in 1. It will be 20 minutes by 5 o'clock. When it reaches 5, we will close it.
Then start watching the video. When the minute hand reaches 5, I will tell her to finish watching the episode she is watching and then turn it off. Take her back to look at her watch. It's true that the minute hand reached 5.
I found that children especially like to look at clocks, and they are happy to agree every time they look at them.
Taking children to watch clocks can teach them to know time and cultivate their concept of time.
Here, you don't have to worry about whether your child knows 1 5, and talk while talking.
It is strongly recommended to use a needle watch instead of an electronic watch. A small video that the child is watching must have been watched by her. At this time, it doesn't hurt to advance or postpone for a minute or two. It's not obvious on the needle watch. If you use an electronic watch, if you pass this point, it may be troublesome for stubborn children. For example, you said you could see 15, and now it's 17. The child can't understand me for two more minutes, and she will identify the end time you said. This may trigger another cry.
B. What if the child cries when the time is up?
(1) resolutely take the mobile phone away.
(2) Don't be angry, kneel down, hold the child, and gently tell her: Baby, mom knows you still want to watch it, but we agreed to watch it for 20 minutes, so we must abide by the agreement.
Also, the baby is still young, and the small eyes have not developed well. If we look at them too long, our little eyes will hurt. We should protect our little eyes.
(3) Find something else, take the children to play and distract them.
If distraction doesn't work, always hold her gently and repeat the words in (2) with her, or just hold the child quietly and say nothing. Never, never get angry! ! !
C. If the child can turn off the phone on time and stop crying, be sure to praise her in time and tell her why.
Squat down, hold her and say to the child, honey, you did a great job this time. You didn't cry when you watched it shut for 20 minutes. Mom is very happy. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Your behavior is called "keeping an appointment". Give me five. (or do something intimate between you and your child)
D. In children's life (not necessarily because of watching mobile phones), blinking, tears and small eyes may be uncomfortable. At this time, you can say to your child: Baby, we are still young, and our small eyes are not well developed, so it is uncomfortable to watch mobile phones. Don't look at it for a few days, until the baby's eyes are better.
Just when my eyes are uncomfortable, I will look at my mobile phone to verify the reason why my mother didn't let me look at my mobile phone before. The child will accept it. (I have been using this method to guide these days, and children will not look at mobile phones. )
My daughter never showed her any electronic products before she was one year old. When I was with her, 99% didn't look at my cell phone. After I was one year old, I began to show her small video nursery rhymes on my mobile phone. I watched it for two or three minutes at first, and then I watched a 20-minute early education program. Up to now, in most cases, we watch it once a day, but certainly not for more than half an hour. Every time we arrive, we turn off the phone smoothly and hardly cry.
When children watch it completely by themselves, they will watch it for a while and then turn it off.
Many times, we can not watch it for a day, as long as she has a good time and is not bored.