Like all fathers, Deng Shimin deeply loves his daughter Deng Lijiao. I thought it was a great news that my young and lively daughter was sent to Zhejiang University, but it was the beginning of a nightmare-my daughter suddenly suffered from manic depression. Since then, Deng Shimin has been struggling and wandering in the process of treating her daughter.
After five years of suffering, my daughter finally found herself in the deep fatherly love. At this time, she accidentally found a thick diary, and her life changed again!
When the good news comes,
The daughter is facing a nervous breakdown.
On the afternoon of February 20, 2004, at 65438, Deng Shimin, who was working in Sichuan, received a short message from his daughter Deng, who was a senior three student in the middle school attached to Sichuan: Dad, I was sent to Zhejiang University! Are you happy?
Seeing the text message, Deng Shimin suddenly smiled, and her daughter's years of hard work finally paid off! He breathed a long sigh of relief, smiled and reveled in the joy that his daughter was sent to a famous university. Thinking about it, he saw the scene when his daughter was born. ......
It was the warm spring of 1987. When the first ray of sunshine in the morning shone into the delivery room, Deng Shimin waited for the loud cry of her daughter's birth in tension and excitement. Deng Shimin was filled with happiness and satisfaction when he saw his daughter's little body lying in the stroller. He gave her a nice name-Deng.
Xiaolijiao grew up gradually, lively and lovely, clever and sensible. In Deng Shimin's mind, his daughter is the supreme treasure. Deng Lijiao lived up to Deng Shimin's expectations. Since childhood, her academic performance is among the best. In September, 2002, Deng was admitted to Sichuan High School with excellent results. She was very happy. After calming down, Deng began to feel a kind of pressure. Deng has been strict with himself since he was a child, and he must do what he wants to do, no matter how much cost and effort he pays. In high school, even in the best class, Deng didn't relax at all. She has been telling herself in her heart: I must work harder! Do your best!
In a blink of an eye, in the second half of 2004, Deng was already a senior three. She got excellent grades and was admitted to a famous university. Therefore, when Deng Shimin received a short message that his daughter was sent to Zhejiang University, he was very happy and gratified, but he was not surprised.
Deng Shimin thought that everything would develop smoothly as expected. My daughter went to college smoothly, read a master's degree and a doctor's degree, found a good job and had a bright future. But Deng Shimin didn't expect that God didn't let him get what he wanted, and bad luck suddenly came.
After Deng was sent to Zhejiang University, her tense nerves suddenly relaxed. This slack is like falling off a cliff. The endless sense of falling made Deng Lijiao lose his center of gravity ... Deng never lost money. In order to go to college, she studied hard and lived a full and satisfied life. But now, she doesn't know what to do except stay in a daze. After a few days, Deng felt particularly uncomfortable and her heart became more and more ups and downs. There is always an inexplicable anxiety in my heart, which makes her fidgety.
At the end of February, Deng Shimin's cell phone rang at work. He took it out and saw that it was his daughter's mobile phone. Deng Shimin happily pressed the answer key, but this answer gave Deng Shimin a blow. There came his daughter's hysterical voice: "Dad, come and take me home, or I'll roll down the stairs!" "
Shi-min Deng suddenly panicked and asked nervously, "Jiao Jiao, what's wrong with you? What's the matter? " But Deng didn't answer him, just kept saying, "You are quick to take me home! Take me home quickly! Hurry up! "
"Okay, okay, dad will be right with you. Listen and wait. " Deng Shimin hurried to Sichuan Middle School with his schoolbag on his back. When Deng Shimin arrived at school, her daughter had calmed down a lot, but when she saw Deng Shimin, she lost all her previous joy and said with a straight face, "I want to go home." I don't want to stay here. " Deng Shimin nodded and said yes, carefully pulling his daughter into the car.
The next day, Deng Shimin came to the middle school attached to Sichuan and asked the teacher about her daughter. Deng Shimin was shocked by the psychological teacher's statement: the daughter has psychological problems! Deng has been in a state of high-intensity study for a long time and is under great pressure. After being sent to Zhejiang University, she suddenly relaxed, leading to a mental breakdown. Walking out of the school gate, the hot weather made Deng Shimin feel particularly stuffy, preoccupied and even unable to breathe smoothly. What should I do? Deng Shimin painfully asked himself.
My daughter is sick and struggling,
My father kept a diary for five years with a heavy heart.
When he got home, Deng Shimin did not tell his daughter what the psychological teacher said, but followed her daughter carefully. After a few days, my daughter seems to have nothing unusual. She eats, drinks, sleeps, reads books in her spare time, or surf the Internet. Deng Shimin thought, maybe her daughter was just in a bad mood for a while, and it would be nice if her mood was gone.
One day, when Deng Shimin came home from work, his daughter came smiling and took his arm affectionately and said, "Dad, I don't want to go to school any more. I want to sign up for some classes and then take a driver's license. " The daughter's words made Deng Shimin worry again. He felt something was wrong with his daughter, but he agreed to her request.
That night, Deng Shimin, who had no one to talk to and was extremely depressed, opened his diary and wrote the first diary after his daughter became ill: Joule was ill, and I was worried ... The main purpose of writing a diary was to find some rules and find a way to treat her daughter's illness. ......
For a period of time, Deng was particularly anxious, inexplicably like being subjected to a lot of * * *, walking impatiently around the room all day, and when he saw anything conspicuous, he would fall to the ground violently. Whenever he saw this scene, Deng Shimin quickly advised his daughter to calm down and comfort and persuade softly.
Gradually, under the comfort of Deng Shimin, Deng's mood eased. She is busy with class and driving test, and her mood is gradually more stable than before. After half a year, Deng's mood improved and there was almost no anxiety.
In August 2005, Deng successfully became a student majoring in international economy and trade in Zhejiang University. Deng Shimin specially sent her daughter to Zhejiang and took her daughter around Zhejiang. When he left, Deng took his hand and said seriously, "Dad, I actually understand that I have some psychological problems. Thank you for putting up with me. I think it may be good to go to college and live a lifestyle you like. " Deng Lijiao's serious expression made Deng Shimin feel trance. He patted his daughter on the shoulder: "Silly boy, it's all over." At the airport, father and daughter reluctantly said goodbye.
For Deng Shimin, it was a good start for his daughter to go to college, but he never imagined that the nightmare began again.
Less than two weeks after Deng went to college, she began to feel a little abnormal. After Deng Shimin knew, he called his daughter several times a day. She either answered the phone and was silent, or she didn't answer the phone at all. Deng Shimin on the other end of the phone was so anxious that he didn't know what to do.
"Dad, give me the money. I want to go shopping. " Deng Shimin once again received a phone call from her daughter, who asked for money. Deng Shimin readily agreed without hesitation: "Jiao Jiao, as long as you don't do stupid things and eat on time, I will give you whatever you want." As soon as I finished, my daughter hung up.
Deng Shimin immediately sent money to his daughter, and Deng began to go on a shopping spree, spending several thousand yuan in a few days. Deng Shimin not only didn't blame her at all, but also comforted her daughter: "As long as you can vent and spend money." However, spending money did not solve Deng's problem. She became more and more crazy, suspended from school for three days, went on a hunger strike and didn't talk.
Deng Shimin finally began to face up to a problem: his daughter was suffering from mental illness and had to be sent to the hospital. Deng Shimin had never made up his mind before, because he felt that his daughter's condition was not so serious and he didn't want her to be more psychologically affected, but now Deng Shimin had no choice. Before going to Zhejiang, Deng Shimin painfully wrote in his diary: Joule's mood fluctuated greatly, his thoughts were extreme, and his persuasion work was ineffective. ......
At the end of 2005, Deng first learned about his illness-bipolar disorder through examination. In real cases, if bipolar disorder is not treated, most people will commit suicide. This added a shadow to Deng Shimin's already worried heart.
After Deng Shimin returned to Chongqing, Deng Lijiao took medicine on time with the help of teachers and classmates, but it didn't work. Deng often feels desperate. When she comes into contact with some depressed and pessimistic people, she is even more desperate. She feels that living is a kind of torture. She often bumps her head against the wall in pain. At this time, she always felt a voice in her ear saying: it's too painful, too painful. ......
When Deng couldn't bear the psychological load and hit his head against the wall, all the students called the teacher, and several people held her down hard together to calm her down gradually.
Deng Shimin, who is far away in Sichuan, is always worried and sad every time he hears these things. He hasn't had a good sleep since his daughter was ill, and he lives in fear every day. Every time the phone rings, his heart is in his throat, worrying about what will happen to his daughter. For more than a year, Deng Shimin spent painfully in the nightmare of her daughter's constant illness.
In order to relieve and vent his depression and find ways to help his daughter, no matter how busy he is at work, Deng Shimin will keep a diary to record his daughter's every day. Deng Shimin visits her daughter in Zhejiang almost every month. My daughter is sometimes very enthusiastic and willing to tell him anything, but sometimes she ignores him when she is in a bad mood. And these are all written by Deng Shimin in his diary. In his diary, no matter how his daughter treats him, he always writes her as lovely as an angel. Even if she sometimes loses her temper and does something wrong, she is also an angel with broken wings.
Diary of tears,
The father took his daughter out of the haze.
In 2008, Deng's depression reached its worst stage. On September 23, Deng Shimin suddenly received a text message from her daughter: I don't want to live this life. I will choose my own way to end my life. Don't come to me. Deng Shimin suddenly panicked. He booked a plane ticket quickly. On the plane, he took out his diary and wrote heavily: I packed my clothes, booked a plane ticket to Zhejiang, contacted the school, and sent a text message to my daughter to let her settle down. ......
Deng Shimin arrived at Zhejiang University in the middle of the night, and his daughter didn't want to see him. There is no way. That night, Deng Shimin waited all night under her daughter's bedroom. He never leaves, even dare not take a nap. In the coastal cities in September, the air was wet and hot, but Deng Shimin's heart was extremely cold.
The next morning, I sent a short message to Teresa Teng, and came out to meet my father. He is already waiting for you here. Half an hour later, Deng Shimin finally saw his daughter dragging her tired feet and appearing on the stairs. Deng Shimin was overjoyed. He hurried over, but when he saw his daughter's haggard face, he stopped and tears welled up in his eyes.
Deng didn't speak, so she stood there looking at her father. She was very upset. Her father's eyes were bloodshot and his messy hair was a little gray. These are all caused by herself. Finally, Shi approached his daughter who bit her lip and said in an almost pleading tone, "Jiao Jiao, will you go home with your father? Dad will accompany you and take you to the hospital. " After a few seconds, Deng Lijiao nodded gently.
Deng Shimin applied for a year's suspension from school for her daughter, and then returned to Chongqing with her daughter. A few days later, after all-round consideration, Deng Shimin took her daughter into a psychological counseling center in Chongqing. Here, accompanied by Deng Shimin, Deng received systematic treatment.
During Deng's treatment, Deng Shimin was always with him. He won't be relieved until he sees his daughter take every medicine. When his daughter was emotionally unstable, he stood by her and let her vent. Once, Deng couldn't stand the pain in his heart and slammed his head against the wall. Deng Shimin quickly pulled her, but at the moment, his daughter was crazy and couldn't control herself. She pushed Deng Shimin into the corner, and Deng Shimin was hit in the head with a bang, but Deng Shimin ignored the pain. She quickly got up and hugged her daughter, put her hand on the wall where her daughter hit her head, and then silently endured it. The next day, Deng Shimin was bruised all over, and the back of his hand was bruised by his daughter.
But Deng Shimin didn't say a word in front of his daughter, as if it had never happened, hiding his injury tightly. He just wrote all this in his diary at midnight.
Under the guidance of the counselor, Deng opened his heart and told the counselor all his inner thoughts. In more and more conversations with psychological counselors, Deng felt relaxed and gradually adapted to communicating with others.
Gradually, Deng Lijiao's mood became more and more stable, and the haze in Deng Shimin's heart also dispersed bit by bit. In his diary, he recorded his daughter's daily psychological and behavioral changes after her recovery: her daughter has not committed suicide for a long time, even if she is a little emotional sometimes, enough is enough.
At the end of 2009, after nearly a year of treatment, Deng finally found himself. When Deng Shimin saw his daughter smile like a flower when she was a child, his frown, which he had locked for five years, finally spread, and she often laughed.
Deng returned to Zhejiang University to attend classes. Every day, Deng Shimin calls his daughter. Hearing the relaxed and happy tone of her daughter on the other end of the phone, Deng Shimin felt that nothing was like her daughter at the moment. In the dead of night, Deng Shimin opened his diary and wrote: Joule finally found himself and recalled the course of these five years. What a long story! Looking at the flashing lights outside the window, Deng Shimin sighed deeply. For a long time, he didn't enjoy the beautiful scenery in front of him.
During the holiday, Deng came home, when her parents talked about her previous illness and the diary that had been recorded for five years. Deng Lijiao exclaimed in surprise, "Ah! And a diary? What diary? " Deng Shimin, who was sitting on the side, just laughed and didn't answer, or did her mother tell Deng, "Your father kept a diary every day since you were ill."
"Dad, really? Show me quickly. " Deng Lijiao turned over a thick diary. From the first page to the last page, there is only one name-Joule. Touching the handwriting on Deng's paper, my heart began to tremble. She looked up, endured tears and asked Deng Shimin in a hoarse voice, "Dad, tell me, how did you do it?" It's been five years. How come you never want to leave me? How can you stand it? "Deng is more and more excited. Finally, she clutched the diary tightly and burst into tears.
Deng Shimin looked at her daughter's uncomfortable appearance, got up and sat down next to her, holding her hand: "Jiao Jiao, it's dad. What else can I do besides you? Now you are better than anything. "
That diary made Deng understand that without love, it is difficult for her to find herself. There are many patients in the world, but not everyone is as lucky as himself and has such a good father.
20 10 Deng graduated from Zhejiang university successfully, and she gave up several high-paying jobs. When she returned to Chongqing and showed her qualification certificate as a psychological counselor in front of Deng Shimin, she proudly said, "Dad, I took the exam for several months. I also want to be a psychological counselor. Do you support it? " Deng Shimin smiled and said, "Yes, I support it!"
Deng took the initiative to go to the psychological counseling center to treat himself and became the only consultant in this counseling center who changed from a patient to a teacher. After several months of work, Deng and her colleagues worked out a systematic and scientific treatment plan. In the process of treating patients, she exposed her pain and gave psychological counseling to dozens of patients with depression. Among them, more than a dozen patients have made remarkable progress. For patients with family difficulties, Deng will take the initiative to apply for fee reduction for them. Watching her daughter treat her work with such care, Deng Shimin will also actively participate in her daughter's rescue operation after work-picking up, comforting and even helping patients.
It is 20 1 1 year. On a sunny day, Deng Lijiao took Deng Shimin's arm and went shopping happily. Walking in the street, Deng Lijiao said to Deng Shimin, "Dad, do you know? It was your diary that changed my life. " Then the father and daughter smiled at each other. ......
The above is that fatherly love is a good medicine! I was surprised to see all the contents of a five-year diary of a dream. Want to know more, please collect.
Dream of fatherly love