This is a cliche that has happened in many families, but not in my family.

Six or seven years ago, my mother got uterine cancer. Fortunately, it was discovered early. Cancer cells can be removed by surgery, but it is a dangerous operation after all, which makes her suffer a lot in the process.

At that time, I was at school, and my father didn't tell me that my father took my mother for surgery, hospitalization and escort. I took good care of my mother for two months and gradually recovered.

The year before last, my father had just celebrated his 55th birthday. During his business trip in Beijing, he suddenly had a cerebral infarction. Although there is no danger to life, it still leaves behind the sequelae of language barrier and hemiplegia, and loses the ability to work.

This time, it is the mother's persistent care for her father. Even though her father's attitude has changed a lot because of a cerebral infarction, she has always been patient and kept smiling.

In my opinion, this is the most sincere form of husband and wife.

People can't live without diseases and disasters. The combination of husband and wife means that they are willing to bear each other's diseases and disasters. If you only want to share happiness with each other and you can only take care of difficulties, then marriage will lose its meaning.

But not long ago, I saw the marriage between Sister Yang and Brother Gu, which gave me a deeper understanding of marriage. Fortune and * * * in marriage are not produced by marriage, but by a "feeling". If there is no such feeling, then the marriage relationship is just a dead letter.

Sister Yang is 40 years old this year. She married her husband Gu Dage for 13 years and had two sons. The husband and wife have several rented properties in Shenzhen, and their lives are fairly rich. However, these lives were broken because of a paper. Sister Yang was found to have an incurable disease, so her husband kicked her out of the house. This made Yang Jie very desperate.

Sister Yang told us that she and her husband have been married for 13 years. The couple came to Shenzhen from other places to work hard, from nothing to tens of millions of net worth, and the relationship between husband and wife was unbreakable. Some time ago, she was diagnosed with an incurable disease, thinking that her husband would take care of her and try his best to treat her. As a result, her husband kicked her out of the house, blacked out all contact information, and encouraged her two sons to deny her as a mother.

Sister Yang: "The doctor said that if I don't pay close attention to the treatment, I won't live much time, but I obviously have tens of millions, but I can't spare a penny." I told him to sell a house, even if only one. The money was enough for my treatment for two or three years, but he just disagreed and kicked me out of the house. I'm afraid of death. I'm really afraid. If my condition continues to deteriorate like this, I'm really afraid I won't see the sun tomorrow, so I'm going to ask for an explanation! "

Seeing his wife and a large group of people coming to the door to discuss the argument, her husband Gu Dage ran and said that he would never compromise, and then was intercepted by everyone. Brother Gu told us that his relationship with his wife broke down shortly after they got married, because his wife didn't care about her family and often ran outside with a group of donkey friends. The longest time is to go out for nearly four months and stay at home for no more than two months a year. Moreover, he didn't want to keep his wife from treating her, but her wife found someone to beat him several times for money.

Gu Ge: "I made everything myself today. She didn't help me at all. After getting married and having children, she goes out to play with a group of donkey friends every day. She wants money, or she will make trouble if she doesn't give it. She doesn't care about cooking at home, or even the children. My parents help me at home. For the sake of children, I was not mentioned by my classmates at school. I'm divorced. She got sick today because she deserved it. If she hadn't been fooling around outside, she would never have got this disease. "

The decisive attitude of her husband, Gu Dage, made Sister Yang speechless for a while. Sister Yang admitted that it was her fault that she came to this step, but her husband said that she didn't pay anything and she didn't accept it. At least, she gave birth to two sons for her husband. Even for her two sons, her husband must help her.

So, did Sister Yang take good care of her family and children? We asked her son Xiao Gu, who was standing by crying. Xiao Gu told us that his mother never took care of him and his brother. Even if he is ill in hospital, his mother never takes care of him, but his father and grandparents take care of him. They have no feelings for her.

In the end, Sister Yang angrily went to court. She said that she would ask her husband for treatment fees through legal channels, and at the same time, she would divorce and share half of the property equally.

Some people say that Gu Ge should pay this fee for Yang Jie, because after all, they are husband and wife. Regardless of whether Sister Yang has fulfilled her obligations as a wife or mother, Sister Yang has the right to control the marital property of husband and wife.

If Sister Yang asks the court to split half the property, Brother Gu will lose the lawsuit.

I don't know much about law, but what I do know is that law should also be judged according to the rationality of facts.

After getting married, Sister Yang didn't perform her duties as a wife and mother well. She only knows how to eat, drink and be merry all day, and makes no contribution to this family. Even her two sons were ill, and Sister Yang never took care of them.

Such a delicate egoist, why should Brother Gu use his hard-earned money to save her?

Moreover, the most important point is that although Sister Yang didn't say that she had any disease, from Gu Ge's description, "She deserved it today, and she would never have got it if she hadn't messed around outside."

If you don't take care of your husband, taking care of your children is just a slack in your family, but getting this disease is a betrayal of your family and your husband.

Sister yang, this is all self-inflicted In Gu Dage's words, she asked for it, and others can't blame her.

It is true that husband and wife have the obligation to help each other, but this should also be based on the premise that you have "affection" for me and I have "righteousness" for you.

Sister Yang betrayed first, then got sick. If you have any questions, come to Brother Gu. I just want to ask, why?

Some contradictions between husband and wife can be forgiven, while others cannot. Sister Yang's problems belong to the latter.

"Knowing cold and knowing heat is husband and wife."

Although Gu Ge and Yang Jie are husband and wife, they are no longer husband and wife.

I don't want to say anything when I am depressed. I just want to say to Sister Yang: "People are doing it, and the sky is watching. Don't let your karma hurt Brother Gu and the children again. At the end of your life, be a good wife and mother! "