In many people's minds, holding hands not only means lovers or lovers, but also means that they will face the ups and downs of life together. It is also the best vision of many people to walk through life hand in hand with their loved ones.

So we subconsciously feel that as long as we find someone to hold hands with, we will find someone to rely on. It seems that the happiness of the rest of my life is also pinned on this person.

Or in fact, we always want to get love from others, but when we are eager for love from others, we become a patient, and we always want to search for love from him frequently, thus becoming deeply dependent on others.

Finding love and being loved is the essence of each of us. When we were young, we wanted to get love from our parents. When we leave our parents and start living independently, we want to get love from marriage.

Yaling is recognized as a very happy woman. She is her husband's best assistant in the company and has a handsome son at home. Her husband is her exclusive driver to work every day.

It is such a woman whose husband loves her and whose son is handsome and very happy. She just retired at the age of 50 and left home.

Later, I learned from Yaling's sister that she was too tired to get married for so many years and gave up her career for her husband. Yaling was originally the technical backbone of the company. In order to support her husband, she became his assistant. What happened to her husband in the company? Yaling took the blame for him. Her husband didn't like eating at home, and Yaling had to cook for her. They both work at the same time, and Yaling has to do all the housework. Not only did her husband not.

Yaling thought that as long as she did well enough, she would get her husband's love. Unexpectedly, the other party turned a blind eye and became a matter of course. It was Yaling who took her husband's wishes as the standard at the beginning of her marriage and gradually developed her husband's uncompromising character.

The husband not only controls Yaling's life, but also dotes on the children and makes decisions for them. Yaling thinks she should be independent. But her husband didn't listen to her at all. He didn't let his son go to work too far away, nor did he let his son do too tired sales work. As a result, their opinions grew bigger and bigger. In the end, Yaling couldn't stand it anymore and ran away from home after retirement.

Yaling's story tells us that if a person places all his happiness on others, he is doomed to be disappointed. It is precisely because of the different educational concepts of Yaling's husband and wife that there is no normal communication between them.

So the seemingly happy family, in fact, has long been devastated. They didn't go to the movies together, didn't hold hands, just went home on time every day. Life is like becoming a monk.

When you are too dependent on someone, you are doomed to lose sight of yourself. In fact, you also long for someone to know that you are loved. But when all these desires are ignored for years, it is only a matter of time before you collapse.

Yaling once thought about changing this marital status, but her husband said that I would come home on time every day, and you should take care of the salary card. I never make irresponsible remarks outside, so you should be content. Yaling knows that she can't communicate with her husband. After all, she has obeyed her husband for so many years and has no right to speak in this family for a long time.

In fact, each of us is an independent individual, and your feelings are only known to you, and others can't understand them. Yaling pursues happiness wholeheartedly, but puts the right to happiness in her husband's hands.

In this world, there has never been real empathy. Instead of expecting others to bring you happiness and healing, look at yourself and find a more free and easy way to be happy.

After seeing the truth about her marriage, Yaling decided to do something she had never dared to do before.

She said that in this marriage, she cared too much about her husband's feelings. She has always wanted to be a good wife and mother. As a result, she devoted most of her energy to her husband, but lived a messy life.

Living for others, all your efforts and achievements are just a kind of consumption.

Yaling finally chose to live for herself once. After leaving home, she went to Xinjiang to give technical guidance to a friend's company and give full play to her residual heat. She said that she is living a full life every day now. I am very open-minded to go to the grassland to get close to nature on weekends.

She no longer escapes the pain of her previous marriage, nor does she care that others will think she is a bad woman. Now she wants to take the right to choose happiness into her own hands. Live the life you want.

Yaling didn't know that after many friends knew why she left home, no one thought she was wrong, but admired her courage. Or every middle-aged person's marriage actually hides unknown hardships.

I don't like pine nuts. The pine nuts in my life have been longing for the love of others all my life, but I have never loved myself. She put down all her dignity and loved everyone around her, but she was always hurt and rejected.

The biggest tragedy of pine nuts is that she never looked at herself and loved herself. A person does not love himself, how can others love you?

So how should a woman love herself?

One: Love yourself first, love your body. Everyone knows the importance of health. What I want to say about loving your body is that I hope you don't dislike your body, too fat, too thin, or not beautiful enough. Anyway, I am the best arrangement. Accepting my body will make me happy physically and mentally.

Second, create a sense of life ceremony, and create a little romance for yourself from time to time, a bunch of flowers, a candlelight dinner, eating spicy strips and feeling western food. Life needs a sense of ceremony, which will enable you to find a poetic life, the light to move on, and the unwilling courage in ordinary trivial days.

Third: cultivate a hobby, don't say that you don't have a hobby, hobbies can be cultivated. It can be swimming, exercising, traveling and broadening one's horizons. You can also read books to broaden your horizons. You can also like music and cultivate your sentiment. It's ok to dance in square dance, and it's good to shoot videos. Now in Tik Tok, there are many short videos.

When your heart is pinned on one thing, your life will surely become full and beautiful. From a health point of view, hobbies are blindly nourishing drugs.

When you learn to love yourself a little bit every day, you will find that your life will be more comfortable, it will be easier to become a happy and confident person, and you will get closer and closer to what you like.

Life is short, please be brilliant.

Only when a person has the ability to love himself can he have extra energy to love others. When he is tired, stop and hug himself. When you begin to love yourself, you will find that your heart is peaceful and you don't need others to give you a sense of security.

Ma Yili gave up her career for the sake of marriage. After her husband cheated, she began to improve herself again and make herself better and better.

"I can get used to you or change you." Every woman should live such a domineering life

If you love me, I will be happy. I won't be sad if you don't love me. Be your own little sun. Don't rely on anyone's light.

Only self-love is the best way for women to like themselves.