A mother and son are shopping. The child clamored for his mother to buy him something. Mother refused. The child doesn't understand why. Mother replied, "Mother earns money to buy things for herself. If you want to earn money to buy things yourself, you have to buy things for your mother. " The child said, "Then I will make money to buy things for myself and not give them to you." Laugh. Kid. In the community, I saw a family of three walking on the road. The little boy is skateboarding with his head down. His mother said to his father, "This child is selfish and willful, so naughty." Dad echoed: "Yes, the child is too selfish to control him when his grandparents are around!" " "I have no scruples at all, in the street, next to the children. The little boy stood on the skateboard with his head down and his expression was very focused, as if he knew nothing about what the adults said. I don't seem to know anything about what adults say. No. I know, of course not. He heard everything, keep it in mind. There is not a child who is insensitive, just like their fragile and weird and naughty bodies. In fact, no child's heart is inactive and fragile. They will care, pay attention to what adults say and do, keep it in mind silently, and often don't let you know. Just like I experienced when I was a child. When in a daze, even when playing, they will pay attention to the words and deeds of adults and pay sensitive attention to their conversations. They said, "This child is really playful", "This child is very headstrong" and "This child …". I always seem to know nothing, but I have been thinking about what I can do to make them stop saying that, or hold a grudge secretly. I feel very flustered, uncomfortable and bored. Actually, every child is like this. Children have sensitive hearts. He remembers what the adults said, especially about him. He remembers you calling him selfish, willful and naughty. Every word stung his heart intentionally or unintentionally, and he didn't know how to face it and how to defend it. So he seems to know nothing. In fact, he knows everything that hurts him inside. The child's heart is very fragile. Just as their delicate skin is sensitive and fragile, so are their hearts. Don't hurt them casually, intentionally or unintentionally. You see, when I was a child, I still had a faint scar on my body. How can you say a child is selfish? What are they selfish about? A child, what's in his heart? He is so young and inexperienced, how can he be selfish? There are so many things he doesn't understand about adults that he makes everything so simple and direct, which means he is selfish. In fact, no adult is qualified to say that a child is selfish. The word selfishness has always existed in the adult world, and there are dark things in people's hearts. You selfishly call him selfish and make him selfish. When you try to turn your child into an adult like you, please stop educating him like this. Don't subconsciously teach children to be so in line with your habits. Unless you are perfect and have no shortcomings. They can't be your copies. Don't use your twenty or thirty years of life experience to educate him. Those days have settled down, with essence and dross. And if you don't let him experience time, but give him the dross experience that precipitated during that time, it will hurt him. Otherwise, children can always be a continuation of the mistakes and tragedies of the previous generation. I saw all this with an eye that is no longer a child or an adult. Because I used to be a child and I haven't forgotten it, because I'm about to become an adult but I haven't completely assimilated. So I know. This makes me really miserable. I always see the sadness and pain I have suffered in other children, and I always see the sadness and pain I am about to suffer in other adults. Not on my side, I was torn and struggling on both sides.