? It's the closing time of EQ training camp again, and I've been taking part in the study of drawing sharing for some time, from the beginning to the English enlightenment of Eva to the psychology course. This is the first training camp for EQ trainers. I bought this course when it was first launched, and I want to join the first training camp. Not only because I was surrounded by teacher Lu's psychology course, but also because the word "emotional intelligence" deeply attracted me.

? I attended the training camp, and the learning atmosphere in the training camp was characterized by the professionalism of Mr. Lu and Mr. Scarlett. Teacher Lu gave lectures at the top of her lungs, and Ms. Scarlett recorded lessons for us when she was pregnant and sick. There is a monitor punching in every day. Here, I also want to say thank you to everyone on the painting sharing team. I'm not here to add up the figures, but I really appreciate it. ) And all excellent mothers work hard, and even if they stay up late together, they feel that they are excellent. I also want to thank myself for writing the general reply, which shows that I have at least completed the learning task. In fact, in this training camp, I worked in several camps at that time, including "Super Mom" and "Don't worry, don't make noise-52 tips for easy parenting", all of which were completed first and then improved.

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First, the purpose of learning

? I once boasted that I had a good EQ, and many people around me thought I had a high EQ, and then I might feel glad and think it was true. So when I saw the word "EQ", I felt I had to study it again to see what EQ was and why I felt like a person with high EQ. But after studying the whole course of EQ Trainer, I feel that I need to learn more and see my own shortcomings.

Two. Learning content

? In the whole course, through the combination of teacher Lu's theoretical knowledge and teacher Scarlett's EQ game, several powerful points are summarized, including EQ 10, EQ driving wheel and EIAG model. In the course, one of my favorite words from Teacher Lu is "We should be the promoters of EQ, not the sparring partners of EQ." I especially like the word "empowerment" now. Only when we have enough energy can we give others more energy.

? The most important thing in EQ is "self-confidence", which can be the beginning and the ultimate goal of EQ. Good self-confidence is a powerful weapon to cope with life. The establishment of self-confidence comes from the creation of our family atmosphere, which is more clear from the curriculum, and it is bit by bit to cultivate children's self-confidence. Teacher Sijia's EQ game in the course also allows us to better combine theory with practice, play games with children through EIAG model, and gain from the game.

Three. The harvest of learning

1. Let it grow.

? In fact, it can be said that I wanted her to grow up, but I didn't give her a chance to grow up. In life, I try to help my children do better. The reason is that "the child is still young", "Oh, she can't do it well, and then it will be chaotic, and I will be in trouble." As everyone knows, in fact, these will affect the cultivation of children's self-confidence, problem-solving ability, independence and anti-frustration ability. Like a string of hairy crabs, they are all connected. What Teacher Lu said is right. "There are no rebellious children, only parents who don't let go." In fact, here, I also made a "boundary" problem. I didn't make a reasonable boundary to distinguish what I want to do from what my children want to do. So I made a change, let go within a reasonable and safe range, and let the children participate more. I involved her in washing dishes. I'll wash it first. Let her wash it. I found that she was very happy when she finished, because she felt that she had helped, and then she succeeded, and she gained a little confidence.

Don't label children.

? It turns out that we may be used to saying to our children, "Why are you so slow?" "Why are you so annoying?" I always say to others, "Hey, it's not good to eat at my house." In fact, you may be unintentional, but the child thinks this is an evaluation of my mother. Over time, this also entered the child's consciousness. I just eat slowly, but I don't eat well. Don't label your child negatively, which is very important to protect her self-confidence. For a baby who hasn't gone to kindergarten, her parents are everything to her, and her parents' evaluation of her now will affect her evaluation of herself. I am also slowly changing this point and trying to take positive guidance, such as "Yakult will definitely eat soon, mom believes you".

3. A childhood worth having

? We didn't know how much influence childhood had on a person until we finished learning Super Mom. Life script, life script, nothing new after 7 years old. Since you don't want your child to be the same as before, you should give her a good childhood. Yakult now likes to imitate my makeup and wear lipstick and powder. Once she used her own brush to brush her face at home. Grandma saw this photo and said, "This is not good." She also told Yakult that "children don't wear makeup now, and they will be distracted from their studies in the future." In fact, this statement is not wrong, but I think it can still be actively guided. Everyone has a love of beauty, especially now children are in the stage of imitation. Who didn't envy mom wearing high heels when she was a child? Later, I said to my grandmother, "Let her experience it more. She will know what it is after she has experienced it, and then we will guide her to the correct concept. " I said to Yakult, "Mom should pay attention to her image, because she has to go out to work and can wear lipstick, but she doesn't wear it at home. Yakult's skin is the best now, as long as we wear it clean. "

4. Find the highlights from the game

? Some EQ games played in the training camp, such as "My Advantage Palm", "Egg Protection Game" and "Square", are actually conveying different EQ points. During the whole competition, I also found the bright spot of Yakult. She has her own independent thinking ability and is good at observing. Originally, I always thought that the child was uncertain and played everything for 3 minutes. Actually, it's because I didn't find a good way to play with her. In these emotional intelligence parent-child games, with the mother's wholehearted companionship, you will also find that the child is also fully engaged, and then see her advantages.

5. Accept emotions and have better feelings.

? Everyone has emotions, and when emotions come, everyone has no ability to satisfy others. Children, especially Yakult, are almost completely spoiled at home and basically have to answer questions, so I have formed the habit of crying immediately if I can't get it. After studying parenting and EQ 36, I know the word "* * * emotion" better now. Yakult cried too much. I will love her first and tell her that I agree that she didn't get such a thing and feel sad, but sometimes I don't agree with her. Then I will tell her this unhappy thing slowly, next time. After a few times like this, I think it's better than telling my child, "What's there to cry about? Just don't take it."

The study of this course needs practice. During the 7-day practice camp, many mothers' problems were also my problems, but sometimes I felt that I didn't think deeply enough. So knowledge needs to be reviewed, summarized and internalized. But I know that "the safety of the environment is not really safe. On the contrary, because of being overprotected, physical and mental development is inhibited. When a child faces the environment, he has no ability to analyze, judge, adapt to the environment or avoid danger. " Therefore, I want to be a positive energy mother and give my children more abilities. After all, she should be independent in the future. My good wish is "I want to be the mother behind Yakult now, that is, the world is very big, you can go and see it, but if you are tired and injured, you can go home, we can hug together, and I will always be behind you."