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It is not uncommon for adult single women to be urged to get married and have children.

It's just that I never imagined that such accusations would fall on Yang li Ping, the god of dance in China.

Two days ago, under her vibrato video, such a comment appeared.

"A woman's greatest failure is that she has no son or daughter. The so-called live high is a lie. If you are 30 years younger, 100 years old, can your face remain 30 years old? No matter how beautiful and excellent you are, you can't escape the ravages of time. At the age of 90, you will not enjoy the family happiness of your children and grandchildren. "

The number of people who like it is as high as more than 10 thousand.

They believe that women's success comes from having children.

A person's happiness comes from having children and grandchildren.

How ridiculous.

Stephy immediately sneered: "The biggest failure of a person is that he is still defining our women today and regards children and grandchildren as the only achievements of women."

Carman Lee, who is often urged to get married, feels the same way: Why do you have to get married? Maybe I didn't meet the right person at the right time. It is better not to get married than to make do with the wrong person!

Chen Shu also intercepted the lines in the play and asked himself: Is the value of a woman used to have children?

Then answer categorically: no!

These women who pursue independence and freedom have long scoffed at the life equation of "women's success = marriage and children".

But it is undeniable that today, there are still many people who regard marriage and having children as the only value of women.

Besides, no matter how big the storm she caused, she was just a "failed woman".

As a result, a large number of single women were promoted by bosses, elders and married women on holidays.

While trying to stick to yourself, I can't escape the environment and be exhausted by criticism.

However, is it necessarily unfortunate not to get married and have children?

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Yang li Ping saw the so-called value and significance of life more clearly and truly than most people.

She is a born dancer.

Growing in the south of beautiful colorful clouds, with thick soil at the foot and the sky above, it is accompanied by insects, fish, birds and animals in the embrace of mountains and rivers.

Bathed in the grace of the world, the simple Bai people can only be grateful for the gift of life with passionate songs and dances.

They dance at work, at harvest, at love, at hate, at life and at death.

Everything in nature, every bit of life, is thus integrated into Yang li Ping's dance.

She learned something from a flower, a river, a group of ants and a cloud. When she raised her hand and turned around, it was all the agility of life.

It is precisely because of this that when a person has a clear understanding of his life orientation, he will not be easily entangled in secular values.

In the eyes of the world, she is a graceful peacock fairy with light steps.

But she pursues more than just the beauty of her body.

"I want to use it to describe the profound meaning of life and belief, so I draw materials from the epoch-making ancient myths, including the life throb of insect intercourse, and pursue not only the impact of vision and hearing, but also the profound philosophical thinking behind it."

Dance is life and faith to her.

For the dance she loves, she can break off her engagement and give up the fetus in the womb.

As she said, "Some people live to carry on the family line, some people enjoy it, some people experience it, and some people watch it. I am a bystander of life. I came to this world to see how a tree grows, how rivers flow, how white clouds float and how dew condenses. "

Her detached outlook on life and love for national culture enabled her to create a unique dance.

The representative works "Sparrow Spirit" and "Yunnan Image" are amazing everywhere.

Now, she has retired and lives in the Moon Palace, with Cangshan Mountain in the north and Erhai Lake in the north, lingering with the intertwined old trees.

At sunrise, the water is clear and the mountains are empty; Sunset, dusk, flying clouds.

In the moonlight, watching flowers feed the fish, listening to the wind and watching the waves, the head is the milky way, and the head is the waves.

Yang li Ping has become what many people want most when we work hard for life and drift with the tide in the impulse of desire and don't know where we came from and where we are going.

Free body and mind, clean soul, a house facing the sea, and warm bloom in spring.

Such a life, if not successful, is by no means a failure.

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There is a saying in Walden: Life has no value unless you choose and give it value. Unless you bring happiness to yourself, there will be no happiness anywhere.

The meaning of life is artificially endowed.

Some people give it the right to breed, some people give it the right to be ascetic, and some people give it the right to eat, drink and be merry.

Yang li Ping's choice is to regard human beings and nature as a pair of eyes.

Getting married and having children is one way, so is unmarried infertility. Between ways, no one is nobler than anyone else, only to see if it can bring you happiness.

I don't deny that women who can raise children are really great.

Not to mention being pregnant in October, giving birth to a child is like wandering in front of the gate of hell, which is extremely exhausting to the mother's body.

Tutor the children for an hour and you will know how difficult it is to be a competent mother.

But that doesn't mean that every woman has to have children.

What's more, it doesn't mean that a woman can make her life complete by giving birth.

The so-called "a woman's greatest failure is that she has no children", but she regards children as her own possessions and shows off her achievements in life through them.

They don't realize that children are independent individuals from the moment they are born.

If one person's life value needs to be realized by another person, it is a very sad thing in itself.

What's more, there are too many ways to connect emotions with life.

As Yang li Ping said, "I have no children, but I believe everything. A flower is also my daughter, a grass is also my student, and my work is also my child. "

"Water is my companion, and clouds are my hair. I am not alone. "

Fertility is a way, but it is by no means the only way.

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I remember a sentence said by Luo Xiang, a criminal law teacher.

"The less people have knowledge, the more they have inexplicable courage and pride, because the less people have knowledge, the more absolute you believe, and you have never heard the opposite view."

This is the stupidity of Tik Tok's comments-imposing his own view of happiness on others.

They are limited by their own vision and experience, and easily assert all the people and things in the world with very limited life experience. Live experience, easily assert all the people and things in the world.

A girl said that before leaving her hometown, she never knew that a woman could ask for a divorce on her own initiative.

Because all the women in the village, even if they have all kinds of complaints about their married life, even if they are beaten and scolded by their husbands and tortured by their in-laws, will not want to divorce.

Occasionally, a few "rebellious" people have been pointed at all their lives, as if divorce was a big mistake.

It was not until I came to Guangzhou to study that I found that there were many choices in life.

Can form a family with the opposite sex, have children, divorce, like the same sex, unmarried infertility.

When she told these stories to people in her hometown, people only said that she had failed in her studies.

Some people stay in wells all their lives and never believe that the sky is high and the sea is wide.

And the more people who have seen the world, the more tolerant they are of diverse lives.

So, if your choice doesn't hurt others, but you suffer a lot of criticism, it's not that you made a wrong decision, but that your circle is too low.

All you have to do is work hard and escape from the current circle.

Because you are brave, you definitely deserve to live a free life.

Write at the end:

I'm Sister Fan.

Whether it is a housewife who loves her husband and godson or a professional woman who pursues career development, as long as she lives happily, she should not be blamed.

Of course, don't force each other to understand and respect each other, this is the best way to save.

I hope you can spend your life in the most comfortable way.

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