In daily life, mothers can take care of their children and fathers in an orderly way, while in family education, mothers often occupy a dominant position.
The parental role configuration of "tiger mom and cat dad" has become the norm in many families. Children are also used to adults playing the good COP and the bad COP, and they tend to get closer to their parents who seem to have a better temper.
In this way, sometimes there will be a situation in which the father and the child become one and the mother becomes the "big villain".
The "cautious father and son" was on fire, and the mall was too nervous to lift its head when it saw her coming.
A funny video became popular on the Internet, causing heated discussion among netizens.
In the video, a father and son are walking down the escalator hand in hand. They happen to be face to face with the video photographer who is going up the escalator. Obviously, the father and son know each other.
Generally speaking, when you meet someone you know outside, you will definitely say hello to them. But the father and son did not greet people, but bowed their heads like thieves and pretended not to see them.
In this process, the father did not forget to appease his son in a low voice. Don't be afraid, but you can see how nervous he is from his stiff back through the screen.
When I met an acquaintance, my father and son actually reacted this way. Can it be said that both of them are legendary "social phobia"?
That's not true! It turned out that the hostess of this family and the "immediate boss" of the father and son wanted to hide when they met on the escalator.
Netizens speculated that it was probably because mom told dad to take care of the children at home before going out, but dad secretly took the children out shopping. I didn't expect to bump into a foreign mother, which caused an embarrassing and funny scene.
Many netizens were amused by the way the father and son were both afraid and encouraged each other, and rushed to the bottom of the video to leave a message:
"The father and son are so alike, and the expressions on their faces are exactly the same."
"In fact, such a family is happier. On the surface, dad is afraid of mom. In fact, he cares about her thoughts and loves her very much. Otherwise, why should he be afraid? "
"Pretend not to see it when you meet. My mother is probably angry and funny."
Try these four points, and dad can also raise children happily.
In the comment area, most netizens said that they were teased by the father and son, but some people pointed out that the mother needs to improve communication with her father and baby, and don't let the father and son see her like a mouse sees a cat.
We all know that parenting with only mothers involved is "widowed parenting". Such family education is incomplete for children and will also increase the burden on mothers.
So what can mom do to let dad play the subjective initiative of parenting and take the initiative to participate in family education?
1.？ Be a suitable "lazy mother"
Many mothers have a strong sense of responsibility for family life and raising children. I want to be the best in everything and never pretend to be others.
Cleaning the housework, they should be spotless; Cook for your family, they should be delicious; When called by the baby, you should also give a response at the first time and rush to the baby's side to comfort and care.
Such an "all-round mother" is admirable, but it is really too hard.
In fact, mothers can be "selfish" occasionally and be a "lazy mother" appropriately.
For example, when the baby is crying and wants his mother to accompany him to do something, the mother can "learn from the east" and tell the baby that his father is better at it and his father is more powerful, so that the baby can find his father himself.
It is generally difficult for a father who is "wearing a top hat" by his mother to refuse to run happily to his baby.
One to two, my mother's burden has been reduced, my father has also participated in parenting, and the parent-child relationship has become closer, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.
2.？ Let go appropriately and give dad trust and affirmation.
Many mothers say that dad can't help at ordinary times and makes things worse all day. In addition to taking care of their families and babies, they also have to deal with the mess left by their fathers.
Over time, mothers have developed the habit of doing it themselves, preferring to do more and do it slowly rather than share it with their fathers.
In fact, no one can master all the parenting skills from the beginning. It is precisely because my father is not familiar with parenting that my mother has to give my father more opportunities to try, more tolerance and patience.
3.？ Keep calm when communicating with dad about parenting.
Some couples are prone to quarrel when they disagree when communicating problems.
Especially when there are differences of opinion on issues related to educating children, it is easy for parents to stick to their own ideas and never give in. It is very likely that if the problem cannot be solved, parents will quarrel first.
No matter what differences parents have in the concept of educating their children, everyone's ultimate goal is for the healthy growth of their babies.
On this basis, if mom and dad can communicate calmly, the efficiency of parenting will be greatly improved.
4.？ In daily life, I came into contact with the concept of parenting.
Mothers can also instill the concept of parenting into their fathers in their daily lives through hearing and seeing.
It can be a popular article on parenting, "How Important Dad is to Family Education", an interactive video of father and son brushed on a video website, or a chat of family children's love and worship for their father. ...
Through these sharing and guidance, dad will be influenced imperceptibly, and gradually he will take the initiative to join in parenting ~