Colleagues get along at the highest level. In the workplace, we often come into contact with colleagues at work. Colleagues are not friends, let alone family members. They can't be too close or too far away. Let's take a look at the highest level where colleagues get along.

The way of getting along with colleagues is the highest level: 1 not intimate.

The reason why "intimacy" is the first principle for colleagues to get along with is mainly to let readers and friends know more about the boundaries between colleagues and friends.

Because I found that many friends were tired or hurt by colleagues, all because they were too close and didn't understand the difference between colleagues and friends.

In Baidu Encyclopedia, the definition of a colleague is this: A colleague refers to a person who does the same thing, handles the same thing, is responsible for the same thing, and does the same thing.

The definition of a friend is this: a friend (friendship) means that under any conditions, the cognition of both parties is related to a certain extent, regardless of age, gender, region, race, social role and religious belief, which conforms to the psychological cognition of both parties and can help each other when necessary. Friends can be compared to umbrellas and lights in the rain. When the psychological fit between the two sides is deeper, they can be called bosom friends.

From the definition, we can clearly know that the concept of colleagues is more focused on doing things, while the concept of friends is more focused on feelings.

The reason why we are often confused is mainly because we are mixed with too many feelings in the process of getting along with our colleagues, which leads to unnecessary influence when we do things.

Colleagues work together, and doing a good job is the premise for colleagues to get along. If you get too close, it will easily affect work efficiency.

In the workplace, we should remember the fact that colleagues must get along on the basis of work. It can even be said that the purpose of getting along with you is to work, to do things, to complete tasks, and to get promoted and raised.

Any communication, any gathering, and any collision of ideas are based on the completion of the task. The concept of "friend" must not be mixed with it, because once you have a "friend", it is bound to be accompanied by feelings and easy to get emotional. Many times, things may fall by the wayside, or they may be constantly entangled in principles and feelings.

The way for colleagues with high emotional intelligence to get along: not intimate, not pleasing, not wronged.

M, sent me a private letter the other day, treating my colleagues as friends, and my career and life were greatly hit.

M and P are two colleagues in the company. M is in the personnel department and P is in the sales department.

At a colleague's party, I found that they were fellow villagers, so they got very close.

Some time ago, when P faced job-hopping, he asked M where he was going. M knows the personnel principle and can't say it casually, but he told P that he would transfer to another department because of emotional problems. As a result, P didn't want to go to this department, so he looked for leadership reactions everywhere. The leaders were very angry. Knowing that M told him, he transferred M from the personnel department in the name of violating personnel principles.

If M clearly knows the boundary between colleagues and friends, it is easy to know that he must adhere to the personnel principle, and there will be no subsequent transfer from the personnel department.

Therefore, savvy readers must understand that colleagues should try not to get along too closely, and it is best not to mix too much personal feelings, especially on issues with strong principles, which must be based on workplace rules and must not cross the red line.

The way for colleagues with high emotional intelligence to get along: not intimate, not pleasing, not wronged.

Unappreciated

To please is to cater to others. In the workplace, being able to please others has three disadvantages:

Disadvantage 1: lose yourself.

Too much' pandering to others, please colleagues, your personal values and judgment will face great challenges, and even gradually lose the ability to judge things and become a person without opinions. Because you often please others, you often think from the perspective of the person you please. You can say what others want to hear and do what others want to do. Over time, you will lose your basic judgment and ability to handle things. When it's your turn to finish something by yourself, you will find that you don't know what to do.

Disadvantage 2: depreciation of value.

In the workplace, it doesn't mean that you please others, and others will look up to you and respect you. More often, if you please others, others will lower your status and think that you are inferior, which is equivalent to self-deprecating your value. For example, when you offer a cup of tea and water to please a colleague.

At first, people may be very polite, but after a long time, he will accept it calmly and even form a habit. If you don't do it for a day, you will even be questioned. Everyone has bad habits. If you belittle yourself blindly, others will think you are worthless.

Disadvantage 3: exhaustion of body and mind

Pleasing others is very mental and physical. Our company has a lot of things to do. At this time, you should not only do things by yourself, but also think about how to please colleagues, how to compliment leaders, and how to speak before they are happy. Even you will blame yourself for a long time because your colleagues or leaders are unhappy.

Can you not be tired after all these years? Besides, people's energy is limited. If you spend more time here, it will inevitably affect your energy in other places. Your energy is spent trying to please others, please others. Can you do your job well if you don't do it well?

The way for colleagues with high emotional intelligence to get along: not intimate, not pleasing, not wronged.

Not wronged

When colleagues get along, they should treat them equally. We should not wronged our colleagues, let alone ourselves, and be patient.

Colleagues can live in harmony and do more things. It doesn't matter if they suffer some losses, but if they can't do anything, they will be scolded. Such a colleague is better without it.

Xiao Zhang is the kindest person in the unit and often helps his colleagues.

Lao Zhang has something to do at home, and the copy has not been finished. Small overtime to write to him;

Sister Wang has something to do and can't pick up the children. Help him pick it up.

Brother Liu had a manuscript to proofread, and Xiao Zhang offered to help.

But often faced with such a situation:

Lao Zhang's copy was criticized by the boss, and Lao Zhang took the initiative to tell the leader that it was written by Xiao Zhang;

When picking up the child, the child didn't bring his homework, and Xiao Zhang was scolded by Sister Wang.

When Liu Ge's manuscript came out, there were 1 typos, which Xiao Zhang dared not check because Liu Ge said. ...

Working in the workplace is not easy. Why should we be so wronged? Can your own grievances be exchanged for the recognition of others? No way!

Just do what you think is right. You can't control what others think of you, and you can't make everyone like you, so let yourself like yourself first.

As long as you can't get in and become stronger, others will be less and less dissatisfied with you. Only the strong are recognized in the workplace, and the grievances of the weak cannot be exchanged for the respect of others!

The way for colleagues to get along with each other is the highest realm II. Keep your distance, be kind to others and meet each other sincerely.

Confidence in yourself is confidence. Don't be afraid to do what others say, don't live in what others say, think twice before you act, don't be impatient, be patient;

Be broad-minded No matter what colleagues you like (boss) or don't like, you should say hello, smile and be sincere when you meet. As the saying goes: if you reach out and don't smile, your smile can also bring happy mood to others and good relationship to yourself;

At work, after dealing with your own affairs, see if your colleagues around you need any help, or pour a glass of water for your colleagues when you are free and tidy up your desk; During the festival, colleagues greet each other, send messages and make phone calls. ...

This can better handle the relationship between colleagues;

Just like leading an office, remember to say hello to work, help the leader clear the table and pour a cup of tea. If there are visitors, say hello and pour tea. Listen carefully and complete the work arranged by the leaders.

Don't bring the emotions of personal life to work, don't bring the unhappiness from the previous day's work to the next day's work, and don't vent the unhappiness at work on colleagues.

Gossip is not directed at people; Sit still and think about yourself. In the process of getting along with colleagues, always take this as a criterion. I believe you will get along well with your colleagues.

As the saying goes: illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. So, at work, do as much as possible and talk less. Doing so will not only allow you to accumulate more work experience; It can also wash away the extra time from busy work and avoid being bored and telling others right and wrong. I never judge my colleagues even outside of work, but I naturally know who is right and who is wrong. More tolerance and understanding.

If there is more tolerance and understanding between colleagues, the relationship between colleagues will not be so difficult.

Take it easy.

Before entering the society, I always felt that people should get along with each other sincerely and happily. After entering the society, I found that people have headaches when they get along with each other. In the process of getting along with colleagues, we should overcome everything and be naturally happy.

Keep an appropriate distance from your colleagues.

In fact, many colleagues are not suitable for being friends. It is most beautiful to keep a certain distance from your colleagues. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. I think the secret of getting along well with colleagues is still the old saying, "calm down first, then take a step back." . As the saying goes, if you don't smile, you smile at others. Even if unruly people yell at you for the first time, they are embarrassed to get angry with you again and again.

My experience of how to get along with colleagues is that colleagues can eat, drink and have fun together, and talk about no substantive issues, let alone communicate with each other. Because maybe one day your position and relationship will change, it's hard to say the influence of some past events.

Colleagues should have a feeling of helping each other, but at the same time they may become potential competitors, and the stakes are very high. Therefore, in principle, close friends should not be colleagues. If you have any important plans to consult, ask friends who are not colleagues. I didn't gain wisdom until I ate a graben.

Help each other nourish their feelings. Sometimes asking for help from others can show your trust, harmonious relationship and deepening feelings. Sometimes, if you are afraid of causing trouble to others, people will think that you are also afraid of trouble. Of course, when asking for help, you should pay attention to your discretion and try not to embarrass others.

There are several people in the office, so try to keep a balance when getting along, and don't be particularly close or distant from someone.

Colleagues don't ask about privacy. If you like to pry, even if you have no purpose, people will avoid you three points. It is a bad behavior to pry into other people's private affairs.

Use your mouth. Nobody likes telling other people's jokes. Although it is a joke, it will never end in its own loss. Some people like to argue, and they have to fight for three points if they are reasonable or unreasonable, giving people the impression that they are competitive and difficult to cooperate.

Some people are very alert. They are always wary of their colleagues. When they saw someone else talking, they suspected that they were talking about him. Some people like to think the worst of others. Being too sensitive is actually a kind of self-torture, a kind of psychological suffering. People who are too sensitive among colleagues will definitely have a bad relationship.

Don't do housework. You should always deal with several people in the same office. There are always chores every day, such as drawing water to sweep the floor and taking newspapers. You should actively do these little things. If your colleagues are older than you, you should take the initiative to do more. Everyone hates laziness.

It is right to be diligent and "upward" in respecting leaders, but don't be diligent and shy. Some people are perfunctory in their work, or have no skills at all, but they are good at openly flattering and pleasing leaders. Many colleagues are disgusted with this kind of behavior, and they will look down on you in their hearts.

The way to get along with colleagues, the highest level 3 1. Know your position and don't make emotional investment.

The workplace is a special environment. If you know your position, you can see the workplace more clearly. For example, you don't need to bring the feelings of your family to everyone at work. The workplace needs emotional intelligence more than emotions. If you put too much emotion into the workplace, you will get out of control when you get the reward. The same is true of getting on well with colleagues. It is the basic principle to have a good relationship with colleagues in the workplace to be clear about your position and the purpose of communication and not to make more emotional investment!

2, pay attention to everywhere, not picky.

Pay attention to communicate with colleagues everywhere, and the most taboo choice is to watch food. If you see a colleague who is useful to you, you will maintain a good relationship with you even if you don't care. If you are an invisible colleague, you will try to stay calm and keep your distance. Although some things have to get together and people are divided into several groups, it should not be such a mentality and behavior. Everyone is under the same roof. I will see you when I look up, and your behavior will be widely spread by everyone, thus affecting the relationship with the people you have established.

3, in full bloom, not prominent.

Establishing a good relationship with colleagues is certainly not a good relationship with colleagues, nor is it a good relationship with all colleagues. Therefore, the relationship with colleagues should be divided into two levels, from emphasis to relaxation. Don't be isolated when you get along with your colleagues. To give full play to one's role is to maintain a low-level good relationship with all colleagues and the most worthy colleagues. This will not lead to open and secret quarrels between colleagues, which is the ultimate goal of getting along with colleagues in the workplace.

4. Think from the other person's perspective.

This is very simple. To put it bluntly, it is empathy. To put it simply, no matter what happens, no matter what the environment is, we should learn to think from each other's standpoint and understand each other's feelings. In this way, you will know how to get along with each other.

Step 5 be generous

The workplace is like a society. In the process of getting along with colleagues, you should learn to haggle over every ounce and be generous, even if you can't pretend to be generous. After a long time, you pretend to be a generous person from head to toe. Once a habit is formed, it will be full of atmosphere from the inside out. By then, you will be very popular with your colleagues.