Sister Xiao Ye, who is already the mother of triplets, understands the bitterness and sweetness of having a second and triplets more personally than others, but her triplet life is far sweeter than bitterness. Sister Xiao Ye's original words are: Every time I see my brother and sister scrambling to get close to my sister, all the hardships and all the tiredness are gone.
"Now Sambo has been six months, and has turned over skillfully. I will be happy to look at you and talk to your baby. Every morning, the first thing my brother and sister do after getting up is to touch my little sister's bed. Sometimes, two people scramble to hug her and say, "Sister is sister". My brother will never forget to visit my little sister before going to school. The first thing he did when he came back was to find his little sister. "
However, Sister Xiao Ye also told me that it is good to have two children and three children, but if you can't meet the two elements, don't worry about having more children, otherwise you will regret that you can't find a seam, and you will only suffer yourself.
1, in-laws have a good relationship.
"Compared with economic conditions, the attitude of family members can help you decide whether to have a second child. If I encounter a bad relationship with my husband or mother-in-law, it is estimated that I will not have a second child if I am killed. "
Although we have all clamored for improper "NEET", after giving birth to the second and third children, the reality will still "slap" ourselves. The birth of triplets doomed mothers to be busy from morning till night, too busy to have their own time. If the parents-in-law can take the initiative to take care of the children, the mother will be relatively relaxed.
A wise and considerate mother-in-law will let you take the decision to educate your children into your own hands. If my mother-in-law is always xenophobic and likes to tell me how to do big and small things, then my mother will only work harder.
2. Have a supportive husband.
Despite having a second child and a third child, Sister Xiao Ye never gave up her work and study. In addition to giving lectures to others, she will also write articles for the official WeChat account to earn extra money and apply for the qualification certificate for the course exam. Her husband has always supported her decision and will not ask her to be a full-time mother because of her children.
Therefore, the premise of having three children, the husband must not be a "giant baby father." Sister Xiao Ye takes care of the food and daily life of the three children a little more, but the husband is basically worried about the children's study and education, so only when the division of labor is clear, can the two of them have room for relief.
In the process of child-rearing, both husband and wife may encounter many contradictions and difficulties, and differences are inevitable. But as long as the original intention is consistent with the future goal, two people will naturally understand each other and compromise with each other.
In addition, good physical quality and fertility, good experience in raising Dabao and Bauer, harmonious and happy family relations, and strong economic strength are all issues that need to be considered when giving birth to a second child and a third child. Before making a decision, you must consider the possible problems, otherwise there will be no regret medicine.