You know, children see the world through their eyes. We should pay attention to what they care about Listening to children's questions helps us to better answer their doubts. Four-year-old Carla attended the funeral of her grandfather who had just died. Mom and dad told her that grandpa had gone to heaven. However, two weeks later, Carla became timid and sad, as if she were a different person. Mom and dad finally know why. Carla noticed that grandpa was buried without a coat and food. It's winter now, and Carla is afraid that grandpa will be cold and hungry. Mother comforted her and said, you know, after the baby dies, it won't feel cold and hungry.

This time Carasson breathed a sigh of relief and restored her lively appearance. Jeremy has always been a cheerful boy, but one day he suddenly became depressed and stopped talking. Nobody knows what happened. Mom and dad patiently asked before they found out the truth. Jeremy found that his seriously ill neighbor was getting thinner every day until one day he died. So when dad went on a diet to lose weight, he was scared to death, thinking that dad was going to die, too. After his parents explained the reason to him, Jeremy became the sunshine boy again. Understand the emotional changes of children and provide appropriate suggestions.

Charlie said to his daughter Jenna, I know you are sad that Riley, the dog, can't play with you anymore. We all miss it. Sometimes I see Zach playing with the dog next door, and I get angry because we can't play with Riley like this anymore. After a pause, Charlie went on to say, I have an idea. Remember the video grandpa made of you and Riley? Let's see how happy we were then. Jenna smiled and looked at it now! At grandma's funeral, Bob told his little daughter that the funeral would last for a long time.

I know you don't understand or even hate why everyone is crying. Here is a small toy, you can play with it. We'll tell you what happened when we get home after the funeral. Be honest when discussing the death of someone close to you, but don't be sharp because you are too honest. When Pamela was a child, her father drove his car out of the garage into the driveway and accidentally ran over the cat. At first, parents couldn't bear to tell their children the truth. She still remembers looking for the lost cat everywhere, but she couldn't find it. Finally, her parents told her the fact that the cat was dead. Instead of trying to explain, it is better to tell the child that the cat had an accident and died at the beginning, which can make Pamela cope with the sad mood better than pretending that the cat has disappeared.

Answer only one question at a time, and try to be as short, concise, specific and direct as possible. When something similar happened in Pamela's home, she chose to tell her children honestly what happened. When the children asked, they said, I'm sorry to tell you that poor Mitten was hit by a car. The children asked where it was, and she calmly said it was close to home. Where is Mitten now? He was seriously injured. Dad took him to the vet. I'm sorry the vet called and said it was dead. Ask your child for advice. What do you think, especially when the questions he asked made it difficult for you to answer? Four-year-old Luke asked grandma what her soul was like, and dad replied that it was an interesting question. what do you think? Luke thought for a moment and said, I know! God must have made the soul invisible, because I have never seen it! Dad said, well, it makes sense to tell your child what you think. He may surprise you! Downey, 4, found that his mother always cried because of his grandfather's death. My mother explained to him, I believe that grandpa has a good life in heaven, but sometimes I feel sad because my mother will never see him again.

Ask your child for advice. What do you think, especially when the questions he asked made it difficult for you to answer? Four-year-old Luke asked grandma what her soul was like, and dad replied that it was an interesting question. what do you think? Luke thought for a moment and said, I know! God must have made the soul invisible, because I have never seen it! Dad said, well, it makes sense to tell your child what you think. He may surprise you! Downey, 4, found that his mother always cried because of his grandfather's death. My mother explained to him, I believe that grandpa has a good life in heaven, but sometimes I feel sad because my mother will never see him again.

Donnie paused and suddenly ran out of the room. After a while, he ran back and handed his grandfather's photo to his mother. No, mom, you can see it. Excessive concern for parents may lead to misunderstanding of children. Dr Stanley Tredge, a child psychologist, called this phenomenon the microscope effect, and gave the following examples in the lecture. After Eric went out to school at the age of five, his mother found that his pet goldfish had died. She panicked, fearing that her son would overreact when he came back, and even took a half-day off to go to the library to look up information and try to solve it. In the afternoon, the couple went to school to pick up the children, carefully revealed the death of the goldfish, and suggested preparing a small funeral for the goldfish in the backyard. However, Eric still looked very anxious the next day, so the parents thought that the child was still in the shadows. They took the child to see Dr. Tredge. The child said that he didn't understand what mom and dad did for. He said that his parents are very busy, but all he can think of is to put the dead goldfish in the toilet and wash it away with water, and then buy a new one to appease the children with the power of religion and belief.

Timmy, the oldest child in this family, is terminally ill. The family talked a lot about Timmy's soul going to heaven, but the 5-year-old sister couldn't understand the relationship between body and soul. Dad came up with a perfect explanation. He put on leather gloves and told his daughter that the soul lives in the body, just like my hand is in the glove. Then he shook his finger and said, when we were born, the soul was in the body and they were together. Then dad slowly took off his gloves and said that we were dead, and the soul came out of the body like a hand leaving the gloves and went to heaven. The body is no longer useful and stays underground. This explanation satisfied the whole family. Our reaction to death will set an example for children and affect their lives.