Finally, I have time to record my mental journey during this period and give you some suggestions. I hope you will take fewer detours and avoid the pit I walked through.
① Don't pursue exclusive breastfeeding excessively.
After giving birth to a baby, many people around you will tell you that it is best to breastfeed exclusively six months ago, which is good for the baby and good for yourself. However, everyone's physique is different. Some people are born with developed glands and plenty of milk. Some people don't chase babies enough. In fact, lack of milk is nothing. The baby mixed with milk powder around me is also very good. You don't have to die with yourself. In the middle of the night, the breast pump chased milk, and you spent 10 thousand yuan to go to the club to set up a milk chase package, which made you depressed and not worth the candle. When my son was born, he was used to eating bottles, so he resisted nipples very much. After he was born, my mother-in-law took him to the room to sleep with her. Children don't eat my nipples and sleep with me, which makes me depressed. Obviously, I was born by myself, but I was in a bad mood like others, which affected the milk quantity. In addition, his mother-in-law said all day that the baby didn't have enough to eat. Would he say he was hungry when the child cried? Or when I am breastfeeding, I will say, is there no milk? Actually, these words hurt my mother invisibly. So the amount of milk sometimes depends on the mood. It's important to keep a happy mood.
2 Learn to allocate family resources to make yourself more relaxed.
I belong to that kind of person who has a special sense of responsibility, and I try my best to do everything. It is my sense of security to control the development of things. I want to do everything by myself, which makes me exhausted ... but it's really unnecessary. My baby won't grow up because of these trivial things. Take control of the general direction and let the elderly and teammates at home take on more responsibilities. If you are afraid of disagreement, try to unify your thoughts in advance and encourage more feedback afterwards. Really can't. It is hard to be confused by turning a blind eye.
No one is more important than yourself.
Don't learn from your parents. live high is like China's old mother. Everything will only bring a great sense of sacrifice and affect family relations. After three months, it's time to lose weight, buy clothes and get together. If the mother is happy, the baby can make the family happy.
It is ok to raise a baby by the book, but don't be dogmatic. We all look after other babies, so we should have a nursing method suitable for our own baby.
Being a mother for the first time, the experience value is 0, so I naturally hope to arm myself by sharing with others. So I read a bunch of parenting books and found that experts disagreed. A thousand readers have a thousand Hamlets. If you really take it seriously, the more you read, the more confused you become. To raise a baby, we should absorb the strengths of others and integrate them to form our own parenting system. Scripts will only increase your anxiety. Also, there are various bloggers in Little Red Book. Today, I will share the method of letting the baby sleep for two months, and tomorrow, I will share the method of letting the baby turn over for three months ... I used to think that the baby should sleep for two months and turn over for three months ... Let me think, the baby should sleep for two months and turn over for three months. ...
Raising a baby is a process of delaying satisfaction. It's a little bitter now, but I can always wait until the moment of return. Cherish the moment when the baby needs you. When he grows up, you will find that it is not that the baby can't live without you, but that we can't live without the baby. * * * Encourage