I struggled for 18 years, not to have coffee with you.

Three years ago, an article by Wheat, "It took me 18 years to sit with you for coffee", caused a lot of abuse. After 18 years of struggle, a farmer's son won equal rights with his peers in metropolis, which is a true portrayal of a generation. However, three years later, I suddenly realized that he was premature. 18? No matter how rich the years are, I still can't sit and drink coffee with you.

That year, I was 25 years old and got my master's degree in countless sleepless nights. The lines on my forehead are particularly obvious, but I dare not stop at my feet. I don't want to go back to my hometown, and there are countless descendants. I have to find a job in Beijing quickly. What about you? You're not in a hurry, World of Warcraft and Red Alert? I'm tired of playing! You have an ambitious plan to start a business. At that time, Robin Li, Chen Tianqiao and Zhou Yunfan were not born yet. Baidu, Google and Perfect Time and Space were even more distant terms, but youth was invincible. You set up a distribution website on campus, recruiting people with great fanfare, and reporters from various media flocked in. The dormitory 334 soon became famous in the whole building. The little girls sent pink stationery from all over the world and wrote admiringly, "I learned your wonderful story from the newspaper …" When I was free, I climbed onto the roof to blow the wind. You cheerfully turned to me to take care of my own people and said, brother, how about getting rich together?

Unfortunately, I can't. Entrepreneurship is a chess game for you, which can be advanced and retreated, and can be attacked and defended. Start-up funds shall be raised by three aunts and six relatives as soon as possible. Even if it fails, the parents' three-bedroom and one-bedroom heater will not fail. Failure means to me that the water under the bridge is a complete failure. Every summer, in order to save three or five hundred dollars for machinery, my parents have to harvest five acres of farmland in the sun. I finished my first interview in a borrowed suit and had my first date with my beloved girl in a borrowed watch. When you got the first investment and reported to the whole class excitedly, I calmly crossed half of Beijing to be the last tutor. Yes, "this job has a low technical content", but before the first month's salary was paid, my rented land and rations depended on it.

It didn't take long for the internet to encounter a cold snap, and you are also depressed about starting a business. You entered a state-owned communication company and I was hired by a foreign company. Sitting on the sidelines, I foolishly thought I had pulled back a game. On the surface, my salary is a little higher than yours. Spend 8000 yuan after tax, stay in a 5-star hotel for business trip, and take a paid vacation for one year 10 days. I try my best to believe that there will be a fairy tale ending in a few years, "living a happy life with the princess."

The good times didn't last long. Soon, I understood why people call white-collar workers dirty words. The 35-pound office package is almost unattended. At lunch time, the most sought-after is the microwave oven in the corner of each floor. White-collar workers lined up with lunch. Later, the property allowed fast food companies to stay, and there was a grand occasion of "thousands of people waiting in line for Lihua". People with a monthly income of nearly ten thousand save money. A colleague, 10 yuan's cold medicine went to the insurance company to claim compensation; The other stayed in a messy railway station for three hours in order to get an extra dinner allowance from 150 yuan when he returned after 8: 00.

This comedy didn't make me laugh. I can read it. Every number embodies overtime and humiliation. Be exploited by the boss, in order to build a square meter nest for yourself. The process of starting from scratch is arduous and long. For three years, I have never taken a long vacation or eaten duck neck once. I am not surprised to hear that Hu Xinyu, a 25-year-old employee of Huawei, died of overwork. The phenomenon of exchanging sweat and youth for money is too common in this industry. Next time, don't be surprised when you see a group of people lying on the ground in suits and ties and carrying IBM notebooks. We are a group of IT workers.

The only consolation is that we are getting closer to our ideal goal step by step.

Suddenly, your good news fell from the sky: invite everyone to the new house for heating at the weekend. How is that possible? You are faster than me? Bright 100 square meter, red apple furniture, 37-inch LCD color TV, there is no doubt in front of you. You said in an understatement that the old man gave 654.38+million, and her family also gave 654.38+million, which kept urging us to get married ... On the way home, my girlfriend was depressed and didn't speak. Like me, she comes from an unknown mountain city. I grabbed her shoulder and encouraged her and myself. It doesn't matter. Let's trade time for space.

You spent half a year's salary easily on your honeymoon in Hong Kong. When you come back, it doesn't mean anything, not as beautiful as it was filmed on TVB TV. My wedding, cruising in the dirt road of my hometown and the onlookers of the villagers, worshiping heaven and earth in the low and dim old house, sleeping on the cold heatable adobe sleeping platform with my lover. Fortunately, many years later, in my wife's blog, the gloomy picture turned into a radiant picture. She recalled: "Where there is love, there is heaven."

We all want to give the girl we love a heaven, but the meaning of heaven is very different. Your wife has become a full-time wife, downloading friends and jailbreaking with an electric donkey every day. I want to do the same thing, but my wife doesn't agree. If you support me, who will support my parents? I can't bear to let you raise seven people by yourself. When your girl put on Clinique mask and lifted her feet comfortably, my girl fought tenaciously in the sea of people.

Two people make money much faster. By the end of 2004, we also saved the first sum of 65438+ ten thousand yuan in our life. Who knows that the China property market was awakened by the devil at this time, like a tsunami surging, destroying all the weak individuals. In March 2005, the down payment was enough to buy Licheng in the West Fourth Ring Road. In July, I had to go to Cheng Nan to clean the building. Our savings could have bought a 90-square-meter two-bedroom apartment. In mid-September, just in the past two months, only enough to buy more than 80 square meters.

Never studied the principles of economics? It doesn't matter. Life vividly explains what asset bubbles and liquidity flooding mean. At this time, experts jumped out to speak, "Beijing housing prices will drop by 30%, and Shanghai housing prices will drop by 40%." Otherwise, wait? I almost lived in an empty camp in Winton, and you stood up and pointed out the maze: buy it quickly, and the house price will go up. The news of buying a house was sent back to my hometown, and my parents sighed assiduously: It is worth our busy work for half a year. In their view, 7500 yuan per square meter is an incredible sky-high price. Three years later, in 2008, my younger brothers lamented that you had made a fortune. The average price in the fourth ring road is 1.4 million, and there is no building to buy.

I saw Shui Mu's last message a few days ago, and I was very emotional: "I really deserve it if I don't buy a house after working for five years. In 2003, the property market was in a downturn. Today is not only the gold property market, but also the whole life. "

I really appreciate you telling me what is consumption and what is investment when I don't know what is financial management.

Not everyone has a forward-looking vision and investment philosophy. Many brothers, like me, came from a small place, only knew how to work hard, paid too much attention to the wheat fields under their feet and missed a bright starry sky. Your theory is that making money is for flowers, and only in circulation can you add value, buy your favorite goods and make your life relaxed and happy. And my peasant brother-here refers to the brother who came from a peasant family and stayed in a big city after graduation-is used to holding the RMB tightly in his hand. (Inspirational www.lz 13.cn) The increase in the number of passbooks makes them obsessed. When it is time to buy a house, they are renting a house; When it's time to repay the loan, they would rather bear the loan interest rate of 7% than save it for five years. Hard-earned silver shrank and depreciated while waiting. They are often at the peak of housing prices and have no choice but to take the last stick; I also naively made a wish to go home and buy a house after earning 1 10,000. But when that day really comes, the house prices in my hometown, second-and third-tier cities and even towns have skyrocketed.

This is the biggest difference between you and me, and it is also a deep-rooted difference and an insurmountable gap. I used to think that our life would be the same with the same education, the same salary and the same company reputation. In fact, the difference is not reflected in the obvious symbols, but in the inheritance from generation to generation, in the blood and in the mind. 18 years of accumulation, family background, lifestyle, and financial management concepts have created such you, such me, and your generosity and my conservatism. After I paid off the loan, you bought a second house; The Shanghai Composite Index is 6000 points. When I finally test the water and become a stockholder, you clear the warehouse and move to the gold market. I send back 1000 yuan every month to assume the responsibility of supporting my parents. You just smiled and said that I would support the elderly. When I was thinking about whether to have children or not, and to what extent the cost of raising children would damage the quality of life, four old people have already paid for your second generation; It's good to go to Jiuzhaigou during the Golden Week. You are not satisfied. You say Germany is too formal and America is too casual. France is the fashion capital you yearn for. ...

My story is a true portrayal of a generation of "immigrants"-I was forced to leave my hometown and my motherland was vast, but I moved around like a migratory bird and chose to live in wood. The current social system is destined to have richer educational resources, medical resources and convenient life in big cities. Even if you get a paper account, the process of integration is still full of suffering, and it takes five years, 10 years or even longer to get everything that the aborigines can get at their fingertips. I used to be indignant and pursued, but now I have learned not to complain and to be calm between cracks. Although there is a gap, it is not regrettable. It is this gap and the efforts made to make up for it that strengthen the tension of life and make life more hierarchical and diverse.

The foreseeable future is that one day our descendants will gather in Disney (I still have this confidence) to tell my father's story. Mine, though not necessarily more exquisite and colorful, is undoubtedly much more tortuous and interesting. This story is about independence, courage, Jedi rebound and resurrection. I can't afford a luxury car for my son, but I can give him a growing heart. I want to tell him that whether he is rich or poor, millions of dollars or displaced, he should be equally calm and open-minded.

At this point, what does it matter whether you drink coffee or not? The elegance of life posture does not depend on where you sit, what utensils you hold, or the money you pay for tea. It depends on your attitude towards tea tasting.

I struggled for 18 years, not to have coffee with you.

2.

Young man, it's time to start a new goal.

Text/A Zheng

"Adam, a small and backward robot, is challenging Zeus, one of the most powerful robots that has not lost at present. He fought and lost many times, never flinched and was fearless. He fought bravely against his invincible opponent. When he was knocked down, he continued to stand up and fight back with his fists, and finally defeated his invincible opponent and created a new legend. "

This is a movie that I happened to see today, "Real Steel Fist". After reading it, the spirit of never giving up, daring to challenge authority and challenging the impossible made me restless for a long time.

Look out of the window, vendors are still selling goods that have never been updated in the old place, and people are still carrying food baskets on this road. The dishes in the baskets are still those. The unfinished building in the distance is still under construction. Those who have followed the trend of buying houses for many years should soon be able to compete for houses here. Buses still shuttle through countless bus lines every day, and I still go to work, weekends and work in cycles.

Should we make some changes, not to change, but to pursue our ideal life and what we want? Maybe there is something in our human nature that makes us comfortable with the status quo, or it may be an excuse for our laziness. Sometimes I really want to let go. I read books, go to work and spend time with my family. Although I don't earn much money, I have enough money to survive. Even if I travel, there is no big problem. I can probably live a leisurely life like this. But every time I meet or see something that makes the impossible possible, I can't calm down and think that this is the meaning of life. Life is just a few decades Is it really so mediocre? Imagine how I feel when I live so comfortably and leave this world on my deathbed. Will you be satisfied? Will you regret something you wanted to do but didn't do? I think my answer should be the latter. I always feel that life is a process, just like our life is climbing a mountain, and the top of the mountain is our destination. Although our destination is the same, we will all return to nature and die, unconscious, unconscious and never act again. This body will turn to ashes at high temperature and can't take anything away, so it will come gently, walk gently and wave its sleeves without taking away a cloud. But if we can see more scenery and experience more feelings on the journey to our destination, will we even make money? Will it be more meaningful than those who choose the comfortable and mediocre road? I think this kind of life is full and truly meaningful.

This may also be the fundamental reason why I choose a different road to the top of the mountain every time I climb the mountain. I'm not sure, but I think my heart knows.

Look at the enterprising spirit of Cao Cao and Liu Bei in the Three Kingdoms period, think about the foresight of Ma Yun and Wang Shi in their career maps now, and look at those around us who want to travel around the world with backpacks. How can we settle for daily necessities and survive? Can you live a good life? Life is about survival? Life is a car and a house? I don't think so. It's time to think about our ideals. It's time to think about what we wanted to do but didn't do. Should we wait until we are old? Wait until your brain fails, and then regret it? I regret not doing it. There was only one result at that time, that is, I did everything I did, and I could never do what I didn't do. Then, while we are young, what reason do we have not to do it?

Now may be a turning point, because I have been busy making a living and working hard for my parents and family to get rid of poverty. After four years of struggle, the burden on parents for many years has finally been reduced or even disappeared, so that they no longer worry about the burden of life and begin to run towards a well-off life. It is inevitable that there will be a little contentment and ease, but this is a very low stage after all, and my family and I have just got rid of poverty. Compared with those great men with ideals, these people are not even qualified for comparison, and they have not even reached the starting line. If I start to be comfortable now, my life is doomed to be mediocre, without color, applause and recognition. At least my pursuit and ideal have not been realized, so how can I say that I am happy?

I still have to say to myself, young man, now is just the beginning, a beginning to pursue my ideals and pursuits. It's not too late to act. In the future, you will be old, inflexible and become a mass of ashes. You can't take anything away, and you can't leave anything behind. You can only watch the road you have traveled in your life and do countless things just like watching a good movie.

Two years after junior high school, I realized that I should be admitted to senior high school in the third grade, so I began to study until the early hours of the morning; After graduating from high school and entering the society, there is no ideal in life and no direction. When I was idle for a year and made up my mind to do something, I began to learn and fainted. Those difficulties and others' ridicule are exchanged for continuous learning. In exchange, I work at the age of 20 and earn over 10,000 yuan a month at the age of 22. At the age of 24, I helped my family solve the house and children, including my lifelong events, so that my parents had no burden.

This is just a great thing for a little firefly under the bright moon and those great people, but I realized the family happiness I wanted four years ago, and then it was a brand-new beginning, a new beginning to pursue my ideals. Act immediately.

By the way, there's another one, but I'm only 24 years old now. Although I haven't made any great career, I still have time that great people don't have.

I want to say to myself, young man, keep walking, keep writing your own legend, and don't stop.

God may have doomed me to have an extraordinary life. I think it might be. Who knows what kind of scenery I will have when I reach the age of 30?

Is the autumn wind bleak or fruitful? I don't know, but I will keep trying.

3.

I believe in the meaning of hard work more than anyone else.

Text/easy letter

I met a high school classmate by chance last year. She hasn't seen me for five years since she graduated from high school. In her words, "it's really a surprise."

I don't know why she was surprised. Because five years ago, I was a careless person, a "madman" with elephant legs and a bucket waist, and a "little fat girl" with poor taste in clothes. I haven't read any books, and I get nervous every time I read a study report in front of the whole class, and the word "connotation" has never bypassed me.

Four years in college, one year as a graduate student and one year's hard work finally paid off in her "surprise" and incredible eyes.

Hard work is not hard, but after all, it is by strict exercise day after day to maintain weight. I lost nearly 30 pounds in the first three months, and finally maintained a healthy and stable level after rebounding once. My friends love to ask me about my weight loss experience and partial weight loss's secret. When I think about it carefully, every method can be called a secret. The key is to be hard on yourself. At that time, there were few college classes and amazing willpower. There was nothing to delay and nothing to be lazy about. Spring, summer, autumn and winter, at 6 o'clock in the morning, the plastic runway of the school walked round and round, and the vitality that rushed out from the bottom of my heart turned out to be a floor.

There are many nights when the campus is shrouded in noise. Everyone is either laughing their heads off watching entertainment programs or dating their boyfriends downstairs. Their corner can only be shrouded in silence. Sometimes I will do a long yoga "hero" action on the balcony or do a long "handstand" on the bed. Sometimes listening to music, sometimes reading, but more time is silent, just changing little by little.

What losing weight has taught me is actually a very simple thing, but how to become a better self. But at the same time, it is a very difficult thing, because it requires strong self-control and self-discipline without any external coercion. I realized that persistence is just repeating a small thing day after day. Running, yoga, and all the other little things. This little thing may not be as relaxing and enjoyable as coming to Taobao, nor as enjoyable as coming to Weibo, but as long as we persist and repeat it day after day, it is not a long process from quantitative change to qualitative change, as long as we have enough patience. Like, in the eyes of others, I will never lose weight. It only took me three months to succeed.

Later, I took the postgraduate entrance examination and chose an unattainable prestigious school. Other people's disbelief is similar to when they say, "Look at her fat, she doesn't even have a waist." When will she lose weight? "Later, I got up at six o'clock every day, sat in the deserted study room for a whole day, walked back to the dormitory at eleven o'clock, and read books in the all-night study room of the dormitory. Hundreds of late nights, the school path was empty. The doorman helped me illuminate a short circuit with a flashlight. He said, "Little girl, why are you not afraid of the dark alone?" I silently shook my head and just wanted to say that I am not afraid of the dark, the cold, the long journey, or the death of a horse. I am afraid that I have wasted my time and years. Later, I met other people's expectations and was heartbroken with my dreams, but I was lucky enough. The second time I chose to adjust smoothly, and finally I got a good grade.

Looking back on that time, I am still grateful. Time flies, so no matter what the road ahead is, there is only one desperate and hearty effort, as if all my blood and tears have been exhausted. Those words written by my friend are still in my notebook. She said, "We use the best years of our lives as collateral to guarantee a dream that will be laughed at if we say it." That winter will never be forgotten, and it was dark in the middle of the night, but I think the road ahead is long, the future can be expected, and all my dreams are clear and bright. It seems that only this time, I feel that my gloomy and narrow heart is full of hope, and a whole magnificent world is waiting for me to look back eagerly.

Over the years, through reading practice and organizing community activities, many weaknesses have been gradually overcome. I won a small place in the math competition, instead of being frankly sent a message by the math teacher in high school, "How can I save you, your math!" " People who are afraid of math and death. Taking part in speeches, writing poems and reciting, I was finally able to speak calmly in front of thousands of people. Read more and write more, observe and ponder bit by bit, let yourself find a place outside soap operas and entertainment news, and accumulate spiritual thickness flatly. Planning a rehearsal program for the party, sitting in the audience waiting for the curtain call on New Year's Eve, when applause and laughter fluctuated around me, I thought, ah, I can do such a thing myself. Growth does take hours. Others strive to get what they can get, but the feeling of increasing abundance is so memorable, and it is also such a diary that can be written in a rich and practical way.

My college roommate, from a poor county in China, lives halfway up the mountain and has a weak cell phone signal. My mother died young, and all four sisters in the family, except her, dropped out of school early to work in the south, and paid their tuition by student loans. All the living expenses come from odd jobs. In my shallow eyes, I only think that she has really experienced the hardships of life. At the beginning of the university, girls feel particularly inferior and seldom speak. They often hide in the crowd without making a sound, and their expressions are full of timidity. Now she has graduated and works in a well-known foreign company in Shenzhen. She has a good salary, proper makeup and elegant posture. She is often called "white". But only I can see her change step by step in recent years. How to work hard to get a stomachache, how to cry all night and fight hard again, how to stay up late and study smoothly, how to read one book after another generously, how to win the praise of the whole class as a monitor, how to lead our class to successfully break through the excellent class of the school, and even how to learn makeup methods little by little to create perfect makeup for the interview. In fact, transformation is not an easy task. To get out of the "safety zone" of your personality, you really need to seriously reflect and improve step by step after layers of struggle and failure. But if there is a contrast between a freshman and a graduate student, she must have changed from a little girl who looks a little shivering to an intellectual girl who shines all over. Sometimes I like to play jokes on her: "Wow, what's it like to be promoted to white plum!" " Tears suddenly welled up in my eyes: "So many years of insecurity finally landed. I am most happy that I finally have the strength to protect my family. " Of course, only I know that she endured a warm and beautiful home with bright lights all the way from that desolate mountain.

I believe in the meaning of hard work more than anyone else, because people are born unequal and the world is so cruel. But this does not mean that struggle and change are meaningless, because it is the most effective way to jump out of the narrow life and leave the poor environment. I have read a passage by Jiang before. She said: "I have no complaints about the cruelty of society, but I am curious. I want to follow' cruelty' to find its suffering, its parents and its thick roots. I want to go upstream and look forward to the source of great suffering, such as the most magnificent scenery in the world. Do you dare? Are you coming? "

In fact, I wrote this article because friends have been very gloomy at parties recently. The article "It's hard to give birth to a noble child in a cold door" written by HR of the bank made us nervous during our internship in the bank, and the panic that was penetrated in minutes defeated the mature and cautious pace of pretending to be desperate. It seems that more than ten years of hard study at the cold window have been in vain, and a thick stack of professional books has been lost to a deposit slip. The word "resources" shattered all the great ambitions when reading. In addition, the tragedy of the bank's cabinet was confided by the friends, and the sadness of the account manager was spit out by the friends. All struggling youths end in such a pale posture, and all passions will be exhausted by trivial things. Thinking of this, my heart suddenly cooled down in such a hot summer.

But I still believe in the meaning of hard work more than anyone else. Although I have worked hard for so long, I still can't afford luxury goods, and I can't go to Blue Island for a leisurely holiday. I can even foresee my anxiety about commuting by bus in the future and my ordinary life still submerged in daily necessities. However, the simple four words "strive hard" let my eyes cross the dusty small county and reach a broader and boundless world. Even, it has fulfilled all my humble dreams, whether it's "being admitted to university" in primary school, "being skinny" in high school or "publishing articles in magazines" in university, and "traveling around Qian Shan" for graduate students is now on the way. I also believe that it will fulfill more humble dreams and take me to the dream world.

It seems that all the grandeur will turn into waves, and all the gongs and drums will be silent. Passionate youth goes all the way with its mighty momentum, leaving only redundancy, dryness, triviality and heat that are difficult to resolve in ordinary life. But I still want to find the blood flowing in my youth, ask for an explanation in the cruel world, and bravely fight against the tortuous road of life.

Because I believe in the meaning of hard work more than anyone else.

According to the tradition of "fate has never given me what I want most" for more than 20 years, I may eventually be depressed and disappointed. But at least you can yell at your grandson when telling a story: "Although your grandmother is a fool, she didn't waste any youth!" "