I am anxious because I am single and 30+.

Sister F said that her biggest anxiety at present is 30+, no one.

She was 28 when I met her. Beautiful people, sales, courage.

When she had her own small house and decorated the room, I accompanied her, thinking that I wish I had a house.

When getting along with colleagues, she hates iron as much as her brothers and sisters, always thinking of others, but she can't get along well with her good intentions.

Later, I was able to digest the trivial things at work and make myself comfortable.

It's just that being unmarried and single has become her biggest panic at present.

Every time I go home, my mother always says a few words and arranges blind dates.

At first, she refused. She has always thought that the person has not met, and the feelings promoted by external forces may not last long.

Later, when she was over 30 years old, her family was not in a hurry, just a little anxious.

Unmarried people are advocating the freedom of celibacy, but those who really want to get married but reach the age of leftover women are very anxious.

Going home during the Spring Festival, there is basically no blind date, because there are too few unmarried people in the countryside. As long as someone introduces you, you will see. Not as picky as before. It's about looks, temper, whether you have a house or a car.

She said: I am not so picky now because my elderly parents want to reassure them; Second, it is dangerous for girls to have children when they are older.

She said it doesn't matter whether there is love now, as long as you are not bored. Even if they live apart, even if they are married.

She quit her sales job, got a job as an accountant and began to study accounting, so that she could develop into a job suitable for marriage.

She said that although I was still in a hurry, it was always useless for that person not to worry.

When waiting for him, I can only make myself look like I'm getting married.

02

I am very anxious, because at the age of 30, I have no family and no career.

On the one hand, I always want to be stable. My friends around me are either married or successful. I am always half a beat behind others. Although it is not too bad compared with most people at this stage, and it is not so lonely to find the same kind, it is fucking terrible to lie in bed at night and think about it.

It is said that standing at thirty, seeing nearly thirty, has accomplished nothing.

I chatted with Hadron a few days ago, and he talked about his current state. Insomnia has become a habit.

He graduated from graduate school. Before graduation, he had a good job and his job was stable.

Because my family is ordinary, I made up my mind to study hard and change my family at school. I thought that finding a good job after graduation would reduce the pressure on my parents and I could be proud of it. Communicate with others on an equal footing and help others solve unsolvable problems. He said that he knew this was inferiority complex, because only in this way could he work harder and others see his own existence and different values.

In the company, as in school, he is more diligent than anyone else. Although the salary in this floating city is not small, it is not enough to support A Zheng to float in this city and live a little easier. He may not be able to afford a car or a house in five years, and even his elderly parents will try to pay the down payment.

I talked about a girlfriend before, and the girl didn't prepare psychologically when she wanted to get married, and then she separated. Now parents call all day to urge their blind date to get married. He is not looking for it unintentionally, but always feels that many things are beyond his power.

03

I am anxious because I am short of money and love.

Xiaobei said: There is a kind of anxiety, that is, lack of money and love.

She talked about her first job, sitting in the office playing games, answering the phone and taking notes every day. More money and less work, but she doesn't want to waste her youth. Later, I jumped to a company and found my own employment direction, but after several years, I found that my level was not a little worse than that of my peers. Various studies have been carried out, but no results have been achieved so far.

At the age of 2067, talking about ideals can't feed my stomach and my life. Just as the rent is due, I want to find another rented house, and the idea of buying a house is getting stronger and stronger. Look through all the bank cards, and there is very little deposit.

I talked about a boyfriend. Both of them are old enough to get married, but they always feel less important in their boyfriends' hearts.

Thinking of all kinds of things, she is as anxious and flustered as a dog trying to get rid of the shadow or chasing its tail in circles.

Money should be earned bit by bit and feelings should be deepened step by step.

Eat hot tofu bit by bit, or it will burn and taste bad.

04

You are anxious, but will you save yourself?

People who are anxious at this stage, like Shennong, have tasted all kinds of anxiety, study, work, life, love, marriage and education of children. Often anxiety is something we are not sure and can't control. We will feel anxious, afraid and insecure about these "uncontrollable" things.

Don't run away, learn to deal with it and learn to save yourself.

There are high and low levels of work, so take action and get into work!

I don't think I'm fat. Exercise to lose weight and practice vest line!

If you are afraid of screwing everything up, then solve things step by step and accumulate and improve your ability as much as possible!

You can earn money, but you can't save money. If you still have no savings after graduation for a few years, then study financial planning well!

Always worry that your boyfriend doesn't love you, then try to make yourself better, either let him love you deeply or let him go!

Ah, ah, ah.

Take the initiative before anxiety controls you; After anxiety controls you, learn to relieve it and get rid of it.

A lot of stress is external. The more you think, the stronger and more anxious you feel about controlling your life.

That's it, get out, anxious sir!

author

Miss Bei Kui, head of human resources, is a psychology enthusiast. I like writing, I like outdoor, I have a little attitude and a little faith, I want to live like a poem, I don't lose my feelings in life. Inspiring to be a slash youth with literary strength.