If you want to talk about fate, this is too big. You were born on the earth, and you were born as a person, not a plant. This is also part of your destiny. Get rid of the impossible completely Your birth, your past, that's a fact that can't be changed. What can be changed is today and the future.

I think what you want to ask is how to change your life. This is feasible.

A firm belief is the premise. People who have no faith can do nothing, because nothing can fail to meet resistance and setbacks. You need a firm belief to support you forever.

After that, be strict with yourself, don't make excuses for yourself, and don't compare with people who are not as good as yourself. For example, if you want to eat snacks during weight loss, make an excuse for yourself: a snack doesn't have many calories, so I can ignore it. Don't let this happen in your life, because your unhappy situation is often related to this kind of "neglect"

Look at things around you with a tolerant heart. People with broad vision will not be jealous and haggle over every ounce, let alone judge others by their own standards. Acknowledge and accept individual differences. This is very important, because it will pave the way for your success, not make enemies. Seeking common ground while reserving differences will accumulate many good karma.

Finally, what you can give up is what you can get. According to the law of conservation of energy, you get an energy, which means that something must be done. In other words, you must have consumed another kind of energy. Don't think about a successful career, a harmonious family, successful children, good health, and being young and beautiful. . . . . You have all these wonderful things in the world. People's time and energy are limited, which is part of fate and you can't change it. If you want to live a long life, you must give up your efforts; If you want to devote yourself to scientific research, you must reduce your reunion with your family; To travel around the world, you can't take care of your elderly parents; If you want to be in good shape, you can't be greedy. In short, you have to figure out what you really can't give up. Once you decide, do it, and you won't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Every successful person, in fact, they also have such regrets, because they have made a choice. However, what outsiders see is mostly what they get.